trinity
19-08-07, 10:26
Hi
I have been with my partner for 3 and a half years now and I thought i was used to his panic attacks, he usually takes himself off to bed, covers his eyes to block out the light and goes off to his own special place. I have no problem with this and I am lead by him most of the time and if he wants to be alone thats fine. But the other night he didn't get to bed soon enough and scared me half to death, I found him on the hall floor curled up in a ball groaning, retching and sweating. At first I thought he was having a heart attack but he managed to say "panic" to me. After about 15 mins of me just sitting there with him trying to talk calmly I managed to get him to crawl to the sofa so he could be more comfortable and I lifted him onto it as he had no strength. Its amazing what strength I found to do this, dunno how, but i did.
He mumbled that he wanted a towel and a pillow which I provided. The towel he places over his eyes to block out the world and the pillow he clutches.
He was groaning as he breathed and I found this frightening. Anyway I sat with him rubbing his back, neck and shoulders until his breathing calmed, then I just sat and waited. After what seemed forever, but was prob only about an hour he managed to say he thought he could get upstairs to bed, which we did.
The next day he said that on a scale of 1 to 10 that 1 was a 9. It has taken him 2 days to get back to his old self. But now, and this is going to sound selfish, I am terrified it really scared me and I have felt on edge since, almost like i am waiting for it to happen again. I know this is silly and irrational because in all the time I have known him this is the first one of this severity he has suffered.
He has no specific trigger and so I am at a loss. I love him to bits and we are getting married next April (2nd time around for both of us) I just want to be able to help and understand more about what he is going through. He is happy to talk about it and I asked hundreds of questions.
I wondered if anyone here has had similar severe attacks and can give me any pointers on helping and understanding.
Sorry for this long scrawl but I felt I had to tell someone what I experienced and only those who either go through it or support those who do will understand and hopefully help.
I have been with my partner for 3 and a half years now and I thought i was used to his panic attacks, he usually takes himself off to bed, covers his eyes to block out the light and goes off to his own special place. I have no problem with this and I am lead by him most of the time and if he wants to be alone thats fine. But the other night he didn't get to bed soon enough and scared me half to death, I found him on the hall floor curled up in a ball groaning, retching and sweating. At first I thought he was having a heart attack but he managed to say "panic" to me. After about 15 mins of me just sitting there with him trying to talk calmly I managed to get him to crawl to the sofa so he could be more comfortable and I lifted him onto it as he had no strength. Its amazing what strength I found to do this, dunno how, but i did.
He mumbled that he wanted a towel and a pillow which I provided. The towel he places over his eyes to block out the world and the pillow he clutches.
He was groaning as he breathed and I found this frightening. Anyway I sat with him rubbing his back, neck and shoulders until his breathing calmed, then I just sat and waited. After what seemed forever, but was prob only about an hour he managed to say he thought he could get upstairs to bed, which we did.
The next day he said that on a scale of 1 to 10 that 1 was a 9. It has taken him 2 days to get back to his old self. But now, and this is going to sound selfish, I am terrified it really scared me and I have felt on edge since, almost like i am waiting for it to happen again. I know this is silly and irrational because in all the time I have known him this is the first one of this severity he has suffered.
He has no specific trigger and so I am at a loss. I love him to bits and we are getting married next April (2nd time around for both of us) I just want to be able to help and understand more about what he is going through. He is happy to talk about it and I asked hundreds of questions.
I wondered if anyone here has had similar severe attacks and can give me any pointers on helping and understanding.
Sorry for this long scrawl but I felt I had to tell someone what I experienced and only those who either go through it or support those who do will understand and hopefully help.