Ellen70
11-06-07, 12:17
Hello everyone.
I really don't know how to express what I want to say here, but here goes.
I moved into a new house in October 2005. It is a small house in a little terrace of six with a communal front and back outside areas. I was on the council housing list for years to get a 'permanent' home, as I would never get a mortgage due to erratic job history and low income.
However when I move into the house I had been having a really bad time with depression and this got worse as the months wore on. My anxiety was bad as well and I literally shut myself away and stayed in bed all day with the blackout blinds shut and ear plugs in my ears. I deliberately went out of my way to avoid any contact with my new neighbours and with people in the small village that I live in.
Now it is 20 months later and through a good psychiatrist and the right meds I have come out of the depression and am working on the anxiety.
I really would like to socialise again and would like to get to know my neighbours but I don't have a clue how to do it. How do I make friends? Here in webland it is easy to talk to people but 'reality' is totally different. Over the last few weeks I have made an effort to say 'hello' and smile each time I see one of my neighbours but they just say hello back. They can't be blamed as I didn't interact with them since we moved into these houses and I know they think I am odd or a snob.
I tried looking to meet people in my locality through dating and friendship sites but I live in a very rural area and there are few people on the net from here.
My sister is my only 'real' contact with the world but she works full time and has four children and hardly any spare time.
I was thinking of inviting the 5 people from the other houses in the terrace to my place for tea/drinks but I don't think I would have the courage to do it.
Would a personal ad in the local newspaper be an strange thing to do? I am looking for friends in the platonic sense, people to socialise with.
Boyfriends are a far off dream, I don't think it is fair to impose my depression and anxiety problems on another person. Besides that I am uncomfortable with intimacy.
I have babbled on for longer that I intended but if anyone has any ideas/advice then I would be grateful to hear them.
Kind wishes
Eibhlin
I really don't know how to express what I want to say here, but here goes.
I moved into a new house in October 2005. It is a small house in a little terrace of six with a communal front and back outside areas. I was on the council housing list for years to get a 'permanent' home, as I would never get a mortgage due to erratic job history and low income.
However when I move into the house I had been having a really bad time with depression and this got worse as the months wore on. My anxiety was bad as well and I literally shut myself away and stayed in bed all day with the blackout blinds shut and ear plugs in my ears. I deliberately went out of my way to avoid any contact with my new neighbours and with people in the small village that I live in.
Now it is 20 months later and through a good psychiatrist and the right meds I have come out of the depression and am working on the anxiety.
I really would like to socialise again and would like to get to know my neighbours but I don't have a clue how to do it. How do I make friends? Here in webland it is easy to talk to people but 'reality' is totally different. Over the last few weeks I have made an effort to say 'hello' and smile each time I see one of my neighbours but they just say hello back. They can't be blamed as I didn't interact with them since we moved into these houses and I know they think I am odd or a snob.
I tried looking to meet people in my locality through dating and friendship sites but I live in a very rural area and there are few people on the net from here.
My sister is my only 'real' contact with the world but she works full time and has four children and hardly any spare time.
I was thinking of inviting the 5 people from the other houses in the terrace to my place for tea/drinks but I don't think I would have the courage to do it.
Would a personal ad in the local newspaper be an strange thing to do? I am looking for friends in the platonic sense, people to socialise with.
Boyfriends are a far off dream, I don't think it is fair to impose my depression and anxiety problems on another person. Besides that I am uncomfortable with intimacy.
I have babbled on for longer that I intended but if anyone has any ideas/advice then I would be grateful to hear them.
Kind wishes
Eibhlin