Bd1990
06-09-17, 09:56
Hello everyone, first post here.
I am 27 and feel that i have been suffering from all the above for a few years now.
Im not sure where it all began but its been a tough 8 years since my parents divorced. It was a bad divorce, i had to go to court as mum had accused dad of assault and i supported my dad when it looked like no one else was. I then didnt speak to my mum for 2 years until i had to move back in with her due to my dad not being able to pay rent, it came out last year that he has been a gambling addict since the divorce and lost £120,000 since 2009. During that time i lent him £5,000 and had to constantly keep it a secret from everyone, i had a few counselling sessions as it got too much at times feeling like i was responsible for him.
In general i just feel like at 27 i am behind where i should be, only have £4,500 in savings and still living at home with my girlfriend and her dad, we are currently saving for deposit. I dont have many friends, i got out every 3 or 4 weeks and just feel like i lack so much confidence in myself.
I passed my driving test in 2010 but decided i did not need To drive and since the beginning of the year i have said to myself i need to get in the car and drive but i just cant bring myself to do it, i know once i get back in a car ill be fine but my self confidence at the minute is so low.
I havent seen a GP before about this but wondering maybe if its something i should do. I just want to feel happy and confident about my own life and i just feel i havent felt that way in a long time.
Just sharing how i feel if anyone has any thoughts or advice on how to get past this anxiety and lack of confidence that would be a big help thanks
I am 27 and feel that i have been suffering from all the above for a few years now.
Im not sure where it all began but its been a tough 8 years since my parents divorced. It was a bad divorce, i had to go to court as mum had accused dad of assault and i supported my dad when it looked like no one else was. I then didnt speak to my mum for 2 years until i had to move back in with her due to my dad not being able to pay rent, it came out last year that he has been a gambling addict since the divorce and lost £120,000 since 2009. During that time i lent him £5,000 and had to constantly keep it a secret from everyone, i had a few counselling sessions as it got too much at times feeling like i was responsible for him.
In general i just feel like at 27 i am behind where i should be, only have £4,500 in savings and still living at home with my girlfriend and her dad, we are currently saving for deposit. I dont have many friends, i got out every 3 or 4 weeks and just feel like i lack so much confidence in myself.
I passed my driving test in 2010 but decided i did not need To drive and since the beginning of the year i have said to myself i need to get in the car and drive but i just cant bring myself to do it, i know once i get back in a car ill be fine but my self confidence at the minute is so low.
I havent seen a GP before about this but wondering maybe if its something i should do. I just want to feel happy and confident about my own life and i just feel i havent felt that way in a long time.
Just sharing how i feel if anyone has any thoughts or advice on how to get past this anxiety and lack of confidence that would be a big help thanks