MeglouH
27-05-17, 22:47
Hi I haven't posted before but I need help. My partner suffers from anxiety and depression. It can often be hard to deal with. Example I can say one thing and he will be cool with it, 4 hours later he hates me and all I do is wrong :(
So today I have got back from holiday with my own children (took them straight to their dads after) and I miss them terribly. He just banged on about how little gits they are and what about him and I don't show him any love or give him time or show want (every evening of our holiday I called him to check in)!
I explained I would be worn out and he made me feel guilty for not seeing him the moment I got back and him and his son stay at my house. So I had no choice (or felt like it) and let them stay. I didn't sleep well and woke up still tired and not feel well. He was happy and him and his son knew I didn't feel well so we watched a film and chilled out and he said go nap this afternoon. So we did our errands and I come back to take the nap he insisted I take. When I wake up he is awful. He says I am causing him to feel anxious and I don't understand and he says such cruel things about my children sometimes and I never say anything to his. He said that I don't understand and I haven made them feel welcome. In thirty I don't feel welcome in my own bloody house!!
It's like I can't say anything right and I just get told I'm thick and hat I don't understand and that I cause the anxiety. When I explained I'd be tired ans I didn't feel well and he said he understand and he would look after me then he turns around and says it all my fault and acts distant and moody and tries to pick arguments. He also doesn't let things drop even though me have discussed them and resolves things. My ex did the same and it torn us up. I'm a believer of it's fine resolved and passed. I try to say something it's like he hears all he wants to hear then snaps before he lets me finish what I'm saying. I feel like I can't win and it's getting to a point where I'm worried about saying the wrong thing intact I'm worrying to speak at all. But then I'll get called unsupportive :(
Any advice?
So today I have got back from holiday with my own children (took them straight to their dads after) and I miss them terribly. He just banged on about how little gits they are and what about him and I don't show him any love or give him time or show want (every evening of our holiday I called him to check in)!
I explained I would be worn out and he made me feel guilty for not seeing him the moment I got back and him and his son stay at my house. So I had no choice (or felt like it) and let them stay. I didn't sleep well and woke up still tired and not feel well. He was happy and him and his son knew I didn't feel well so we watched a film and chilled out and he said go nap this afternoon. So we did our errands and I come back to take the nap he insisted I take. When I wake up he is awful. He says I am causing him to feel anxious and I don't understand and he says such cruel things about my children sometimes and I never say anything to his. He said that I don't understand and I haven made them feel welcome. In thirty I don't feel welcome in my own bloody house!!
It's like I can't say anything right and I just get told I'm thick and hat I don't understand and that I cause the anxiety. When I explained I'd be tired ans I didn't feel well and he said he understand and he would look after me then he turns around and says it all my fault and acts distant and moody and tries to pick arguments. He also doesn't let things drop even though me have discussed them and resolves things. My ex did the same and it torn us up. I'm a believer of it's fine resolved and passed. I try to say something it's like he hears all he wants to hear then snaps before he lets me finish what I'm saying. I feel like I can't win and it's getting to a point where I'm worried about saying the wrong thing intact I'm worrying to speak at all. But then I'll get called unsupportive :(
Any advice?