skylight2007
31-05-07, 14:38
:hugs: :hugs: Hiya everyone hope your all well. I have started a creative writing course at the community health centre. for those of you who are not aware, I really believe in writing therapy or journal writing. This form of therapy is just another way of getting in touch with feelings, it can often be powerful as it can bring up many strong emotions. I wrote this piece and wanted to share it here. see what you think.
ANXIETY AND CONTROL
How many of us feel our Anxiety is like an internal bully?
The healing journey of my recovery had a lot to do with control in my life. How we experience control is very personal to each of us. I really wanted to share here how having been brought up with controlling parents, had a major affect on my internal experience of what I call the thoughts of the internal bully.
For most of my younger life, I suffered from low self-confidence, and always feeling as if I was never valued for just being me. Having been criticised for almost everything and never been praised, I always doubted anything I ever did.
During my self development the one voice that bothered me the most and had the most impact on my progression were the thoughts of the intimidator, the thoughts that reminded me, ‘ I am not good enough, I’ll never amount to anything good, I don’t deserve to be happy etc…. The negative thoughts of a powerful emotional abuser… A bully!!!
SELF-SABOTAGE AND THE EMOTIONAL BULLY
Confronting the internal Bully
Making positive steps and overcoming anxiety is very difficult when anxiety is mostly to do with control, controlling our feelings controlling others, feeling responsible for others, etc……… Who did you learn these feelings from? Moreover, how are you sabotaging your recovery?
Ever tried to make a plan to do something positive, only to have those negative thoughts and feelings telling you to be afraid, stopping you from doing what you need to do to get back your independence and feel good about yourself.
Every time you challenge your internal bully, you dis empower those beliefs and you replace them with your own sense of strength. In other words, in life, you would never let someone insult you, or put you down; you would defend yourself and stand up for yourself. The internal Bully has a knack of always controlling your thoughts and feelings, each time you want to do something better for yourself. Isn’t that what control is mostly all about, to stop you from thinking and believing in yourself? Creating doubts in your mind, trying to sabotage the good efforts you want to achieve by making you feel your not good enough, taking away your confidence etc……………..taking away your right to be and feel free from fear!!
Think of this, a bully never picks on someone who they believe is stronger.
By changing your beliefs, staying firm and positive, never backing down, no matter how hard it will be at first, you are letting go of control and anxiety, a bully you no longer need in your life!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Love Sky:hugs: :flowers:
ANXIETY AND CONTROL
How many of us feel our Anxiety is like an internal bully?
The healing journey of my recovery had a lot to do with control in my life. How we experience control is very personal to each of us. I really wanted to share here how having been brought up with controlling parents, had a major affect on my internal experience of what I call the thoughts of the internal bully.
For most of my younger life, I suffered from low self-confidence, and always feeling as if I was never valued for just being me. Having been criticised for almost everything and never been praised, I always doubted anything I ever did.
During my self development the one voice that bothered me the most and had the most impact on my progression were the thoughts of the intimidator, the thoughts that reminded me, ‘ I am not good enough, I’ll never amount to anything good, I don’t deserve to be happy etc…. The negative thoughts of a powerful emotional abuser… A bully!!!
SELF-SABOTAGE AND THE EMOTIONAL BULLY
Confronting the internal Bully
Making positive steps and overcoming anxiety is very difficult when anxiety is mostly to do with control, controlling our feelings controlling others, feeling responsible for others, etc……… Who did you learn these feelings from? Moreover, how are you sabotaging your recovery?
Ever tried to make a plan to do something positive, only to have those negative thoughts and feelings telling you to be afraid, stopping you from doing what you need to do to get back your independence and feel good about yourself.
Every time you challenge your internal bully, you dis empower those beliefs and you replace them with your own sense of strength. In other words, in life, you would never let someone insult you, or put you down; you would defend yourself and stand up for yourself. The internal Bully has a knack of always controlling your thoughts and feelings, each time you want to do something better for yourself. Isn’t that what control is mostly all about, to stop you from thinking and believing in yourself? Creating doubts in your mind, trying to sabotage the good efforts you want to achieve by making you feel your not good enough, taking away your confidence etc……………..taking away your right to be and feel free from fear!!
Think of this, a bully never picks on someone who they believe is stronger.
By changing your beliefs, staying firm and positive, never backing down, no matter how hard it will be at first, you are letting go of control and anxiety, a bully you no longer need in your life!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Love Sky:hugs: :flowers: