anxiousbelle
02-05-19, 19:33
Hi,
I am looking for a little bit of advice on a situation that I am currently in. My current boyfriend is living in the UK but is originally from Australia and will be returning this November which will essentially be the end of our relationship.
That is very hard to come to terms with in itself but it has become more complicated in recent months. We are short long-distance, he is about 3/4 hours on the train away from me as he doesnt drive or for me its an hour and a half drive. He is living with a friend and that friends girlfriend and is paying rent at about £280 per month - but is required to ask their permission on everything.
I have been there a couple times, but one time his friend got very arsey about me being there so I had to leave. I haven't done anything to this guy, his only complaint is me being there makes it feel like a shared house and says my boyfriend should move out if he plans on having me over for more than one night a week.
Following this the girlfriend of the friend, who my boyfriend also lives with was suddenly and tragically diagnosed with terminal brain cancer. She has been in radiotherapy for six weeks straight after brain surgery and as a celebration of finishing her and her boyfriend are going away for a week on holiday.
I haven't been down there since this all happened about 3/4 months ago as did not want to intrude on a situation, especially as I was already unwanted originally. My boyfriend asked if it would be okay for me to go and stay for one night while they were away to which the girlfriend enthusiastically said yes but the friend said absolutely not. My boyfriend hasn't done anything to fight this and has just said he will see me in two weeks anyways when he comes up.
I am in a really tricky position. I am upset and distraught because my grandma one of the closest people to me just passed away, and I was there through it all and all I want is too see my boyfriend the day before the funeral as I am really upset. But my boyfriend does not seem willing to push anything due to the health situation, even though they are away for a week. He's a good guy and would never let me go down there anyway if they have said no. But I honestly feel rejected and hurt and like we are running out of time.
I do not want to break up now or even in six months as I am desperately in love, but this makes everything so complicated. I feel bad being mad at his friend when his girlfriend is literally dying, but this was happening before any of this happened and now has just got 10x worse. This might not seem that bad, or it might seem like I am being weak and pathetic. But I just am so so so confused and could do with any words of advice, comfort or support right now.
I am looking for a little bit of advice on a situation that I am currently in. My current boyfriend is living in the UK but is originally from Australia and will be returning this November which will essentially be the end of our relationship.
That is very hard to come to terms with in itself but it has become more complicated in recent months. We are short long-distance, he is about 3/4 hours on the train away from me as he doesnt drive or for me its an hour and a half drive. He is living with a friend and that friends girlfriend and is paying rent at about £280 per month - but is required to ask their permission on everything.
I have been there a couple times, but one time his friend got very arsey about me being there so I had to leave. I haven't done anything to this guy, his only complaint is me being there makes it feel like a shared house and says my boyfriend should move out if he plans on having me over for more than one night a week.
Following this the girlfriend of the friend, who my boyfriend also lives with was suddenly and tragically diagnosed with terminal brain cancer. She has been in radiotherapy for six weeks straight after brain surgery and as a celebration of finishing her and her boyfriend are going away for a week on holiday.
I haven't been down there since this all happened about 3/4 months ago as did not want to intrude on a situation, especially as I was already unwanted originally. My boyfriend asked if it would be okay for me to go and stay for one night while they were away to which the girlfriend enthusiastically said yes but the friend said absolutely not. My boyfriend hasn't done anything to fight this and has just said he will see me in two weeks anyways when he comes up.
I am in a really tricky position. I am upset and distraught because my grandma one of the closest people to me just passed away, and I was there through it all and all I want is too see my boyfriend the day before the funeral as I am really upset. But my boyfriend does not seem willing to push anything due to the health situation, even though they are away for a week. He's a good guy and would never let me go down there anyway if they have said no. But I honestly feel rejected and hurt and like we are running out of time.
I do not want to break up now or even in six months as I am desperately in love, but this makes everything so complicated. I feel bad being mad at his friend when his girlfriend is literally dying, but this was happening before any of this happened and now has just got 10x worse. This might not seem that bad, or it might seem like I am being weak and pathetic. But I just am so so so confused and could do with any words of advice, comfort or support right now.