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I've returned here after years due to a bad bout of anxiety/depression. During weekend was worried for a few things and then fear that wife has early onset Alzheimer's skyrocket. She's 40 and mentioned something like "did you have the shower" when I told her before I did. Then I remembered that some times she can repeat the same question after 5 mins or so, or some other instance where she forgot something and I convinced myself it was Alzheimer.
I know at her age is unlikely, but the symptoms seems to match those of Alzheimer's. Slept only a few hours and still feeling very worried....
She's 40, so it's much, much more likely to be life stress or possibly hormones.
Thanks BlueIris...my rationale part agrees, but having a hard time taking anxiety in control
She's 40, so it's much, much more likely to be life stress or possibly hormones.
Are you getting help with that?
....well if your description is a criteria for Alzheimer's then...my husband must have had it for the last 30 years as he does this 50 percent of the time! :o
A busy life, stress (as Blue pointed out) not listening fully to the answer (as your head of full of other things) makes this happen in normal healthy people.
I stopped meds 6-7 months ago and trying not to start them. Not much other help...
Are you getting help with that?
Thanks Carys
....well if your description is a criteria for Alzheimer's then...my husband must have had it for the last 30 years as he does this 50 percent of the time! :o
A busy life, stress (as Blue pointed out) not listening fully to the answer (as your head of full of other things) makes this happen in normal healthy people.
Pearly queen
13-01-20, 18:02
My Mother had dementia at the end of her life and I really can look back on things she said and did that show how her dementia developed. I would say the most noticeable changes were personality changes or not comprehending things she would have had no issue with before rather than things like repeating questions. She was easily confused.
My husband repeats questions all the time (as Carys mentioned with her husband) and I know it is because he's not listening or is thinking about other things so is distracted. Maybe your wife just has a lot going on. It doesn't sound like Alzheimers to me but I am not an expert of course. Just my opinion.
Look after yourself and your mental health.
Thank you Pearly queen, appreciated. Trying to control anxiety, but not very successfully the last few days...
My Mother had dementia at the end of her life and I really can look back on things she said and did that show how her dementia developed. I would say the most noticeable changes were personality changes or not comprehending things she would have had no issue with before rather than things like repeating questions. She was easily confused.
My husband repeats questions all the time (as Carys mentioned with her husband) and I know it is because he's not listening or is thinking about other things so is distracted. Maybe your wife just has a lot going on. It doesn't sound like Alzheimers to me but I am not an expert of course. Just my opinion.
Look after yourself and your mental health.
my mom was diagnosed at 55 years of age, the doctor was shocked as that is rare. We noticed she would repeat things, forget things, misname things such as calling an apple a banana and kept telling us her brain wouldn't let her think. Oh and being 40 she could be starting perimenopause, it will make you have forgetfulness and brain fog.
My mother died of Alzheimer’s disease. Her symptoms were far more complicated than memory loss.
My mother became paranoid and believed that advertisements in the mail were from bill collectors and that all kinds of people were trying to steal money from her.
She also started having hallucinations. At least we think they were hallucinations :-) I discovered that she was actually digging holes and relieving herself in the back yard. I asked her why she wasn’t using the toilet. She told me that “the man in the blue suit“ told her not to use the toilet.
I try to remember these things When I think I have Alzheimer’s. Forgetfulness is a part of aging, using your backyard as a toilet is not.
Good Luck.
Started worrying again regarding this...there are small things that I keep connecting with worst case. From what I know progress it's not always the same...but normally after around 1 year do you usually see clear decline or the first years it's very slow and then goes bad quickly?
My wife has been that way since I met her and now, after her illness, even more so. And her impulsiveness has grown substantially as well, especially when we go shopping. I often find I'm talking to myself as something catches her eye and she's off! ~lol~ I think you're mentally investing in something that's not in the realm of reason, especially after 4 months.
Positive thoughts
Thank you Fishmanpa. I got worried today because she did buy candles for her birthday, but was in a rush and instead of "4" and "1" took "4" and "2". She realized herself the mistake and was making fun of it, but I got worried.
Have you told your wife about your worries? How do you think she'd react?
I haven't...probably she will dismiss it as stupid or something like that
Does she suffer from anxiety?
No, she does not
Does she suffer from anxiety?
Then you might be as well just asking her what she thinks, and then trusting her. Sometimes I just have to trust my husband when the anxiety is making me irrational.
Not sure that it would help...probably will make her worry as well
Then you might be as well just asking her what she thinks, and then trusting her. Sometimes I just have to trust my husband when the anxiety is making me irrational.
Reading a bit more and it may be a sign of perimenopause as well...
It’s not just forgetting things, it’s forgetting how to do things and how stuff works. When my Mum has it we actually thought she was depressed at first.
Thank you for all the answers
WiseMonkey
21-04-20, 23:42
Hi, does your wife have any autoimmune conditions as these can cause bad bouts of brain fog and poor concentration? I get them from time to time especially when I'm stressed or tired, I'll say the opposite word to what I mean and I temporarily forget the correct word! I've been getting this since my thirties and I'm 63 now and don't consider I have dementia... (yet). Both my mother and maternal grandmother had low level dementia in their late eighties, but this is quite common.
No, she's healthy...that's why I get more worried. On the other hand from what I'm reading (probably not a good thing) symptoms of Alzheimer's usually are not occasional, and probably I'm connecting dots of episodes months apart.
Hi, does your wife have any autoimmune conditions as these can cause bad bouts of brain fog and poor concentration? I get them from time to time especially when I'm stressed or tired, I'll say the opposite word to what I mean and I temporarily forget the correct word! I've been getting this since my thirties and I'm 63 now and don't consider I have dementia... (yet). Both my mother and maternal grandmother had low level dementia in their late eighties, but this is quite common.
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