confusedrob
16-10-07, 14:41
Hi everyone,
This is my first time on a forum, i just had to talk to people who may experience the same kind of life as me and may relate to my anxieties.
I'm 32 and have had anxiety as long as i could remember. I was always shy and quiet as a youngster but have been much better over the past 10 years by making myself chattier, i still feel really shy a lot of the time though.
The problem for me is that all of my anxiety comes from the same worries, mostly about what other people think of me and insecurity. I first got really crippling anxiety at university when i got recurring, obsessive thoughts that i was too skinny and no one would find me attractive, then i started to obsess that i was losing my hair ( i'm not and its still here today, but i still get anxious about it)
When i have a relationshsip i get obsessive, intrusive thoughts and images of my partner with people before me and i get very jealous. These feelings are always accompanied by stomach pains, racing heart and all the symptoms of anxiety.
I feel like i have very low self esteem and am very insecure, which causes terrible anxiety. Sometimes, for no reason i will picture a girlfriend sleeping with a previous boyfriend and the anxiety hits me so hard I feel like i have been shot. I obsessivley ask them questions about their past relationships, which obviously ruins them. I was married for 6 years to an amazing girl but my anxieties ruined it in the end. Before this i used to leave before my problems became obvious. I feel now that i have lost the perfect partner, and that along with the thoughts of her being with her new partner is giving me terrible anxiety attacks.
I'm hoping to find people here with similar experiences, as i dont seem to get the normal anxieties of everyday life like worrying about health, money etc. There's always an underlying insecurity that causes it for me.
I'm really sorry to ramble on but i've never explained how i feel before and i'm just tired of feeling like i'm mental.
Does anyone else get anxiety over similar things?
Thanks for listening
This is my first time on a forum, i just had to talk to people who may experience the same kind of life as me and may relate to my anxieties.
I'm 32 and have had anxiety as long as i could remember. I was always shy and quiet as a youngster but have been much better over the past 10 years by making myself chattier, i still feel really shy a lot of the time though.
The problem for me is that all of my anxiety comes from the same worries, mostly about what other people think of me and insecurity. I first got really crippling anxiety at university when i got recurring, obsessive thoughts that i was too skinny and no one would find me attractive, then i started to obsess that i was losing my hair ( i'm not and its still here today, but i still get anxious about it)
When i have a relationshsip i get obsessive, intrusive thoughts and images of my partner with people before me and i get very jealous. These feelings are always accompanied by stomach pains, racing heart and all the symptoms of anxiety.
I feel like i have very low self esteem and am very insecure, which causes terrible anxiety. Sometimes, for no reason i will picture a girlfriend sleeping with a previous boyfriend and the anxiety hits me so hard I feel like i have been shot. I obsessivley ask them questions about their past relationships, which obviously ruins them. I was married for 6 years to an amazing girl but my anxieties ruined it in the end. Before this i used to leave before my problems became obvious. I feel now that i have lost the perfect partner, and that along with the thoughts of her being with her new partner is giving me terrible anxiety attacks.
I'm hoping to find people here with similar experiences, as i dont seem to get the normal anxieties of everyday life like worrying about health, money etc. There's always an underlying insecurity that causes it for me.
I'm really sorry to ramble on but i've never explained how i feel before and i'm just tired of feeling like i'm mental.
Does anyone else get anxiety over similar things?
Thanks for listening