Forever Hopeful..
11-03-18, 17:38
Hi All,
I have been suffering from Depression and Anxiety for many years possibly 25 years if truthful.. I am now early 40's, Male and very alone. when i was younger early to late teens i was aware that i didn't feel the same intense desire for a sexual relationship with either sex, although then it was females I was interested in or so i thought. I never went short of attention and went out with friends and dated girls.. Well this is were it all went wrong for me. I enjoyed the company and even fantasied about being married and having a family and how perfect it would be.. But i still didn't feel anything sexually towards them.. Well lets say i tried and failed miserably a numerous occasions.
Already a young man with little self confidence, and self esteem I sort hid myself away, any party's or get together's i would make an excuse, I found myself doing this more and more. So called friends called me gay so again i withdrew and by my early 20's I have very few friends.. During this time I could not understand why i was different??? Why?? I guess i must be gay, because why else would I feel the way I do about sexual activity with a female. I even join a dating site for gay men as i thought if i try maybe this would be the key to unlocking who I really am.. Well it was the same, yes I enjoyed the company but i again had no desire for anything sexual... What an earth was wrong with me?? I became very withdrawn and depressed, I blamed lots of things in my life but hid the true reasons inside.. It felt like the whole world was having a joke at my expense. I so wanted to fit in but I didn't fit into any box.. I lived in a depressed state thinking I was a freak and a worthless as faulty goods and an inadequate man.. I had never heard of A Sexual then dont even know if it was recognized back then. I have had the must horrendous time growing up and I feel I dont know how to enjoy myself or even be happy, I feel as I am just existing in life with no real purpose...
I am so confused and tired of thinking and overthinking.....
Please is there anyone who can relate? I have no direction and live in a constant stream of anxiety.. Does A sexuality really exist?
Thanks for reading
Forever Hopeful...:weep:
I have been suffering from Depression and Anxiety for many years possibly 25 years if truthful.. I am now early 40's, Male and very alone. when i was younger early to late teens i was aware that i didn't feel the same intense desire for a sexual relationship with either sex, although then it was females I was interested in or so i thought. I never went short of attention and went out with friends and dated girls.. Well this is were it all went wrong for me. I enjoyed the company and even fantasied about being married and having a family and how perfect it would be.. But i still didn't feel anything sexually towards them.. Well lets say i tried and failed miserably a numerous occasions.
Already a young man with little self confidence, and self esteem I sort hid myself away, any party's or get together's i would make an excuse, I found myself doing this more and more. So called friends called me gay so again i withdrew and by my early 20's I have very few friends.. During this time I could not understand why i was different??? Why?? I guess i must be gay, because why else would I feel the way I do about sexual activity with a female. I even join a dating site for gay men as i thought if i try maybe this would be the key to unlocking who I really am.. Well it was the same, yes I enjoyed the company but i again had no desire for anything sexual... What an earth was wrong with me?? I became very withdrawn and depressed, I blamed lots of things in my life but hid the true reasons inside.. It felt like the whole world was having a joke at my expense. I so wanted to fit in but I didn't fit into any box.. I lived in a depressed state thinking I was a freak and a worthless as faulty goods and an inadequate man.. I had never heard of A Sexual then dont even know if it was recognized back then. I have had the must horrendous time growing up and I feel I dont know how to enjoy myself or even be happy, I feel as I am just existing in life with no real purpose...
I am so confused and tired of thinking and overthinking.....
Please is there anyone who can relate? I have no direction and live in a constant stream of anxiety.. Does A sexuality really exist?
Thanks for reading
Forever Hopeful...:weep: