little mutt
17-04-07, 19:06
Hi Everyone,:)
I am new to this website but hope you may be able to help me. I turned 40 this year but I still feel like a child. I have had anxiety/panic attacks for the past 9 years. In the beginning I was agoraphobic and couldn't even get out of my front door. After a lot of hard work, CBT and help from various people I can now get out and about, hold down 3 part time jobs and live a fairly normal life.The problem I have is that I can only do all these things if I know that my 'safety people' are close at hand. That is my parents and my husband. I can go out to town/supermarket etc if my husband is at home, if he is at work I can still do these things as long as my parents are at their house ( they live 5 minutes away) BUT if they all need to go out at the same time, that's when I panic. I really want to get over this final hurdle, but for me it's a big one !! Does anyone have any ideas on how I can cut the apron strings and get my independance back. I feel so guilty that my anxiety controls the lives of other people as well as me. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
I am new to this website but hope you may be able to help me. I turned 40 this year but I still feel like a child. I have had anxiety/panic attacks for the past 9 years. In the beginning I was agoraphobic and couldn't even get out of my front door. After a lot of hard work, CBT and help from various people I can now get out and about, hold down 3 part time jobs and live a fairly normal life.The problem I have is that I can only do all these things if I know that my 'safety people' are close at hand. That is my parents and my husband. I can go out to town/supermarket etc if my husband is at home, if he is at work I can still do these things as long as my parents are at their house ( they live 5 minutes away) BUT if they all need to go out at the same time, that's when I panic. I really want to get over this final hurdle, but for me it's a big one !! Does anyone have any ideas on how I can cut the apron strings and get my independance back. I feel so guilty that my anxiety controls the lives of other people as well as me. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.