Haemomama_13
10-10-17, 22:07
I feel like I'm at a point in my life where I need help and I don't really know what to do or who to turn to. I don't even know if this is the right place to post or what, but here goes...
So I'm 26 from the UK and a stay at home mum to 2 little boys - one of whom I'm a carer for since he has recently been diagnosed with a rare but severe blood disorder.
For as long as I can remember I've always been an anxious person, through school I was crippingly shy and seriously lacked confidence. Fast forward 10 years, not much has changed in fact my feelings of anxiety have increased and multiplied - especially since having my first child and even more so after my second. I've always just assumed that this is just who I am but recently I feel like it goes far beyond just being timid, awkward and a bit of a worrier.
I'm tired and I'm drained and I want to get help but I feel like I can't. I feel like if I go to a doctor I don't know what I'd say. I'm worried that he will think I'm making it all up or being dramatic (close friends have reacted this way previously and it's off putting). Im worried that when it comes to it, I'll play it down because that's what I do thus meaning I won't get help. I'm worried that he'll laugh and tell me there's nothing wrong especially since I've never experienced a panic attack and/or many of the typical physical symptoms.
It's not just affecting me but it's affecting my partner as I'm so dependant on him. I feel like a lot of the time he has to "babysit" me which is humiliating and I feel like I have no independance. And of course it's affecting my children as I can't go out far with them on my own and I'm scared my fears will rub off on them or that their lives arent being fullfilled. Plus, my 9 month old is undergoing weekly treatment at the hospital at the moment which I will eventually train to administer myself but my confidence is virtually none existent. I feel like by being too scared to do this means that I'm not able to care for him which makes feel like I'm failing as a mother.
Anyway, I'm rambling *sorry*. I'm glad I found this forum.
Nice to meet you all:)
So I'm 26 from the UK and a stay at home mum to 2 little boys - one of whom I'm a carer for since he has recently been diagnosed with a rare but severe blood disorder.
For as long as I can remember I've always been an anxious person, through school I was crippingly shy and seriously lacked confidence. Fast forward 10 years, not much has changed in fact my feelings of anxiety have increased and multiplied - especially since having my first child and even more so after my second. I've always just assumed that this is just who I am but recently I feel like it goes far beyond just being timid, awkward and a bit of a worrier.
I'm tired and I'm drained and I want to get help but I feel like I can't. I feel like if I go to a doctor I don't know what I'd say. I'm worried that he will think I'm making it all up or being dramatic (close friends have reacted this way previously and it's off putting). Im worried that when it comes to it, I'll play it down because that's what I do thus meaning I won't get help. I'm worried that he'll laugh and tell me there's nothing wrong especially since I've never experienced a panic attack and/or many of the typical physical symptoms.
It's not just affecting me but it's affecting my partner as I'm so dependant on him. I feel like a lot of the time he has to "babysit" me which is humiliating and I feel like I have no independance. And of course it's affecting my children as I can't go out far with them on my own and I'm scared my fears will rub off on them or that their lives arent being fullfilled. Plus, my 9 month old is undergoing weekly treatment at the hospital at the moment which I will eventually train to administer myself but my confidence is virtually none existent. I feel like by being too scared to do this means that I'm not able to care for him which makes feel like I'm failing as a mother.
Anyway, I'm rambling *sorry*. I'm glad I found this forum.
Nice to meet you all:)