sadtimes
19-02-18, 01:47
I know this isn’t anxiety related but the people on this website are always really comforting and give good advice and I don’t really want to talk to anyone in real life about this.
Basically my boyfriend is my best friend, we’ve been together almost two years and we’ve always had the most fun together and he’s the only person I love spending so much time with and the only person I want to do stuff like travelling with but the truth is I’m very unhappy in the relationship. We’ve been long distant for 7 months, and we have another 7 months left. We drift apart completely, our connection and bond is completely gone and to be completely honest, it’s made me realise that it’s not what I want anymore but whenever we talk about breaking up (he’s unhappy too) we stay together because I really don’t want to lose him as a person and my friend and I know from previous experience that it doesn’t matter how well you end it, it’s very hard to stay friends, especially long distant. I know that fundamentally, inevitably I am unhappy and do want to break up but I just can’t end it out of fear of losing him, I sometimes sit there shouting at myself in my head that he deserves better, to be with someone who truly wants to be with him and he can be happy with and that I’m being selfish for keeping him in this relationship because of our friendship. I don’t really know what to do, I feel like a terrible person because I feel like at this stage I’m just messing him about. I don’t even really know what I’m asking of you guys to do for me here, I guess it’s just to provide some advice
Basically my boyfriend is my best friend, we’ve been together almost two years and we’ve always had the most fun together and he’s the only person I love spending so much time with and the only person I want to do stuff like travelling with but the truth is I’m very unhappy in the relationship. We’ve been long distant for 7 months, and we have another 7 months left. We drift apart completely, our connection and bond is completely gone and to be completely honest, it’s made me realise that it’s not what I want anymore but whenever we talk about breaking up (he’s unhappy too) we stay together because I really don’t want to lose him as a person and my friend and I know from previous experience that it doesn’t matter how well you end it, it’s very hard to stay friends, especially long distant. I know that fundamentally, inevitably I am unhappy and do want to break up but I just can’t end it out of fear of losing him, I sometimes sit there shouting at myself in my head that he deserves better, to be with someone who truly wants to be with him and he can be happy with and that I’m being selfish for keeping him in this relationship because of our friendship. I don’t really know what to do, I feel like a terrible person because I feel like at this stage I’m just messing him about. I don’t even really know what I’m asking of you guys to do for me here, I guess it’s just to provide some advice