jenni89
25-02-17, 19:25
My mother passed away in 2014, and I keep having these really horrible dreams about her. I usually wake up crying and it sticks with me all day long. I guess this post is designed for people who might be going through or have been through something similar?
My mom passed away from cancer. I typically have these dreams where the setting is in a past house. One dream type is where she is diagnosed with cancer, and shows no symptoms whatsoever for months. I start to question in my dream, should she go to the doctor to see if maybe it is just gone? Why isn't she showing any symptoms if the doctor said she only had six months to live? I guess these are the better of the dreams, because my mom is her normal self.
Another dream type is my mom ill as can be. She spends most of the time in bed, and I come home from work or whatever errands I am running to the stress of the inevitable. It's like, I know she is going to pass away, but am not sure when and I do not want to be alone with her when it happens.
Last night in particular I had a dream that she was in bed for 3 days straight. I had not seen her or checked on her and I was having a conversation with my brothers who also said they hadn't gone into her room to check on her. It was bizarre, but I was almost afraid to go in there. I knew she hadn't eaten or anything. We finally went in there and she was about to pass away. I had this thought like "why didn't I come in here sooner, and bring her a little something to eat or see if she needed help with anything?" "I am going to regret this when she passes away" Another bizarre incident is in my dream, she had already passed away once. I didn't wanna have to go through it all again, I just wanted to get it all over with. As terrible as this sounds, I was just wishing I could go back to after she passed away the first time because it was so much stress having to deal with it all again.
After these dreams, I wake up crying. It sticks with me all day, and I am not sure why it happens so frequently. It's been a few years, and time has definitely helped me heal. Of course that doesn't necessarily mean I do not miss her from time to time. But i am not as hung up on it as when it was fresh. I hate the fact that I have these dreams where I am literally thinking "I just want her to die already." It sounds so horrible! What does this mean?! Is anyone in a similar boat?
My mom passed away from cancer. I typically have these dreams where the setting is in a past house. One dream type is where she is diagnosed with cancer, and shows no symptoms whatsoever for months. I start to question in my dream, should she go to the doctor to see if maybe it is just gone? Why isn't she showing any symptoms if the doctor said she only had six months to live? I guess these are the better of the dreams, because my mom is her normal self.
Another dream type is my mom ill as can be. She spends most of the time in bed, and I come home from work or whatever errands I am running to the stress of the inevitable. It's like, I know she is going to pass away, but am not sure when and I do not want to be alone with her when it happens.
Last night in particular I had a dream that she was in bed for 3 days straight. I had not seen her or checked on her and I was having a conversation with my brothers who also said they hadn't gone into her room to check on her. It was bizarre, but I was almost afraid to go in there. I knew she hadn't eaten or anything. We finally went in there and she was about to pass away. I had this thought like "why didn't I come in here sooner, and bring her a little something to eat or see if she needed help with anything?" "I am going to regret this when she passes away" Another bizarre incident is in my dream, she had already passed away once. I didn't wanna have to go through it all again, I just wanted to get it all over with. As terrible as this sounds, I was just wishing I could go back to after she passed away the first time because it was so much stress having to deal with it all again.
After these dreams, I wake up crying. It sticks with me all day, and I am not sure why it happens so frequently. It's been a few years, and time has definitely helped me heal. Of course that doesn't necessarily mean I do not miss her from time to time. But i am not as hung up on it as when it was fresh. I hate the fact that I have these dreams where I am literally thinking "I just want her to die already." It sounds so horrible! What does this mean?! Is anyone in a similar boat?