lior
02-02-17, 23:09
I used to feel this way about my mum. If things were not good with her, I would feel not good. My emotions would mirror her emotions. I couldn't feel happy if she wasn't happy.
I have a new boyfriend. Just now I felt it for the first time with him - an inability to feel ok without him being ok. He's closed himself off to me in a text conversation that's too complicated to be having over text, and we'll pick it up in person.
I don't want to go down the path of following someone else's emotions around again. I've just had therapy today so I won't be able to pick this up until next week with my therapist.
It's over-empathising, and taking too much responsibility for another human. I have to manage my own emotions first. He's emotionally up and down, like my mum is. He's so affected by his emotions - just like me, and just like my mum. Having two people made of emotion is too much. I'm less made of emotion than I used to be, and more balanced... but he is challenging me. I work better romantically with people who are even tempered, who steady me.
I'm scared. The closer I get to a lover, the greater their capacity to hurt me.
How can I protect myself from being so affected by the emotions of another person?
I have a new boyfriend. Just now I felt it for the first time with him - an inability to feel ok without him being ok. He's closed himself off to me in a text conversation that's too complicated to be having over text, and we'll pick it up in person.
I don't want to go down the path of following someone else's emotions around again. I've just had therapy today so I won't be able to pick this up until next week with my therapist.
It's over-empathising, and taking too much responsibility for another human. I have to manage my own emotions first. He's emotionally up and down, like my mum is. He's so affected by his emotions - just like me, and just like my mum. Having two people made of emotion is too much. I'm less made of emotion than I used to be, and more balanced... but he is challenging me. I work better romantically with people who are even tempered, who steady me.
I'm scared. The closer I get to a lover, the greater their capacity to hurt me.
How can I protect myself from being so affected by the emotions of another person?