gav
14-02-18, 19:12
Hi guys, I have to say, I haven’t been on here in a few years as generally I’ve been feeling good. The usual ups and downs of life obviously but have been coping well.
Anyway, just a bit of background. I’m going to be 45 this year and I still rent. I’ve ashamedly been in the same flat for nearly 17 years. It’s the longest I’ve lived anywhere in my life. It’s not great, but I’ve stayed because it’s ridiculously cheap and it has enabled me to save up and have a pretty stress free existence money wise.
Well, here we are in 2018 and this week me and my girlfriend have put an offer in on a small house. Ok it’s a bit of a dump and will need lots of work but it’s got “lots of potential” (my girlfriends words). So, this should be a really exciting time in both our lives, moving in together, getting our feet on the property ladder. But, I’m feeling so anxious like I haven’t in a few years. I know they say moving house is one of the most stressful things you can do, but it’s not so much that, I think it’s the reality of facing up to real life that’s hitting me. I guess I’ve grown so comfortable in my shared flat, almost living like a student, disposable income and just that secure feeling of being content.
I’m now facing moving to another part of South London I don’t know very well, my rent will now be replaced by mortgage repayments that are going to be double what I’m paying now. I guess it’s like a perfect storm of things I am afraid to face up to. I’ve been having trouble sleeping, I’ve been feeling sick to my stomach and have lost my appetite, my legs feel like jelly, my mouths dry. All the bloody usual symptoms. I’m even snapping at my girlfriend and I hate that she’s having to put up with this when we should both be taking these steps together.
I just wanted to get it off my chest and see if other people had been through something similar when buying their first place, or any place come to that.
Thanks for listening guys 🙏🏻
Gav
Anyway, just a bit of background. I’m going to be 45 this year and I still rent. I’ve ashamedly been in the same flat for nearly 17 years. It’s the longest I’ve lived anywhere in my life. It’s not great, but I’ve stayed because it’s ridiculously cheap and it has enabled me to save up and have a pretty stress free existence money wise.
Well, here we are in 2018 and this week me and my girlfriend have put an offer in on a small house. Ok it’s a bit of a dump and will need lots of work but it’s got “lots of potential” (my girlfriends words). So, this should be a really exciting time in both our lives, moving in together, getting our feet on the property ladder. But, I’m feeling so anxious like I haven’t in a few years. I know they say moving house is one of the most stressful things you can do, but it’s not so much that, I think it’s the reality of facing up to real life that’s hitting me. I guess I’ve grown so comfortable in my shared flat, almost living like a student, disposable income and just that secure feeling of being content.
I’m now facing moving to another part of South London I don’t know very well, my rent will now be replaced by mortgage repayments that are going to be double what I’m paying now. I guess it’s like a perfect storm of things I am afraid to face up to. I’ve been having trouble sleeping, I’ve been feeling sick to my stomach and have lost my appetite, my legs feel like jelly, my mouths dry. All the bloody usual symptoms. I’m even snapping at my girlfriend and I hate that she’s having to put up with this when we should both be taking these steps together.
I just wanted to get it off my chest and see if other people had been through something similar when buying their first place, or any place come to that.
Thanks for listening guys 🙏🏻
Gav