happyone
08-10-07, 09:35
i know this seems a strange thread for general anx, but it is a prob that is cusing me and my daughter some anx.
My daughter is 9. She is incredibly forgetful, but it is more than that, she jusyt doesn't understand some things.
Ever since she has been at school, she has been the same. She comes home without her homework, her jacket, her jumper, her lunchbag etc etc.
I have tried giving her a row. I have tried rewarding her for remembering. I have tried memory reward charts. I have tried telling her she will not get to play at the park we pass on the way home if she forgets. I have tried telling her she will get to play if she remembers.
I have tried memory songs, I have tried making light of it. I have checked her bag every day she leaves school, I have tried making it completely her responsibility.
Now she is in p5 and it is getting to be more of a problem.
This is a typical day/week.
EVERY monday she gets spelling homework and she has done since p2. She comes home without it and she says 'we didn't get any' and I believe her until......we get a note to say there is homework EVERY monday. So, I look for her homework jotter and it is not there. She says she doesn't know where it is.
Tuesday she has reading homework, but she doesn't bring the reading book home. Weds, maths but no jotter.
Last week, her teacher made a point of asking her every single day what she had and she answered it BUT she still didn't bring it home!
I really do not think she is being defiant, or naughty. Last night she cried her eyes out as she realised she had forgotten to bring her homework jotter home on Friday to do the work in she had forgotten last week! She was really sobbing and my heart went out to her. Now, she is not worried by a telling off, she is pretty hardy that way. But she lay there saying 'I just can't remember.....I try but I can't'
It is not just homework. I can say to her 'go and brush your hair and clean your teeth' and she will go away and put her shoes on. It is like she really doesn't understand, truelly. It is not just boring things either. I could say to her 'go to the freezer and get yourself an ice cream' she will walk half way there and come back and say 'what did you want?'
I might have put this down to a child being what a child is like but I have a 4 yr old and it has made it so apparent the things my eldest cant do. Things like tell the time. My 4 yr old is almost there, but my 9 yr old has very little concept of time. Follow instructions, my 4 yr old could follow no problem, my 9 yr old can barely follow 1.
I don't genereally compare but I am beginning to think there is something not quite as it should be with my eldest. She is bright, very much so, but some things she just does not grasp.
Any ideas please as I am so so worked up.
I have written to ask for a meeting with the teacher.
happyone
xxx
My daughter is 9. She is incredibly forgetful, but it is more than that, she jusyt doesn't understand some things.
Ever since she has been at school, she has been the same. She comes home without her homework, her jacket, her jumper, her lunchbag etc etc.
I have tried giving her a row. I have tried rewarding her for remembering. I have tried memory reward charts. I have tried telling her she will not get to play at the park we pass on the way home if she forgets. I have tried telling her she will get to play if she remembers.
I have tried memory songs, I have tried making light of it. I have checked her bag every day she leaves school, I have tried making it completely her responsibility.
Now she is in p5 and it is getting to be more of a problem.
This is a typical day/week.
EVERY monday she gets spelling homework and she has done since p2. She comes home without it and she says 'we didn't get any' and I believe her until......we get a note to say there is homework EVERY monday. So, I look for her homework jotter and it is not there. She says she doesn't know where it is.
Tuesday she has reading homework, but she doesn't bring the reading book home. Weds, maths but no jotter.
Last week, her teacher made a point of asking her every single day what she had and she answered it BUT she still didn't bring it home!
I really do not think she is being defiant, or naughty. Last night she cried her eyes out as she realised she had forgotten to bring her homework jotter home on Friday to do the work in she had forgotten last week! She was really sobbing and my heart went out to her. Now, she is not worried by a telling off, she is pretty hardy that way. But she lay there saying 'I just can't remember.....I try but I can't'
It is not just homework. I can say to her 'go and brush your hair and clean your teeth' and she will go away and put her shoes on. It is like she really doesn't understand, truelly. It is not just boring things either. I could say to her 'go to the freezer and get yourself an ice cream' she will walk half way there and come back and say 'what did you want?'
I might have put this down to a child being what a child is like but I have a 4 yr old and it has made it so apparent the things my eldest cant do. Things like tell the time. My 4 yr old is almost there, but my 9 yr old has very little concept of time. Follow instructions, my 4 yr old could follow no problem, my 9 yr old can barely follow 1.
I don't genereally compare but I am beginning to think there is something not quite as it should be with my eldest. She is bright, very much so, but some things she just does not grasp.
Any ideas please as I am so so worked up.
I have written to ask for a meeting with the teacher.
happyone
xxx