Sparkle1984
21-07-17, 22:57
This evening I caught one of my best online friends lying to me! It was about a fairly trivial subject, too, to do with various online projects we work on together. I had proof he was fibbing, but for a few minutes I played along with the lie, mainly to see if he would admit to it. He went quiet for a while, so then I straight out asked him about it. He still didn't admit to it, so then I said I had proof (computers don't lie!), and he asked me to send it to him, so I sent a screenshot showing he was involved. He then had no choice to admit that it was him, and he also said "oh s***!" so I knew he felt awkward about it.
I wasn't really annoyed with him - I basically laughed it off saying "So I know you were teasing me!" (I said "teasing" instead of "lying" because he sometimes does tease me, but in a fun way, never a nasty way, and I didn't want to sound too harsh by accusing him of lying). I finished up by saying "You don't have to hide secrets from me. I don't tell anyone anything" [about our online projects]. He then replied with his usual "lol"!
I must admit I do feel a little bit hurt though, as I trust him and he has often said to me that he thinks I'm a trustworthy person (he has confided in me about confidential things before). So I'm not sure why he felt it necessary to lie to me on this particular occasion.
I felt a bit stressed out and awkward about the situation, and without really being conscious of what I was doing, I picked my big toe and made it bleed! :(
How do you react if you know that someone you trust has lied to you? Was I right to confront him about it? I'm glad I did, as otherwise I might have ended up stewing over it.
I wasn't really annoyed with him - I basically laughed it off saying "So I know you were teasing me!" (I said "teasing" instead of "lying" because he sometimes does tease me, but in a fun way, never a nasty way, and I didn't want to sound too harsh by accusing him of lying). I finished up by saying "You don't have to hide secrets from me. I don't tell anyone anything" [about our online projects]. He then replied with his usual "lol"!
I must admit I do feel a little bit hurt though, as I trust him and he has often said to me that he thinks I'm a trustworthy person (he has confided in me about confidential things before). So I'm not sure why he felt it necessary to lie to me on this particular occasion.
I felt a bit stressed out and awkward about the situation, and without really being conscious of what I was doing, I picked my big toe and made it bleed! :(
How do you react if you know that someone you trust has lied to you? Was I right to confront him about it? I'm glad I did, as otherwise I might have ended up stewing over it.