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jill
23-05-07, 08:58
The Wooden Bowl



I guarantee you will remember this tale of the Wooden Bowl tomorrow, a week from now, a month from now, a year from now.



A frail old man went to live with his son, daughter-in-law, and four-year old grandson. The old man's hands trembled, his eyesight was blurred, and his step faltered. The family ate together at the table.

But the elderly grandfather's shaky hands and failing sight made eating difficult. Peas rolled off his spoon onto the floor. When he grasped the glass, milk spilled on the tablecloth.

The son and daughter-in-law became irritated with the mess. "We must do something about father," said the son. "I've had enough of his spilled milk, noisy eating, and food on the floor."

So the husband and wife set a small table in the corner. There, Grandfather ate alone while the rest of the family enjoyed dinner. Since Grandfather had broken a dish or two, his food was served in a wooden bowl!

When the family glanced in Grandfather's direction, sometime he had a tear in his eye as he sat alone. Still, the only words the couple had for him were sharp admonitions when he dropped a fork or spilled food.

The four-year-old watched it all in silence.
One evening before supper, the father noticed his son playing with wood scraps on the floor. He asked the child sweetly, "What are you making?"
Just as sweetly, the boy responded, "Oh, I am making a little bowl for you and Mama to eat your food in when I grow up." The four-year-old smiled and went back to work .

The words so struck the parents so that they were speechless. Then tears started to stream down their cheeks. Though no word was spoken, both knew what must be done.
That evening the husband took Grandfather's hand and gently led him back to the family table. For the remainder of his days he ate every meal with the family. And for some reason, neither husband nor wife seemed to care any longer when a fork was dropped, milk spilled, or the tablecloth soiled.

On a positive note, I've learned that, no matter what happens, how bad it seems today, life does go on, and it will be better tomorrow.

I've learned that you can tell a lot about a person by the way he/she
handles four things: a rainy day, the elderly, lost luggage, and tangled Christmas tree lights.

I've learned that, regardless of your relationship with your parents,
you'll miss them when they're gone from your life.

I've learned that making a "living" is not the same thing as making a
"life.."

I've learned that life sometimes gives you a second chance.

I've learned that you shouldn't go through life with a catcher's mitt on both h ands. You need to be able to throw something back.

I've learned that if you pursue happiness, it will elude you. But if
you focus on your family, your friends, the needs of others, your work and doing the very best you can, happiness will find you.

I've learned that whenever I decide something with an open heart, I
usually make the right decision.

I've learned that even when I have pains, I don't have to be one.

I've learned that every day, you should reach out and touch someone.

People love that human touch -- holding hands, a warm hug, or just a
friendly pat on the back.

I've learned that I still have a lot to learn.!

I've learned that you should pass this on to everyone you care about.
I just did.











WISHING YOU ALL WELL

LOVE JILLXX :hugs: :hugs: :hugs:

darkangel
23-05-07, 09:04
Hi Jill
Thanks for sharing that - I have read it somewhere before but it still makes me stop and think..............
Luv darkangel :flowers:

manmoor
23-05-07, 09:04
Thanks Jill we could all learn alot from that hun eh. Thanks xxx

Piglet
23-05-07, 10:58
Jill hun,

Will you post the 'I have learnt' section on the NMP pampflet thread for me mate. Lots of very poignant comments there and what a beautiful story - I love that sort of thing.

Do you know who the author of all the work was if not we can put author unknown but provided by Jill! (I think)!!

Love Piglet :flowers:

Ellen70
23-05-07, 20:37
Thanks for posting that Jill.

My parents are in their late seventies and the reality that I will sooner rather than later have to cope with their passing on frightens me to my soul.

I am feeling like a bad person because at the moment I am too self absorbed with my own anxiety and depression to be thinking about them.

My mother asked me will be going to town to do the shopping someday this week and I muttered something about us going maybe on Thursday. Dad doesn't drive much anymore and so me or my sister or my brother take her the places she needs to go.

When Mom is no longer with me I will more than likely give everything I have to be able to take her to do the week's grocery shopping one more time. But I still put myself first.

I wonder was I always this selfish or is it the anxiety probs and depression that have made me like this?

Eibhlin

jill
23-05-07, 21:07
Hi Piglet,

I don't know who the authour is, this came to me by email from a friend. I have done as you asked, take a look and see if its ok.

I love this sor of thing too, look for them all the time on goolge.

TAKE CARE

LOVE JILLXX

Piglet
23-05-07, 21:15
Ta lovie! :hugs:

Piglet :flowers:

jill
23-05-07, 21:25
Hi Eibhlin,

Please, please, don't be to hard on youself, you are only human and I'm sure you do as much as you can for your parents.

**I wonder was I always this selfish or is it the anxiety probs and depression that have made me like this?**

Wonder no more Eibhlin, you are not selfish at all, this is anxiety talking NOT YOU. You know, in your heart of hearts, you are kind and caring person but at the moment you are dealing with anxiety and depression, trying soooo hard every day to get better.

I have always said that in life its the little things that count, do some little things for your parents, send them flowers with a card, telling them how much you love them, there are cards out there in the shops that say soooo much, they are great, I buy my mum them from time to time.

Your parents know how you are suffering, they love you, they do understand. I know its hard for you but try and do the little things.

You take care

WISHING YOU WELL

LOVE JILLXX