Toranaga
18-07-17, 13:15
I dont know if this is the right place to post, but I came here in desperation seeking some sort of comfort or confirmation...:huh:
I am 40+ and have a girlfriend who I... some times love, but sometimes not....
I can have good days of joy and love towards her. But then suddenly I am aware that she is not perfect and has problems with bad facial skin and a voice inside is screaming "How could you possibly stay with her for the rest of your life!? Get out now!"
My feelings for her is totally shut off when I get this anxiety and I have a very hard time beliving that theese are not my true feelings, but my anxiety trying to trick me/protect me from harm because of abandonment issues as a child.
I guess I came here hoping to hear from others who have experienced similar hot/cold feelings and I wonder if it CAN get better!?
In my previous relationship it was the same only I focused on her gaining a little weight instead. I propposed to her in a moment of love, but two weeks later I ended it... ;( Back then I was not aware of my anxiety and now I am seeing a therapist.
But I dont know how long I or my GF can stand this... Can medication help or should I stick with therapy alone??
I am so unhappy right now and feel SO alone with this problem...
I am 40+ and have a girlfriend who I... some times love, but sometimes not....
I can have good days of joy and love towards her. But then suddenly I am aware that she is not perfect and has problems with bad facial skin and a voice inside is screaming "How could you possibly stay with her for the rest of your life!? Get out now!"
My feelings for her is totally shut off when I get this anxiety and I have a very hard time beliving that theese are not my true feelings, but my anxiety trying to trick me/protect me from harm because of abandonment issues as a child.
I guess I came here hoping to hear from others who have experienced similar hot/cold feelings and I wonder if it CAN get better!?
In my previous relationship it was the same only I focused on her gaining a little weight instead. I propposed to her in a moment of love, but two weeks later I ended it... ;( Back then I was not aware of my anxiety and now I am seeing a therapist.
But I dont know how long I or my GF can stand this... Can medication help or should I stick with therapy alone??
I am so unhappy right now and feel SO alone with this problem...