Has anyone had a mole thats ticked all the right boxes for melanoma but came back fin

[Mrs overthinker]

Hi everyone,

First post and driving myself mad with my health anxiety to the point I have convinced myself i have skin cancer!

Dam Dr Google!!

I have had a mole on my shoulder blade for a year (could of been longer) but it feels slightly hard like a blackhead? If ingored it while dealing with other stresses and this week I have been homing back in on the mole.

I feel like whatever I'm doing I can always feel it, like it's rubbing or pulling and get a slight pain if I knock it.

Still feels hard and googled it which is not what I should of done... I have booked an appointment with the docs next week (so scared) but I have convinced myself already it's goong to be a bad outcome.

I am a very moley persons with large ones small ones soft ones and now in over drive thinking they are all bad.

The one on my shoulder is the only one that feels the way it feels and worried I have left it unchecked for to long.

I have a 2 and 3 year old and i worry something bad is going to happen to me and leave them without a mum.

Im such a worrier cos iv had things like warts, small strange spots in the past so skin cancer is always a fear of something I have.

Anyone else have small hard moles that have been ok?

[Vikingbeast]

Hi everyone,

First post and driving myself mad with my health anxiety to the point I have convinced myself i have skin cancer!

Dam Dr Google!!

I have had a mole on my shoulder blade for a year (could of been longer) but it feels slightly hard like a blackhead? If ingored it while dealing with other stresses and this week I have been homing back in on the mole.

I feel like whatever I'm doing I can always feel it, like it's rubbing or pulling and get a slight pain if I knock it.

Still feels hard and googled it which is not what I should of done... I have booked an appointment with the docs next week (so scared) but I have convinced myself already it's goong to be a bad outcome.

I am a very moley persons with large ones small ones soft ones and now in over drive thinking they are all bad.

The one on my shoulder is the only one that feels the way it feels and worried I have left it unchecked for to long.

I have a 2 and 3 year old and i worry something bad is going to happen to me and leave them without a mum.

Im such a worrier cos iv had things like warts, small strange spots in the past so skin cancer is always a fear of something I have.

Anyone else have small hard moles that have been ok?

Been there, done that. Especially because my sister had some huge problems with it and had to have removal, skin grafs, but is perfectly OK now. You'll be OK either way - easily treatable. Let us know the good news!

[Mrs overthinker]

I'm sorry to hear about your sister. I hope all is well with her now?

I had the waiting to be seen and the worry going through your mind building up to it. Can't sleep can't eat and convinced myself i have the worste case of it until I'm told other wise.

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Newbie with health anxiety!!... my new think is my moles!!

Hi everyone,

First post and driving myself mad with my health anxiety to the point I have convinced myself i have skin cancer!

Dam Dr Google!!*

I have had a mole on my shoulder blade for a year (could of been longer) but it feels slightly hard like a blackhead? If ingored it while dealing with other stresses and this week I have been homing back in on the mole.

I feel like whatever I'm doing I can always feel it, like it's rubbing or pulling and get a slight pain if I knock it.*

Still feels hard and googled it which is not what I should of done... I have booked an appointment with the docs next week (so scared) but I have convinced myself already it's goong to be a bad outcome.

I am a very moley persons with large ones small ones soft ones and now in over drive thinking they are all bad.*

The one on my shoulder is the only one that feels the way it feels and worried I have left it unchecked for to long.*

I have a 2 and 3 year old and i worry something bad is going to happen to me and leave them without a mum.*

Im such a worrier cos iv had things like warts, small strange spots in the past so skin cancer is always a fear of something I have.*

Anyone else have small hard moles that have been ok?

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Re: Newbie with health anxiety!!... my new think is my moles!!

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Hi everyone,

First post and driving myself mad with my health anxiety to the point I have convinced myself i have skin cancer!

Dam Dr Google!!*

I have had a mole on my shoulder blade for a year (could of been longer) but it feels slightly hard like a blackhead? If ingored it while dealing with other stresses and this week I have been homing back in on the mole.

I feel like whatever I'm doing I can always feel it, like it's rubbing or pulling and get a slight pain if I knock it.*

Still feels hard and googled it which is not what I should of done... I have booked an appointment with the docs next week (so scared) but I have convinced myself already it's goong to be a bad outcome.

I am a very moley persons with large ones small ones soft ones and now in over drive thinking they are all bad.*

The one on my shoulder is the only one that feels the way it feels and worried I have left it unchecked for to long.*

I have a 2 and 3 year old and i worry something bad is going to happen to me and leave them without a mum.*

Im such a worrier cos iv had things like warts, small strange spots in the past so skin cancer is always a fear of something I have.*

Anyone else have small hard moles that have been ok?

Been there, done that. Especially because my sister had some huge problems with it and had to have removal, skin grafs, but is perfectly OK now. You'll be OK either way - easily treatable. Let us know the good news!

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Re: Newbie with health anxiety!!... my new think is my moles!!

I'm sorry to hear about your sister. I hope all is well with her now?

I had the waiting to be seen and the worry going through your mind building up to it. Can't sleep can't eat and convinced myself i have the worste case of it until I'm told other wise.

[Mrs overthinker]

Just been to the docs... managed to get an appointment a day sooner and he told me it looks fine!!

Still convinced but all part of my HA.

[Mrs overthinker]

Mole question...

Okay so today I had the all clear that a mole on shoulder was fine.
Im so stupid because there are 2 dark moles I have on my bikini line that I backed out of mentioning to check 🙈

Im going to have a full body check for moles with a derm because I can't rest bit my question is has anyone else got moles in this area????

I had a panic attack infront of the docs so he was managing my anxiety so didn't think to drop my trousersto shoe him my other 2 mole friends

Im NOT googling it😱😱😱

[kimwolf]

before you start googling anything else just don't. Anytime you have a health concern just go to your doctor. Or if you can just wait a couple of days and see if it gets better or worse. JUST DONT GOOGLE!!!! IT WILL MESS YOU UP

[Mrs overthinker]

Totally learnt my lession with Dr Google! I have officially banned muself from looking anything up on there ��

[Mrs overthinker]

So 2 weeks ago I went on meds for anxiety. Today was a follow up to see how i was getting on with them.

Well I though while I was there I would show the doc a dark mole I had on my bikini line.... he looked at it and said he was going to reffer me because it's only 4 years old and the colour of it.

He said he was going to do it as an emergency so I'm seem within 2 weeks and not waiting months.

Not the best thing to hear when your anxiety is sky high! My husband saw the state I was in when o got back that he rang round to get me a private appointment for Tuesday.

Feel like I have taken 10 steps back and conceived myselfi have melanoma and I'm going to leave my 2 small children without a mum.

I feel numb with worry and don't know what to do with myself until Tuesday😪😪

[Fishmanpa]

Unfortunately, situations like this are often a no win situation for an anxiety sufferer. If he had referred you on the slow track you'd be worrying it's spreading and it will be too late. Knowing you suffer from anxiety, he put you on the fast track and even knowing this you're still panicking.

It sounds like CYA medicine (cover your arse) and for your own reassurance. Let us know what they say :)

Positive thoughts

[Mrs overthinker]

Thank You for the fast reply!

He did mention that he wanted to fast track it. He try to sugar coat it by saying he wants it looked at due to the age of it and the colour.

He did try to reassure me to not panic between now and then but I can't help it... surelyif he though it was nothing he wouldn't refer me 🙈🙈

I'm my own worst enemy... I'm worried because it is dark and the WHAT if it is melanoma??.... it's been there a few years now so what if it's already worked it's way in my body and that's it!!..... SEE I'm worrying so so much 😱

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Oh god I hate this.... having anxieity attacks ����

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The vast majority of referrals to dermatologists come back benign. I think it's something like 9/10. The dermatologist I saw last year said she sees melanoma once every two weeks on average, and she sees hundreds of patients in that time. And even then, almost all the unlucky ones are cured through surgery.

Obviously I can't tell you what your situation is, but there's a hell of a lot in your favour.

[Mrs overthinker]

Thank you for your reply! 💖

Can't help thinking worse case... if it is melanoma then if already had it a good few years.

[NervUs]

The vast majority of referrals to dermatologists come back benign. I think it's something like 9/10. The dermatologist I saw last year said she sees melanoma once every two weeks on average, and she sees hundreds of patients in that time. And even then, almost all the unlucky ones are cured through surgery.

Obviously I can't tell you what your situation is, but there's a hell of a lot in your favour.

I remember it is more like 1 out of 33 moles sent for biopsy are malignant, so even better odds than 9/10 that this is benign.

Odds don't always help anxiety sufferers, though, I know.

Hope you get an answer soon. I have had numerous suspicious moles biopsied (like 9 or 10) and only one was something, and it was basal cell.

[Mrs overthinker]

I'm in such a negative mind about it �� i feel so stupid that I didn't go when I first noticed it! Back then I didn't even think anything of it.

It's very slightly red around the mole but it is right in an area that's always rubbing on my trousers.

It is hard not to obsess about it when my anxiety is high anyway. I can see me going in on Tuesday and just be a crying mess infront of the derm.... What if I have left it to long of it turns out to be melanoma??? Google (which isn't good i know) days if it's not cought straight away them basically your done for.

Now Im guessing it's 4 years old but it could be 5 maybe 6 years old!

[Fishmanpa]

Now Im guessing it's 4 years old but it could be 5 maybe 6 years old!

Cancer is an uncontrolled growth of abnormal cells. It doesn't come and go nor does it stop once it starts.

Based on that fact, having a mole that's been unchanged for up to six years tell you what?

Positive thoughts

[Mrs overthinker]

Your brilliant with words and know how to make me feel better... it may have got bigger over time but have have no idea (slightly smaller then a pencil eraser).

Thank You for reassuring me while I'm climbing the walls ��

[Mrs overthinker]

Im so sorry for all the posts but i feel like this is the only place to vent.

Cant eat, sleep and feel like im on pause until my derm appioment on tuesday.

If you havent seen my posts im convinced i have melanoma... a very dark mole that's a few years old. Cant stop thinking about the doctor's face when he saw it. It was as if he knew but try to not panic me.

Has anyone had a mole thats ticked all the right boxes for melanoma but came back fine??

I thought i felt better about it all thismorning and what will be will be but i think that was my meds... now im back to freaking out😪😪

Im worried sick im going to leave my kids without a mum.... everything i have googled in the past sounds just like what i have.

I cant even look at it without wanting to pass out

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[Mrs overthinker]

Hi yes i have no idea how its happened... in my account it showing as one main link. Thanks for letting me know

[Mrs overthinker]

Im so sorry for all the posts but i feel like this is the only place to vent.*

Cant eat, sleep and feel like im on pause until my derm appioment on tuesday.*

If you havent seen my posts im convinced i have melanoma... a very dark mole that's a few years old. Cant stop thinking about the doctor's face when he saw it. It was as if he knew but try to not panic me.*

Has anyone had a mole thats ticked all the right boxes for melanoma but came back fine??*

I thought i felt better about it all thismorning and what will be will be but i think that was my meds... now im back to freaking out😪😪

Im worried sick im going to leave my kids without a mum.... everything i have googled in the past sounds just like what i have.*

I cant even look at it without wanting to pass out

[NervUs]

Yes, I have had several moles that ticked all the right boxes for melanoma and came back fine (well, as moles with atypical but noncancerous cells).

The worst of these was irregularly shaped, multiple colors, with a red ring around it. You should have seen the derm's face when I pointed it out to him! It came back mildly atypical, and this was about 5 years ago now, with no growth in the scar, so I am confident the diagnosis was correct.

You are doing the best you can do. You are getting it checked.

it's unlikely to be melanoma but, if it is, you will deal with it!!!

My sister has had melanoma. She noticed it for 3 years before she could find a doctor willing to take it off. When it came back melanoma, it was still only stage 1! So, as with any other cancer, melanomas grow at their own rate and finding it after a few years of growth is not an automatic problem. My sister is healthy today, and this happened about 8 years ago.

So, take a deep breath. I know it is SO hard, especially when children are in the mix. But, the mole is what it is, and no worry is going to change that. If (and that is a big if) you find yourself with a diagnosis, you will take it from there and take advantage of all the advance in melanoma treatment that have arisen in the past 5 years!

It's very unlikely you have melanoma though!!! A dark mole isn't really a huge red flag.

[Mrs overthinker]

Thank you so much.... your post has made me feel a little better.

I feel stupid for not having it checked years ago (i think that's why i am kicking myself) but it only flaged up when i read something online. Because of where it is i dont really notice it.

Melanoma is my biggest fear with my health anxiety because you don't notice it and its a sneaky one.

I will let you know how the appointment goes... fingers crossed!! Xx

[nicole97]

How did it go?