anxiousjomo
09-10-17, 10:30
Hi,
So I had my first therapy session last week and I talked about my past etc to fill in some information for the therapist etc. She immediately latched onto the fact that my mum had severe post-natal depression/anxiety when I was born, and that my dad has always been distant/unpredictable/irritable etc. She also said I should have started therapy years ago and that I really needed intensive sessions etc to deal with all my childhood issues.
I obviously understand how that could all have set me up to be an anxious baby/child etc and that the patterns have been in place since then. But what I don't understand is how knowing this helps me. In fact I am now more anxious, partly because I am worried about the cost of the sessions, but also because I feel like spending months hacking around in my childhood is not really going to do anything to help me as a 38 year old grown adult.
She thinks CBT/Mindfulness etc is all just "surface" and that the only way to get better is to do all this intensive work.
Does anyone have any advice? Should I switch therapists and just to CBT? Or do you think this sort of therapy is helpful?
I also feel like just blaming my mum and dad for everything is not exactly honest and not exactly helpful....:winks:
So I had my first therapy session last week and I talked about my past etc to fill in some information for the therapist etc. She immediately latched onto the fact that my mum had severe post-natal depression/anxiety when I was born, and that my dad has always been distant/unpredictable/irritable etc. She also said I should have started therapy years ago and that I really needed intensive sessions etc to deal with all my childhood issues.
I obviously understand how that could all have set me up to be an anxious baby/child etc and that the patterns have been in place since then. But what I don't understand is how knowing this helps me. In fact I am now more anxious, partly because I am worried about the cost of the sessions, but also because I feel like spending months hacking around in my childhood is not really going to do anything to help me as a 38 year old grown adult.
She thinks CBT/Mindfulness etc is all just "surface" and that the only way to get better is to do all this intensive work.
Does anyone have any advice? Should I switch therapists and just to CBT? Or do you think this sort of therapy is helpful?
I also feel like just blaming my mum and dad for everything is not exactly honest and not exactly helpful....:winks: