unclebuck
02-11-07, 14:06
I seem to be more and more anxious of Anti-social behaviour. (just found this social anxiety forum!)
I live out in the country with only 1 next door neighbour to my side, both of us in a detatched house on a busy road, so we dont get anyone walking past, but have views of the Countryside..
You may wonder what i have to be worried about?? as I seem to find myself increasingly jumpy about sounds outside or cars revving a mile or so away as we are so used to the quiet?!
I used to live with my parents in a normal small town street and never gave a 2nd thought to kids outside walking down the street, or general people outside, maybe because it wasnt my house and i knew i had my brother there and Father and we were on a normal street with neighbours who wouldnt put up with much either if there was anything going on in the street (not that there was!)
When I moved out I moved in with my Girlfriend into a secluded detatched cottage which i couldnt get used to at first as it was soo quiet and out in the country set back from the road with private gate. After a few years of this we moved into a town and didnt like it... (we luckily moved back to the country after)
In the short time that we were there we did experience kids on Fri night late, running around the back of our row of houses a couple of times and it really got my back up coming from a very small hamlet/village with no-one!
I then started to feel anxious and looking out o f the window all the time to see what was going on (mostly nothing!!) but would get jumpy if someone was in the next road!!! or cars driving past our top road at the top of our street!! which is ridiculous!
My now wife knows nothing of how i feel, and I dont show it either, but maybe with news reports of yobs beating up (& killing) young people who go
out to complain about anti-social behaviour, i think it all sunk in and now once its dark, i feel a bit like a prisoner looking out of the window at EVERY noise.
As mentioned at the start we now live back out in the country and have a private gated drive and our house is tucked away. All we can hear at night is wildlife, but if i hear a slightly unusual noise im awake and looking out of the window.. even if its next door neighbours putting out the rubbish, whilst my wife just sleeps and ignores it..
how can I get back to normal and not let this affect me anymore? I did think secretly about hypnosis??
I am a very laid back and relaxed guy, but when its me and my wife on our own i feel very vulnerable and uncomfortable - this never happens if i hear yobs i the street if i am at someone elses house or on our own at a friends house in the middle of London! (maybe as i know i dont live there all the time)
Also it maybe that when i was in a street at my parents, at least i would know that 2 neighbours up the road would complain to yobs before i had to..?
I hope this post makes some sense! but i just dont know if i'm being over cautious or going mad?! I know that maybe 90% of people live in towns and cities, but just can't understand how they cope??!!?
HELP! :blush:
I live out in the country with only 1 next door neighbour to my side, both of us in a detatched house on a busy road, so we dont get anyone walking past, but have views of the Countryside..
You may wonder what i have to be worried about?? as I seem to find myself increasingly jumpy about sounds outside or cars revving a mile or so away as we are so used to the quiet?!
I used to live with my parents in a normal small town street and never gave a 2nd thought to kids outside walking down the street, or general people outside, maybe because it wasnt my house and i knew i had my brother there and Father and we were on a normal street with neighbours who wouldnt put up with much either if there was anything going on in the street (not that there was!)
When I moved out I moved in with my Girlfriend into a secluded detatched cottage which i couldnt get used to at first as it was soo quiet and out in the country set back from the road with private gate. After a few years of this we moved into a town and didnt like it... (we luckily moved back to the country after)
In the short time that we were there we did experience kids on Fri night late, running around the back of our row of houses a couple of times and it really got my back up coming from a very small hamlet/village with no-one!
I then started to feel anxious and looking out o f the window all the time to see what was going on (mostly nothing!!) but would get jumpy if someone was in the next road!!! or cars driving past our top road at the top of our street!! which is ridiculous!
My now wife knows nothing of how i feel, and I dont show it either, but maybe with news reports of yobs beating up (& killing) young people who go
out to complain about anti-social behaviour, i think it all sunk in and now once its dark, i feel a bit like a prisoner looking out of the window at EVERY noise.
As mentioned at the start we now live back out in the country and have a private gated drive and our house is tucked away. All we can hear at night is wildlife, but if i hear a slightly unusual noise im awake and looking out of the window.. even if its next door neighbours putting out the rubbish, whilst my wife just sleeps and ignores it..
how can I get back to normal and not let this affect me anymore? I did think secretly about hypnosis??
I am a very laid back and relaxed guy, but when its me and my wife on our own i feel very vulnerable and uncomfortable - this never happens if i hear yobs i the street if i am at someone elses house or on our own at a friends house in the middle of London! (maybe as i know i dont live there all the time)
Also it maybe that when i was in a street at my parents, at least i would know that 2 neighbours up the road would complain to yobs before i had to..?
I hope this post makes some sense! but i just dont know if i'm being over cautious or going mad?! I know that maybe 90% of people live in towns and cities, but just can't understand how they cope??!!?
HELP! :blush: