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phil06

27-08-18, 21:40

Can anybody me feel better I was distraught when I went from 19 to 20 so now 29 to 30 is the same? Your 20’s seem fun whilst your 30’s are boring and you feel old? Anybody make me feel better? :blush:

nomorepanic

27-08-18, 22:05

Who says being in your 30's is boring? Life is what you make of it.

Scass

27-08-18, 22:19

My 30s were better than my 20s.

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Suziewuzie

27-08-18, 22:26

I've never really understood that logic. My life is literally the same now at 31 as it was when I was 29 except I've travelled a lot more in the past 2 years. Why would your life become boring now?

venusbluejeans

27-08-18, 22:35

Hi

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This is nothing personal - it just enables us to keep posts about the same problems in the relevant forums so other members with any experience with the issues can find them more easily.

phil06

27-08-18, 23:05

I've never really understood that logic. My life is literally the same now at 31 as it was when I was 29 except I've travelled a lot more in the past 2 years. Why would your life become boring now?

Yes I mean you are correct I have travelled a lot more in the past year I think I mean other people settle down have family and don’t do much holidays I hope my life won’t be boring but some the notion of being 30 plus seems boring

Noivous

27-08-18, 23:21

It's attitude not age that determines your happiness. Embrace life my man.

N.

MyNameIsTerry

28-08-18, 02:14

I think thirties are better, although it's hard me for to comment as lost a lot of my thirties as the breakdown came and the later relapse. But you are no longer the working kid, you will be taken more seriously.

It's all moving through the ages. By the time I'm 80 perhaps I'll have just hit the "80's are the news 40's" thing as it's moved ont0 50's now.

I didn't find anything changed physically until I hit my late thirties. Around 37/38. Then I noticed the slowdown. Further slowdown when I hit about 42. But anxiety is stopping me pushing that away, it's not that you can't be all you be...remember Daniel Craig in his teeny shorts on the beach in his forties? Did all the women think he was "old & past it"? I bet they wanted to find out for themselves...:whistles:

pulisa

30-08-18, 08:31

No thanks!! He's apparently not a very likeable person in real life!

Phil, age ain't nothing but a number! You're getting married soon and starting a new life together-settling down isn't boring.

MyNameIsTerry

31-08-18, 06:46

"The Stath" is looking good for his age. :biggrin:

Phil's embarking on a new stage in life but there are guidance rules that luckily come with e.g. What's yours is mine and what's mine is mine, you're always wrong even when you "think" your right, some things you only get on your birthday from this day forward :whistles::winks:

...:sofa:

MRS STRESS ED

31-08-18, 08:18

Age is just a number don't get hung up on a number, my 30's were the best years wish l could do them again x

phil06

25-09-18, 00:07

I feel doomed when I hit over 30 can anybody reassure me?

MyNameIsTerry

25-09-18, 01:46

phil06

27-09-18, 20:22

What are your thoughts telling? That you will get ill & die? Maybe that you are now officially old, you are missing out as you aren't where you feel you are expected to be or that you can't get there?

What will cause you die? Are you suddenly entering an age bracket where you are high risk for all sorts of things? No, you are way off that. Therefore there is clearly no reality in the thoughts.

The other worries can be because of seeing friends moving forward quicker e.g. mortgage, wife & kids by 25. But that's the norm years ago, not so much now. And the further you go back in generations the earlier the married couple & parents get.

There is no clock ticking at 30 for biology. There is plenty of time for kids and you aren't living at home now so you are moving forward in that respect. You are getting married.

I don’t know.

Have you seen In time movie? You don’t age past 25 that’s my ideal society.

I would happily relive my youth over and over no progress growing up is boring. So many things you can’t go back and do like school and college.

My thoughts tell me it’s offically an old age nobody in there 20’s can feel truly old surely not. I’m not sure I can see myself having a family in my 30’s either I feel I should have done it younger and it will just cause invonvinience to me now :huh:

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And yep constantly dating and never marrying and staying young and good looking would be bliss for me.

pulisa

27-09-18, 20:37

You'd still have OCD though even if you never aged

MyNameIsTerry

28-09-18, 10:30

You'd still have OCD though even if you never aged

Sounds like it's Soylent Green for us then :ohmy:

mezzaninedoor

28-09-18, 12:15

Im 54 years old and when Im not knee deep in my Anxiety Im really enjoying Life, Life has an awful lot to offer and theres so much to fill it with other than just Telly & Food ..... Dont know if that helps at all

axolotl

28-09-18, 12:56

Apart from my anxiety wobbles I've quite enjoyed my 30s. My 20s were a time when I was constantly trying to prove myself to be "cooler" than I really am. I hated dating, I was never very good at "being young".

In my 30s I was settled and didn't care about this more, and indulged myself in all kinds of nerdy things I love that 20-something-me would be too embarrassed to do. It's the decade when you can cut the BS and be yourself.

Hangovers start to get worse though, I'll warn you that! ;)

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And remember, decades only mean anything because we evolved to have 10 fingers and that's how humans count! It's arbitrary, and means nothing.

MyNameIsTerry

29-09-18, 02:01

I don’t know.

Have you seen In time movie? You don’t age past 25 that’s my ideal society.

I would happily relive my youth over and over no progress growing up is boring. So many things you can’t go back and do like school and college.

My thoughts tell me it’s offically an old age nobody in there 20’s can feel truly old surely not. I’m not sure I can see myself having a family in my 30’s either I feel I should have done it younger and it will just cause invonvinience to me now :huh:

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And yep constantly dating and never marrying and staying young and good looking would be bliss for me.

Yes, I've seen it.

Growing up is up to you, some people never grow up! You don't have to reach for the pipe & slippers when you hit 30. It's a state of mind and you could be boring at 20.

I think the parents on here might tell you having kids at any age is an inconvenience. Many people could say they lost their young adulthood because they started early but then they get to retrieve their life earlier once the kids become adults. Those who start later get the freedom earlier.

I wouldn't go back & do school or college if you payed me. Adulthood is far better, much more freedom. There are certainly good memories and things I miss about family but school was good for mates for me. Looking back so much of school was a waste as you never use most of it again in your life.

Given what you have said about your earlier life I wonder if this is more about being unhappy with where you are and remembering the better times?

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Apart from my anxiety wobbles I've quite enjoyed my 30s. My 20s were a time when I was constantly trying to prove myself to be "cooler" than I really am. I hated dating, I was never very good at "being young".

In my 30s I was settled and didn't care about this more, and indulged myself in all kinds of nerdy things I love that 20-something-me would be too embarrassed to do. It's the decade when you can cut the BS and be yourself.

Hangovers start to get worse though, I'll warn you that! ;)

Same here. Trying to be cool, too much emphasis on women and the pressure of pulling. I couldn't give a monkeys about any of that now.

A period of adulthood was about status though. I'm through that now too. Mental health problems changes how you look at the world although there can be the worry about being stuck with no future with employers when it comes to time off.

And the funny thing as you get older, you stop having to chase women and find they come to you more as you have more confidence in yourself. More natural situations arise, at least that's what I found.

Very true about the hangovers! I've stopped drinking because of all that. The funny thing is though after a while you don't relate to drinking culture anymore and want to do different things. My twenties were all about drinking culture, it was the norm in my city.

Not growing old, growing up.

phil06

02-10-18, 02:02

Yes some people are cool at 30 or 30’s but I worry about it and I worry about the state of mind like I worry I think I’m older than I am some people are like 30 isn’t old but people make fuss about special birthdays. I went down the route of hiding my age on Facebook and refused any cards with age on them.

Worrying even over 30 sounds old 31, 32, 33 all old and older really anything past 28 to me is old. Some people when they hit 30 don’t think it’s old.

20’s has been a marathon to rush to get married buy a house so much pressure go nights out and the last one is have a family I think after that I’ve completed the full circle unless I was getting divorced as some people go back the way :ohmy:

But yes I fear health issues my diet isn’t good I’m very fussy and worry about that. I don’t drink much if at all and I am healthy in other ways don’t smoke or anything.

But I have two days left in my 20’s I’m off on holiday but have a sore stomach so already putting it down to old age like a few weeks ago I had pains in my food :blush: