Intrusive Thoughts [Archive]

helenhoo

01-09-19, 20:12

helenhoo

01-09-19, 20:31

My OCD itself has been back for a few months now, obsessively checking windows and locks and counting knives. To the point I take photos to shut myself up.

bin tenn

01-09-19, 20:34

So I've had this one a few times before and I hate it. My partner and I were getting intimate when I thought of my Mum and my son, an image popped up of them playing. Rather than let passing through I latched on, trying to get rid. Why was I picturing this while getting intimate. It's been a few weeks now and I'm constantly trying NOT to intrusive thoughts and therefore am. It's stopping sex life too. Please help. I know it's a form of OCD but it's truly horrible.

I've resigned up for CBT. I went to my new GP and told her everything and she's referred.

Good job setting up CBT and seeing your new GP. That's a positive step forward. The only advice I really have for combating intrusive thoughts is to practice CBT and other techniques you may have already learned. It takes a whole lot of practice and effort to move past them. You'll probably always experience them, but with effort and time, they will be less frequent and they will not last long enough to hinder your quality of life.

helenhoo

01-09-19, 20:48

It's horrible having these thoughts about my mom and son. Nothing BAD. but I wondered WHY I pictured them while I was getting intimate and my anxiety latched on overthinking reasons it could've meant. My partner is p*ssed off because I've gone from one to another.

nomorepanic

01-09-19, 23:10

You were referred for help months ago and kept telling us it was about to happen so what happened?

Fishmanpa

01-09-19, 23:58

I've resigned up for CBT. I went to my new GP and told her everything and she's referred.

You were referred for help months ago and kept telling us it was about to happen so what happened?

Pacifying statement to get food for the dragon. BIWISI :whistles:

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MyNameIsTerry

02-09-19, 02:17

This is really one for the OCD board.

The strategies for managing the compulsions you mention are different to intrusive thoughts themselves although such strategies apply to the compulsions you may engage in due to these thoughts. Reducing those compulsions will do a lot of good in reducing the intensity of these thoughts and you will feel more in control .

But for intrusive thoughts in general try to calm how you react. They will reinforce themselves if you act with negative emotions. Try to "meh" them, reduce their importance to you and your subconscious will start to notice this and mothball them. If you give them importance by reacting with "aaaarrrggghhhh" the subconscious just sees they are important to you and reinforces their need to exist which means you get more of them.

Think this way, thoughts are just thoughts. And you think about your mum & son a lot hence they can be naturally popping into your head anyway. Don't attach meaning to it, just see it as the brain throwing stuff out there. It has no connection to your intimacy at that time and only will if you start to attach meaning to it in that way. But it feels unnatural because of the time it popped up but then during sex someone might think "need more milk" and it's no different *. Thoughts just pop in all over the place.

* although in some cases it may be a reflection on how interesting the sex is at the time :whistles:

helenhoo

02-09-19, 08:55

I know it's ridiculous but I've already given it thought now. Ive been reading up about them and I think it's more my OCD and Anxiety than the intrusive thoughts. Avoiding things because I worry it means 'something' . If my Mum hugs me I overanalyse, kissing my child, I over analyse. Could you PM me Terry please?

helenhoo

02-09-19, 10:37

If someone called send link to online workbook for OCD/Intrusive thoughts please.

LF87

02-09-19, 10:57

I had this when about ten years ago when chopping veg, 'what if I went crazy and hurt someone' and totally freaked out about it. Told my psychologist at the time and helped me to understand they are just thoughts that everyone has fleetingly, people without ocd just don't react or think any more of it. Just like a 'that was a weird thought'. Just try not to pay attention to it, it doesn't mean anything. There's a book called Overcoming OCD I found very helpful at the time, has loads of examples in there about intrusive thoughts similar to yours and how to move past it.

nomorepanic

02-09-19, 15:00

Ignored again I see.

nomorepanic

02-09-19, 15:01

Hi

This is just a courtesy reply to let you know that your post was moved from its original place to a sub-forum that is more relevant to your issue.

This is nothing personal - it just enables us to keep posts about the same problems in the relevant forums so other members with any experience with the issues can find them more easily.

Please also read this post:

http://www.nomorepanic.co.uk/showthread.php?t=213239

helenhoo

02-09-19, 16:19

I never got my letter, they said they sent it, you only get 2 weeks to call from date on letter. So as I was moving cities anyway I waited until I joined new doctorz which I have done.

helenhoo

03-09-19, 16:55

I can be 100% logical and put thoughts at bay but then they'll creep back. 'What if I'm attracted to my mum/child' which is fxcking horrendous and makes me feel SO panicked and sick. What methods work best?

nomorepanic

03-09-19, 17:22

Try the online CBT programme we recommend.

helenhoo

03-09-19, 17:24

I can't find the link anymore, I did ask for it above. I think it's because I think like most parents how gorgeous my child is and then I spiral from there. I am having more logical days though and less avoidance but when the thought hits, like if I wanted to check freckles for example, I get that horrid anxious feeling in my chest.

Fishmanpa

03-09-19, 18:29

I can't find the link anymore

C'mon Reb! Seriously? How long have you been posting here? You mean you can't find one of the SEVERAL LINKS (https://www.nomorepanic.co.uk/showthread.php?211324-9-FREE-CBT-ebooks-for-Health-Anxiety) in the stickies in several sub-forums? You didn't even look :lac:

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nomorepanic

03-09-19, 19:26

Not willing to even look says it all really.

helenhoo

05-09-19, 22:01

Had a very logical normal day today, but when laying I got overwhelming urge to kiss my child because I loved them so much and I over analysed this and freaked out. . .

helenhoo

05-09-19, 22:02

Playing*

helenhoo

06-09-19, 17:37

Initial letter came through to make first appointment, rang left voicemail and no call back yet.

I'm still really struggling. It's following same patterns of my other anxieties, I won't be thinking about until *I* think about and then I have that horrible sick anxious feeling. This is the lowest of the low and I really want toget out of this pit.

helenhoo

09-09-19, 11:30

I'm reaching out here at my lowest point. I've left voicemail for talking therapies in Friday, no call back. Rang today to speak to operator and told the gent is on holiday but I will get a call back 'at some point' my relationship is at breaking point again because this is THE most ridiculous I've ever been. Really need someone who can relate to talk to.

BlueIris

09-09-19, 11:35

Feel free to drop me a PM, Helen? I'm based at the computer today so I should be able to talk.

helenhoo

09-09-19, 13:09

Thank you, I can't see where to message on your page?