Lenia
10-06-17, 11:17
Hi
I'm Lenia, mother of 3 and I've been with my husband for 17 years. His whole family suffers with anxiety and it has obviously damaged our relationship.
We live in avoidance right now because he has too many triggers and because my energy is to my kids.
At some point he was medicated which went so much better but he didn't like the thought that he couldn't manage it on his own. He does not excesses, eat healthy and he smokes weed.
The few social engagement he participates in requires weeks or months of preperation and an argument will come the day off.
I stopped lying as to why he doesn't come to gatherings since it was a source of stress for me.
A simple change in schedule, like do a daycare pick-up, will trigger his anxiety.
I'm not sure how to co-live with this condition. My kids no longer expect him to partake in any of their activities so everything lies on me. I'm tired and tired of seeing his battle with this.
Where can I go for support. I feel like mariage counseling is our next stop but would they focus on his anxiety? How do you live with anxiety? What are your spouse doing to support you? I can't stand the arguments to deal with change or a social event and then, when I let him "win", have to deal with his disappointment.
I don't want to give up but I'm so tired and his decision of dealing with it alone won't work.
Thank you for listening
I'm Lenia, mother of 3 and I've been with my husband for 17 years. His whole family suffers with anxiety and it has obviously damaged our relationship.
We live in avoidance right now because he has too many triggers and because my energy is to my kids.
At some point he was medicated which went so much better but he didn't like the thought that he couldn't manage it on his own. He does not excesses, eat healthy and he smokes weed.
The few social engagement he participates in requires weeks or months of preperation and an argument will come the day off.
I stopped lying as to why he doesn't come to gatherings since it was a source of stress for me.
A simple change in schedule, like do a daycare pick-up, will trigger his anxiety.
I'm not sure how to co-live with this condition. My kids no longer expect him to partake in any of their activities so everything lies on me. I'm tired and tired of seeing his battle with this.
Where can I go for support. I feel like mariage counseling is our next stop but would they focus on his anxiety? How do you live with anxiety? What are your spouse doing to support you? I can't stand the arguments to deal with change or a social event and then, when I let him "win", have to deal with his disappointment.
I don't want to give up but I'm so tired and his decision of dealing with it alone won't work.
Thank you for listening