MrLurcher
15-06-18, 12:29
Hello all, first post on here. Been a reader for a while now, but feel the need to reach out atm.
Just to give an overview on my life. I am 31 now, and since my late teens I have suffered from anxiety / panic attacks / major catastrophising / over analysing. Topics of worry have included health, money, sexuality etc, with proper obsessional thinking over these things. I have done two stints of counselling over the years and recently did an 8 week mindfulness course.
The past two years have been tough. We've moved house twice, 3 of my grandparents passed away, my partner suffered PND after the birth of our second daughter. The recent house moved occurred 3 months ago, and it gave me major anxiety, to the point where I was worried about the sale falling through, worried about the house falling down pre-sale etc etc. Lots of lovely intrusive thoughts!
Now we're in our new house, I've transferred the anxiety onto this new place - worrying about cracks, leaks, noises in the roof etc. And I've also started worrying about money again.
This has all been pretty exhausting, and now I'm in a bit of depressive state following it all, but still mixed with anxiety.
Right, to the main issue! While all of this has gone on, I've been offered a new job working with my brother and his partners' business. I have been somewhat unhappy in my current job for a while, and have applied for 2 other jobs over the last 6 months. I am underpaid compared to my market value, and work has become a lot more stressful over the last year or so. I helped kick start my brothers' business and have always liked the idea of joining it if it became successful.
Unfortunately, I found leaving my current job difficult due to job security and having a few really close friends there. I was thinking of staying, but only if they offered me more money. I handed in my notice on Monday after weeks of indecision, and I've been panicking ever since about if I've done the right thing. I've also been feeling very depressed about leaving good friends behind, and have cried on a few occasions. My current job is my social hub, and don't do much with friends outside work.
I don't know if I should have made this big life changing decision in the middle of my anxiety and depression, but having spoken to family, partner and some friends, they all feel I've made the right choice.
I am currently on the waiting list to see an NHS therapist, and will discuss medication with my doc on Monday. However, I have a bad fear of anti depressants, as my father had an adverse reaction to some when I was 16. He had a nervous breakdown after taking them, which was followed by an episode of mania, and he was then diagnosed with bipolar. This is also something that's in the back of mind, and I worry a lot that I may have or could develop bipolar at some stage in my life. This is my first depressive episode, and have never experienced any sort of mania in my life. I have two young daughters and worry about the idea that their dad could have a mental illness.
The questions I keep asking myself now is, should I retract my notice and stay in the role that's safe and secure, where I have a few close friends? And is it too risky to move jobs with my current mental state? A good benefit of my new job is that it will give me more flexibility to visit therapists - I could never imagine telling my current employer about my anxiety and depression. The new job brings risks in the terms that it's a new business, so will I worry more about security and money? And I will also be working two days from home - is that a good thing for someone who has anxiety and depression?
Hope someone can give me some advice. Thanks.
Just to give an overview on my life. I am 31 now, and since my late teens I have suffered from anxiety / panic attacks / major catastrophising / over analysing. Topics of worry have included health, money, sexuality etc, with proper obsessional thinking over these things. I have done two stints of counselling over the years and recently did an 8 week mindfulness course.
The past two years have been tough. We've moved house twice, 3 of my grandparents passed away, my partner suffered PND after the birth of our second daughter. The recent house moved occurred 3 months ago, and it gave me major anxiety, to the point where I was worried about the sale falling through, worried about the house falling down pre-sale etc etc. Lots of lovely intrusive thoughts!
Now we're in our new house, I've transferred the anxiety onto this new place - worrying about cracks, leaks, noises in the roof etc. And I've also started worrying about money again.
This has all been pretty exhausting, and now I'm in a bit of depressive state following it all, but still mixed with anxiety.
Right, to the main issue! While all of this has gone on, I've been offered a new job working with my brother and his partners' business. I have been somewhat unhappy in my current job for a while, and have applied for 2 other jobs over the last 6 months. I am underpaid compared to my market value, and work has become a lot more stressful over the last year or so. I helped kick start my brothers' business and have always liked the idea of joining it if it became successful.
Unfortunately, I found leaving my current job difficult due to job security and having a few really close friends there. I was thinking of staying, but only if they offered me more money. I handed in my notice on Monday after weeks of indecision, and I've been panicking ever since about if I've done the right thing. I've also been feeling very depressed about leaving good friends behind, and have cried on a few occasions. My current job is my social hub, and don't do much with friends outside work.
I don't know if I should have made this big life changing decision in the middle of my anxiety and depression, but having spoken to family, partner and some friends, they all feel I've made the right choice.
I am currently on the waiting list to see an NHS therapist, and will discuss medication with my doc on Monday. However, I have a bad fear of anti depressants, as my father had an adverse reaction to some when I was 16. He had a nervous breakdown after taking them, which was followed by an episode of mania, and he was then diagnosed with bipolar. This is also something that's in the back of mind, and I worry a lot that I may have or could develop bipolar at some stage in my life. This is my first depressive episode, and have never experienced any sort of mania in my life. I have two young daughters and worry about the idea that their dad could have a mental illness.
The questions I keep asking myself now is, should I retract my notice and stay in the role that's safe and secure, where I have a few close friends? And is it too risky to move jobs with my current mental state? A good benefit of my new job is that it will give me more flexibility to visit therapists - I could never imagine telling my current employer about my anxiety and depression. The new job brings risks in the terms that it's a new business, so will I worry more about security and money? And I will also be working two days from home - is that a good thing for someone who has anxiety and depression?
Hope someone can give me some advice. Thanks.