Gnomeinc
22-08-07, 00:45
Hello and thank you for reading my post. I am going to give a brief outline of my situation.
My partner was diagnosed with anxiety/depression last year after many years of angry outbursts and abusive behavior. The reason he went to the GP was because after 12 years I could no longer cope with the abuse and left him, he finally admitted that his behaviour and thinking was wrong. The GP gave him a series of questions which were scored and he was diagnosed. He was given anti depressants and within weeks he became a calm, rational, wonderful partner. The tablets worked for a few months and things between us were great, he was so happy, however just recently he admitted they had stopped working. This was obvious to me as the abuse and anger had returned and I was being blamed again for his behavior toward me...He has started a new tablet but as far as I can tell they are not as effective, as he is still very irritable and unreasonable.
I have suggested to him that he needs maybe to look for other ways of dealing with the anxiety other than medication but he says he is fine and it is me that needs help…You may be thinking ‘well maybe it is you’ believe me I have soul searched, done the counseling, tried everything in the book to accommodate him, nothing I do is ever good enough…
Has anyone else on this site had a similar experience or even behaved in this way, if so can you offer any advice as to how I can help him/us.
I am finding it harder and harder to live this life and stay healthy myself but I dont want to abandon him because I now know this is not him, its his illness...
My partner was diagnosed with anxiety/depression last year after many years of angry outbursts and abusive behavior. The reason he went to the GP was because after 12 years I could no longer cope with the abuse and left him, he finally admitted that his behaviour and thinking was wrong. The GP gave him a series of questions which were scored and he was diagnosed. He was given anti depressants and within weeks he became a calm, rational, wonderful partner. The tablets worked for a few months and things between us were great, he was so happy, however just recently he admitted they had stopped working. This was obvious to me as the abuse and anger had returned and I was being blamed again for his behavior toward me...He has started a new tablet but as far as I can tell they are not as effective, as he is still very irritable and unreasonable.
I have suggested to him that he needs maybe to look for other ways of dealing with the anxiety other than medication but he says he is fine and it is me that needs help…You may be thinking ‘well maybe it is you’ believe me I have soul searched, done the counseling, tried everything in the book to accommodate him, nothing I do is ever good enough…
Has anyone else on this site had a similar experience or even behaved in this way, if so can you offer any advice as to how I can help him/us.
I am finding it harder and harder to live this life and stay healthy myself but I dont want to abandon him because I now know this is not him, its his illness...