LilyLabVA
02-01-19, 17:59
Fear of pregnancy is affecting my marriage. Okay so straight to the facts I’m married with two healthy beautiful children - both under 10 years old. I am of a Christian/ Catholic upbringing and mostly follow the teachings. My husband and I are done having children. We have a boy and a girl. Both pregnancies were difficult for me due to medical complications and anxiety. I had horrible PPD/ anxiety after my son and was positive I was going to die. It was hell. I take the Pill for heavy bleeding, so we would use contraceptives. My husband would also be willing to use a condom but I’m still TERRIFIED to become pregnant. So much so that we have not been intimate in YEARS! It’s heartbreaking and my husband has totally given up even trying. I don’t know what to do or how to fix this fear to have save our marriage. We are basically roommates who love each other as family but have no intimate connection. Advice?
Could someone help me statistically ?
BCP has a 92-99% effectiveness rate (92% is typical use and 99% perfect use)
Condoms have a (85-94% typical/ perfect use)
If I use both methods and lets use the lower percentages to be extra safe what are the chances of pregnancy?
Also, yes we’ve considered tube tie and vasectomy but my best friend got pregnant with #5 after a failed vasectomy so that leaves me skeptical. Termination of pregnancy by pill or other means are 100% out of the question due to my beliefs.
Could someone help me statistically ?
BCP has a 92-99% effectiveness rate (92% is typical use and 99% perfect use)
Condoms have a (85-94% typical/ perfect use)
If I use both methods and lets use the lower percentages to be extra safe what are the chances of pregnancy?
Also, yes we’ve considered tube tie and vasectomy but my best friend got pregnant with #5 after a failed vasectomy so that leaves me skeptical. Termination of pregnancy by pill or other means are 100% out of the question due to my beliefs.