skitty
23-07-07, 02:47
Dont suppose this is the right forum for this but since health anxiety (among others) is my thing I thought I would post here. I have just had a surprise visit from my parents.They live 600 miles from here so this is a relatively bizarre thing to do after not seeing them for 6 months or more.
Anyway so they turn up out of the blue and immediately start criticising (i havent mowed the lawns painted the woodwork done the washing up etc which i would have done if they told me they were coming). Then they expect me to cancel my little boys weekend with his father whom he hasnt seen in 2 weeks and has been looking forward to all that time (we are separated).
I wont do that. So Dad immediately goes into a silent rage and (literally) does not say another word to me the whole weekend, just looks blank or immediately negates anything I try to talk about, doesnt even eat at the same table as the rest of the family etc.
Meanwhile Mum keeps up a running commentary about her illnesses pains etc and what disease every member of the family and everyone I ever knew back home is dying of, critisizes my weight, clothes hair tells me I eat all the time (I couldnt pour myself a stiff one which is actually what I felt like doing), while my sister roams around the house exploding with rage at books I own or whats on the radio and generally demonstrating her superiority at every opportunity.
Then they all just packed up very suddenly and without waiting for my son to get home and took off!
I cant believe their behaviour! They dont seem to have any concept of the effect of all this on me or my son (or care). Its no wonder I have anxiety problems having lived with these people for the first 17 years of my life!
You 'd think it would be a relief now that they are gone but I cant stop crying and have been left feeling very shaky and upset.
Dads behaviour was particularly anxiety provoking and the silent treatment took me straight back to my child hood.
Sorry for length of post but I was wondering how many others on here can relate their problems to their upbringing. Thanks for listening.
Anyway so they turn up out of the blue and immediately start criticising (i havent mowed the lawns painted the woodwork done the washing up etc which i would have done if they told me they were coming). Then they expect me to cancel my little boys weekend with his father whom he hasnt seen in 2 weeks and has been looking forward to all that time (we are separated).
I wont do that. So Dad immediately goes into a silent rage and (literally) does not say another word to me the whole weekend, just looks blank or immediately negates anything I try to talk about, doesnt even eat at the same table as the rest of the family etc.
Meanwhile Mum keeps up a running commentary about her illnesses pains etc and what disease every member of the family and everyone I ever knew back home is dying of, critisizes my weight, clothes hair tells me I eat all the time (I couldnt pour myself a stiff one which is actually what I felt like doing), while my sister roams around the house exploding with rage at books I own or whats on the radio and generally demonstrating her superiority at every opportunity.
Then they all just packed up very suddenly and without waiting for my son to get home and took off!
I cant believe their behaviour! They dont seem to have any concept of the effect of all this on me or my son (or care). Its no wonder I have anxiety problems having lived with these people for the first 17 years of my life!
You 'd think it would be a relief now that they are gone but I cant stop crying and have been left feeling very shaky and upset.
Dads behaviour was particularly anxiety provoking and the silent treatment took me straight back to my child hood.
Sorry for length of post but I was wondering how many others on here can relate their problems to their upbringing. Thanks for listening.