Happy Valentines Day ...

[WiseMonkey]

Here in the Southern Hemisphere it's already Valentines Day, so happy Valentines Day for those who are celebrating today and tomorrow :)

Yesterday, when my partner was at work I made a surprise Valentines chocolate cake (in a heart shape) which I gave him this morning. He surprised me too with a booking to our favourite Indian Restaurant for this evening.

I've been very excited lately because it's the countdown to our engagement in March, so I've been keeping an eye out for a ring. On Monday I found it and on Tues my partner purchased it and the ring has been sent away for re-sizing.

It's so crazy but I'm more excited this second time around and we're looking forward to celebrating with our friends and family in a few weeks time :yahoo:

[pulisa]

I hope you had a lovely evening, WM and how exciting that you are planning your engagement party and celebrations!!

Many congratulations and let us know how the planning is going? Why shouldn't you be excited-it's great news and you certainly deserve to be happy after all you have been through xx

[WiseMonkey]

I hope you had a lovely evening, WM and how exciting that you are planning your engagement party and celebrations!!

Many congratulations and let us know how the planning is going? Why shouldn't you be excited-it's great news and you certainly deserve to be happy after all you have been through xx

Thanks Pulisa for your kind comments. I'm sure our families won't be surprised but our friends will sure be :D
We haven't even thought about an engagement party yet but think it will be fairly low key :)

Am hoping others will share their Valentine Day celebrations too.

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[KK77]

Here in the Southern Hemisphere it's already Valentines Day, so happy Valentines Day for those who are celebrating today and tomorrow :)

Yesterday, when my partner was at work I made a surprise Valentines chocolate cake (in a heart shape) which I gave him this morning. He surprised me too with a booking to our favourite Indian Restaurant for this evening.

I've been very excited lately because it's the countdown to our engagement in March, so I've been keeping an eye out for a ring. On Monday I found it and on Tues my partner purchased it and the ring has been sent away for re-sizing.

It's so crazy but I'm more excited this second time around and we're looking forward to celebrating with our friends and family in a few weeks time :yahoo:

So pleased for you, Lesley. Hope you enjoy meal and night out together :D

And trust us men to get ring size wrong :lac:

[WiseMonkey]

So pleased for you, Lesley. Hope you enjoy meal and night out together :D

And trust us men to get ring size wrong :lac:

Thanks KK77, the meal was delish, you can't go wrong with a good Indian meal. It's the height of Summer here in New Zealand so the temperature is around 28 oC had to have a couple of wines to cool down!!

It wasn't my partner who got the ring size wrong :)
The jewelers stock rings in size O which is too big for me (I'm size M) so it's got to be resized, that takes ten days. Living in a country with a small population, most jewelers don't stock rings in various sizes, even in the larger cities, so unless you are a size O you can't have your ring on the day you buy it! Mine will be ready next Friday (23rd Feb), so I'll be able to wear it covertly until we make the BIG announcement on March 16, which is also our 6th anniversary since we met :yahoo:

[pulisa]

Oh I didn't realise that it would be a surprise for everyone!! Even more exciting!

Sorry I can't contribute to the Valentine's Day celebrations myself...It's a hellish day for my daughter so it's not mentioned in our house.

[WiseMonkey]

Oh I didn't realise that it would be a surprise for everyone!! Even more exciting!

Sorry I can't contribute to the Valentine's Day celebrations myself...It's a hellish day for my daughter so it's not mentioned in our house.

Yeah, because we've been together 6 years and never mentioned the 'M' word, our friends have presumed it's unlikely we'd make a formal commitment. My partner and I are both very cautious people and we've taken things slowly, especially as it's second time around for us both. We won't be thinking marriage for another couple of years!

I've got a couple of friends who's daughters married on Valentines Day then their marriages split up so Valentines Day is a bad reminder for them too :(

[MyNameIsTerry]

Aha, that's why you were sending the bloke all over the world to earn money then? For a big ring! :winks::yesyes:

You guys sound like the honeymoon period never ended, which is good. After marriage though he has it in writing to forget important events and you have it in writing to never let him forget he forgot :winks:

Sounds like a nice day for you both. It's nice to hear some good news on here.

[WiseMonkey]

Aha, that's why you were sending the bloke all over the world to earn money then? For a big ring! :winks::yesyes:

You guys sound like the honeymoon period never ended, which is good. After marriage though he has it in writing to forget important events and you have it in writing to never let him forget he forgot :winks:

Sounds like a nice day for you both. It's nice to hear some good news on here.

Thanks Terry, yes the ring is very nice and because there are 4 jewelers in the same mall, (they are very competitive) we got it for half price, that was an offer my partner couldn't refuse so happiness all round :yesyes:

We really do have a 'honeymoon' every day as things are just so easy and life just flows along... we're both blessed.

ps. I'll definitely take your marriage advice on-board Terry :winks:

[MyNameIsTerry]

Oo-er missus! :blush:

Don't forget to wind him up about the ring "so half price is what I'm worth is it?", "don't think you get out of spending the rest on me" :biggrin: That's a great saving you can reinvest elsewhere whether it's stuff at home, the wedding or holidays. A nice little bonus.

Sounds like a great relationship. The most important parts are already there and the formal stuff I'm guessing doesn't feel as pressurised with everything feeling so natural like you've always been together?

[WiseMonkey]

Oo-er missus! :blush:

Don't forget to wind him up about the ring "so half price is what I'm worth is it?", "don't think you get out of spending the rest on me" :biggrin: That's a great saving you can reinvest elsewhere whether it's stuff at home, the wedding or holidays. A nice little bonus.

Sounds like a great relationship. The most important parts are already there and the formal stuff I'm guessing doesn't feel as pressurised with everything feeling so natural like you've always been together?

Interesting thoughts Terry but I won't suggest he spends the 'savings' on me as he's been undertaking the fence project out of his own money, so it's a fair trade off :)

You're right, no pressure but after 6 years together it is the right time to move the relationship up to the next level. We were both in abusive marriages (our ex spouses are both narcissistic), so we understand what each other has been through. We also have the same values and ideals. My partner is very tolerant, kind, accepting and calm and this helps me in times of anxiety. I guess we both just appreciate each other and it works for us :)

[WiseMonkey]

Many congratulations and let us know how the planning is going? Why shouldn't you be excited-it's great news and you certainly deserve to be happy after all you have been through xx

Well, an exciting update this morning, the jewelers rang and said my ring was ready :) My partner wanted to go with me to collect it (which was lovely) so this afternoon we did. It was lovely trying it on again before slipping it back into the box. We've decided to wait till the 16 March (our 6 year together anniversary) to make the formal announcement so I have to wait another 3 weeks! It's now locked away in my safe (but I do know the code) :winks:

The ring is lovely, I've gone for quality not quantity (or bling which I don't do). It's a solitaire princess (semi-rub over) diamond, set in 18 ct yellow gold.

The jewelers were also giving away a free red leather jewelry case with ring purchases so I scored one of these :)

For our celebration we're inviting family and friends to drop in to our place any time between 2 pm-8 pm (the following Saturday) for drinks and nibbles. I think this will add a more personal touch that going to a restaurant.

More to come ....

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This sounds lovely [emoji846]. Congratulations x


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[WiseMonkey]

Thanks all for your kind wishes, we had a very busy day today catching up with relatives then went to a lovely local Thai Restaurant this evening. It's been a weekend of mixed emotions for us as New Zealanders, after the horrific terrorist attack in Christchurch and grappling with the realisation that this could happen to our small, peace loving country. The terrorist is an Australian not a New Zealander, which is of small comfort. We send our love to all those who have family members who were killed or injured...kia kaha (we stand together).

[KK77]

Thanks all for your kind wishes, we had a very busy day today catching up with relatives then went to a lovely local Thai Restaurant this evening. It's been a weekend of mixed emotions for us as New Zealanders, after the horrific terrorist attack in Christchurch and grappling with the realisation that this could happen to our small, peace loving country. The terrorist is an Australian not a New Zealander, which is of small comfort. We send our love to all those who have family members who were killed or injured...kia kaha (we stand together).

So pleased all is going well and congrats again on your engagement :D

Meanwhile, sad to hear about shocking events in NZ and send condolences to all those who lost loved ones.

[MyNameIsTerry]

Yep, an awful thing to happen. The evil nutters are a drop in the ocean compared to all the good in world as far as I'm concerned. Thoughts are with the people over there.

How is the planning coming along, Lesley?

[WiseMonkey]

Hi, our engagement plans went off really well and we're inviting friends to drop round and visit us this coming Saturday for drinks and nibbles. We won't be tying the knot for at least 2 years. My partners daughter is getting married sometime next year and we certainly wouldn't want to detract from that.

It's taken us 6 years to get to this point so I can confidently say our marriage will take place sometime within the next 6 years! :flowers:

[MyNameIsTerry]

Ha! It could be Bridezillas if you were both at the same time :biggrin:

If you tell him it will take 2 years to plan he might be rushing down to the bank manager asking for a big loan :biggrin:

Glad to hear things went well :yesyes:

[WiseMonkey]

Ha! It could be Bridezillas if you were both at the same time :biggrin:
Glad to hear things went well :yesyes:

Soapy water mouthwash for you Terry :dribble: ... there's NO WAY my partners ex-wife (mother of their daughter getting married) would get anywhere near our wedding!! :wacko: She's a nasty narcissist and left him for a wealthy farmer in another town, taking their daughters with her although they'd never met her new man!! Luckily his eldest daughter came back to him within 6 months and the younger a few years later :)

No bank loans for us, it will be done tastefully but on a low budget!! I have a low mortgage on my home and my partner is clearing his completely next month :)