View Full Version : Worried 5 year old has melanoma
darkside4k
15-06-17, 03:29
About a week and a half ago, my wife noticed a raised red, irritated bump on my daughter's scalp. We took her to the doctor who thought it may be an infected scratch or hemangioma. She gave us antibiotics and cream.
A week and a half later the spot is still there and the same. We go back to daughter who tries to drain it and not a lot comes out. She says if it is not much better in a week she will refer us to a dermatologist. She thought it maybe was a cyst or something.
So here we are. It is apparently not an infected bite otherwise lots of pus would drain out of it. Most of childhood melanoma are not pigmented and have a pink color, like my daughter's spot does.
I see very few possibilities for what this could be other than melanoma to be honest, and it terrifies me. My precious daughter going through chemotherapy at 5 for melanoma. I literally don't know how to even sleep at a time like this.
Not only could it be melanoma, diagnosis is being delayed by incompetent doctors who are just running us around "watching it" for a weeks on end.
walkerbull
15-06-17, 06:21
I think it is a bit of a stretch saying they are delaying your assumed "diagnosis"
I know it is terrifying when dealing with our babies' health. I would be reacting the same way. My son has a red raised blotch on the back of his neck that he was born with, and it used to scare me. He's 4 now, and it's never changed shape or anything, his Drs aren't worried. Plus he was born w it. Your daughter developed this when?
I honestly would try hard to trust her doctor. Her pediatrician has likely seen melanoma, at the VERY LEAST has studied it extensively. Her Dr wouldn't fool around. If she suspected melanoma, I am sure it would be an emergency biopsy. As one parent to another, I wish you some strength to trust that this is nothing catastrophic.
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darkside4k
15-06-17, 12:29
She developed it a few weeks ago. I'm so depressed.
Darkside, just remember your previous "skill" at diagnosing melanoma on your hand. You have ample evidence you have no idea what you're talking about when it comes to melanomas, and jump to conclusions over nothing in this matter.
So while you were right to get it checked out if you're worried, the chance of you being right in your diagnosis over a doctor is, shall we say, very remote. The doctors don't seem to be entertaining that possibility, so neither should you.
darkside4k
15-06-17, 14:56
They aren't concerned because they aren't used to seeing it. It is very rare. A read in one study being diagnosed with melanoma under 15 years of age is around 1 in a million.
They aren't concerned because they aren't used to seeing it. It is very rare. A read in one study being diagnosed with melanoma under 15 years of age is around 1 in a million.
Yet again you're an expert on melanoma who knows better than doctors because you know how to use Google :lac:
How's the hand?
A read in one study being diagnosed with melanoma under 15 years of age is around 1 in a million.
So you admit the chance of this being anything sinister is around 1 in a million? And that doesn't give you any comfort?
She developed it a few weeks ago. I'm so depressed.
I'm not specialist but I know someone who had this (38 y.) but dont you think that few weeks is too fast to be melanoma? In case of my friend it took 2-3 years and there was no doubt at all. I heard that 2-3 y and longer is quite a norm for it. Wish you all good and hope this will be resolved soon!
MyNameIsTerry
15-06-17, 15:56
They aren't concerned because they aren't used to seeing it. It is very rare. A read in one study being diagnosed with melanoma under 15 years of age is around 1 in a million.
I get that more complex & rare things may need certain training or experience but if you mean something that looks like a melanoma but just on someone too young to normally see it then I would expect them to follow it up regardless.
Here is an example. Quite some years ago my mum started having a strange sort of ulcer hole thing appear on her arm which was itchy. Her GP tried to treat it to no avail. He was stumped. He referred her to a dermatologist which means waiting months on the NHS.
Within minutes of the assessment she had an excited dermatologist telling her she had a rare find, a common infestation seen in tropical countries but pretty unusual in the UK. I think it was a 1 in 10,000 case.
It was an parasite found in tropical water that burrows under the skin to lay it's eggs. She deduced it was because we kept tropical fish but said it was very unusual.
Her GP had no clue BUT he still saw something which didn't look right and followed it up. He wasn't put off by the fact it was rare outside of some bloke paddling up the Amazon.
Doctors don't just :shrug: and walk away when they see something that shouldn't be happening.
darkside4k
15-06-17, 16:40
So you admit the chance of this being anything sinister is around 1 in a million? And that doesn't give you any comfort?
No, it has to happen to someone.
No, it has to happen to someone.
Oh, sorry, but FFS. Do you even want to get better from anxiety? Are you happy thinking like this? Do you not see any problem with it? Do you understand how that attitude will affect your family?
So here we have a situation where doctors have shown no indication that something sinister is wrong. However you, Captain Google, have decided you are better and more adept at spotting disease than they are. They are obviously too stupid and remiss, even after their many many years of training, to spot a rare disease. You, on the other hand, with your amazing skill at researching medical symptoms on the Internet, have spotted a literally one in a million chance and cannot understand how it could be anything else, like, say, the benign and unworrying things the doctors think it is.
Your amazing skill at diagnosing melanomas is somehow despite you planning your own funeral a few months ago because of a tiny, indistinct hand speck which proved without a shadow of a doubt that you literally do not know what the hell you're talking about when you talk about melanomas.
You need serious help.
darkside4k
15-06-17, 16:57
No, I'm not happy this way. I'm miserable. I think about my daughter dying of melanoma every waking moment. I can barely work.
No, I'm not happy this way. I'm miserable. I think about my daughter dying of melanoma every waking moment. I can barely work.
You need to recognise this fear is ridiculously irrational, and recognise that you're a layman and your ability to diagnose disease, like all we non-medics, is rubbish. You also need to lose your arrogant dismissal of medical expertise.
You seriously need professional help, please seek it if you're not already.
darkside4k
15-06-17, 19:59
I know it's a rare diagnosis but it's possible. :( ... the spot honestly looks even worse today.
You sound like me 20 years ago. As a guy who is awash in moles, nevi etc, and had a brush with skin cancer, I can tell you, the doctors are not screwing around. I am also telling you, our skin does some fantasically weird crap.
I had a mole that changed very quickly. The doctor took it the same day. I lost my mind, I could even tell the doctor was worried. While waiting for the pathology, I was going so far as to looking up information about experimental treatments for nodular melanoma. I was that far down the hole.
Totally benign, and unexplained. Still no idea what it was, how it started or where it was going, the doctors don't even know.
My point is, just because it looks like a duck to you, does not mean it is a duck, especially when you have never seen a duck. Pictures on the internet don't count. In all seriousness, the thing I had looked EXACTLY like two dozen pictures of nodular melanoma. I was positive. 100%.
I didn't know squat.
bottleblond
15-06-17, 20:46
Darkside
Does the doctor know about your sever health anxiety issues?.
Lisa
Reckon this thread will be closed within a day or so.
I know it's a rare diagnosis but it's possible. :( ... the spot honestly looks even worse today.
I could point out you're three times more likely to get struck by lightning on the way to the doctor's than get that diagnosis, but I'm sure at this point giving you any advice at all is totally pointless.
This message has been deleted by Fishmanpa. Reason: Decided to make some popcorn instead ;)
Good idea :D
ScaredLizard
15-06-17, 22:40
Honestly it sounds like psoriasis or some kind of dermatitis spot. My kids have eczema and get dermatitis all the time. They've had so many red spots on their heads. I'd ditch the shampoo you are using and try something new instead of worrying about cancer
ankietyjoe
15-06-17, 22:46
I know it's a rare diagnosis but it's possible. :( ... the spot honestly looks even worse today.
With respect, you're being ridiculous.
You're also well on the road to transferring your anxiety onto your child.
For the record, I went to see a GP about a bleeding mole 2 years ago, a bleeding mole.
He had no idea what it was, but was 100% certain it wasn't cancerous. They are VERY well versed in looking for the dangerous stuff. A month or two later my bleeding mole fell off and disappeared.
bottleblond
15-06-17, 23:05
I think Darkside is quite a smart Cookie to be fair. He comes on here and posts yet another thread and watches us all begin to get a tad irate not only at him but each other and then he signs out. BRAVO! :yesyes: He doesn't even properly converse with anyone. He will give a one sentence reply if anything and for someone so desperately worried about their child's health, that's utter nonsense. If this or any other threat that the OP posted was genuine, there would be a great deal of conversation going on.
It's ludicrous. It really is.
darkside4k
15-06-17, 23:12
It's not dermatitis. It's very raised, like a tumor or cyst or something, and red. Honestly I feel like I'm about to have a panic attack just thinking about it.
It looks kind of like this. This isn't my daughter it just looks somewhat similar:
http://d.pr/i/TTjdBW
I'm *very* concerned this is melanoma.
bottleblond
15-06-17, 23:16
Darkside. We are not medically qualified. We can't advise on this. You need to see a professional.
Do you actually understand this?.
ScaredLizard
16-06-17, 04:15
It's not dermatitis. It's very raised, like a tumor or cyst or something, and red. Honestly I feel like I'm about to have a panic attack just thinking about it.
It looks kind of like this. This isn't my daughter it just looks somewhat similar:
http://d.pr/i/TTjdBW
I'm *very* concerned this is melanoma.
Dude.....honestly I'm starting to think you are trolling. We aren't doctors. We are giving you what advice we can and you are ignoring it.
I'm very concerned that you are going to pass your anxiety issues to your daughter and she's going to be raised to have this hell as her personal issue too because you aren't keeping your anxiety in check.
Also Dermatitis CAN be raised. My oldest gets red bumps that resemble strawberry birthmarks sometimes.
darkside4k
16-06-17, 06:10
We go on vacation starting tomorrow so there is no way for her to see a dermatologist until we get back which just means more time for the possible melanoma to get deeper. Tonight I just looked at pictures of her and I don't know what I will do if this is melanoma. So depressed.
We go on vacation starting tomorrow so there is no way for her to see a dermatologist until we get back which just means more time for the possible melanoma to get deeper. Tonight I just looked at pictures of her and I don't know what I will do if this is melanoma. So depressed.
Do you actually read any replies, or do you just log in to type "woe is me" every so often? I don't see why you actually post if you don't want any advice.
I'm guessing you're doing absolutely nothing about your totally irrational anxiety? The thing is no-one else can do anything about it but you. You need to make those steps. If you're being honest with us, a poor five year old has a father that is making every blemish or minor medical issue a hysterical nightmare, and not accepting this needs to stop. That will affect her very deeply. Refusing to take action to get better and attack these ridiculous attitudes you have is frankly selfish to the extreme.
Your daughter doesn't have melanoma. It is not a childhood disease. She does have a father with mental illness who needs to get off his arse and do something about it.
I'll be darkside.
No I don't listen to any of the advice any of you give. I'm not interested in your advice just as I'm not interested in discussing my previous dalliances with death. Where's Terry? I need him to step in and tell you all that if you have a problem with my threads you should stop posting on them as previously suggested by the moderators.
Now I'll be me. Idiot. :emot-pinochio:
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I'll be darkside.
No I don't listen to any of the advice any of you give. I'm not interested in your advice just as I'm not interested in discussing my previous dalliances with death. Where's Terry? I need him to step in and tell you all that if you have a problem with my threads you should stop posting on them as previously suggested by the moderators.
Now I'll be me. Idiot. :emot-pinochio:
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My, what a handsome honker you have! :shades:
MyNameIsTerry
16-06-17, 15:30
I'll be darkside.
No I don't listen to any of the advice any of you give. I'm not interested in your advice just as I'm not interested in discussing my previous dalliances with death. Where's Terry? I need him to step in and tell you all that if you have a problem with my threads you should stop posting on them as previously suggested by the moderators.
Now I'll be me. Idiot. :emot-pinochio:
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I can't be arsed at the moment. I've got better things to do.
Given the situation on here right now I would appreciate it if you leave me out of it.
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