Lana
24-03-21, 20:51
Many of you know me, I have always been huge worrier, and I suffer from severe HA and OCD. Episode with my son sent me into despair, worse then ever. I apologize in advance for long post, but I need to share this:
Last Saturday ( March 22nd), my 22 year old son went out, and he has some goods friends, so it was this completely normal thing. He usually comes back late, but he does not drink, so I am usually not overly worried ( just normal Mommy worries). I got up Sunday morning, and my husband told me that my son actually came home around 7 am ( my husband was already up), very drunk, and covered all over with his own vomit. He made him undress completely, and threw everything in the garbage, and helped him shower properly. He put him to bed and said to me: It happens, do not bother him, let him sleep it off. However, his bank called to say that there were some suspicious charges on his debit card, so we managed to cancel both cards, and sure enough, they were not in his wallet.To make it short: when he finally got up Sunday night, he told us he was very sad, started drinking in bars, and when they closed ( earlier due to Covid), he went to a liquor store and bought a bottle of vodka and sat in the park and started drinking. He did not remember anything from that point on. He was also banged up, on his forehead, and his hands had several wounds. Sunday evening he was still groggy but not drunk, he was normal.
Monday morning he remembered that a policeman came to him in the park, and called EMT (ambulance). He remembered that they looked at him, took his vitals, and said he was OK, but very drunk and he should be sent home. A policeman put him in the cab and that is how he came home. Yesterday he went to the doctor who examined his bruises, and told him there was no concussion, but added that he obviously does not know how to pace himself, and that he should stop drinking for now completely and that he was still not "himself" because his body was still getting rid of the poison. However: yesterday evening he got a horrible panic attack because when he went to the bathroom , his underwear had a big fresh blood stain. I was trying to calm him down because he does have some hemorrhoids and it is not unheard of that heavy liquor can really irritate them. But he could not be calmed, because he started thinking that he was raped while being blacked out. My husband said that his clothes were NOT torn, just vomited over, and his shirt was still tucked and his belt was on as well, when he came home. But we are going to the doctor back tomorrow, to see what he says. Needless to say, I am absolutely beside myself, because the only thing I can think of is HIV. But, my husband saw no blood on his clothes that morning. So if he was raped, wouldn't there be blood that day, and a lot of pain? Would the doctor tomorrow be able to see if he was raped? Of course, we will test him too, but , we cannot test for at least another week for HIV, for it to be conclusive. I have a very good friend that I shared this with, and she said that rape would definitely sober him up, he would remember such horror, and pain for sure. Please pray for us, and give me some comfort, if at all possible. I am dying from fear.
Last Saturday ( March 22nd), my 22 year old son went out, and he has some goods friends, so it was this completely normal thing. He usually comes back late, but he does not drink, so I am usually not overly worried ( just normal Mommy worries). I got up Sunday morning, and my husband told me that my son actually came home around 7 am ( my husband was already up), very drunk, and covered all over with his own vomit. He made him undress completely, and threw everything in the garbage, and helped him shower properly. He put him to bed and said to me: It happens, do not bother him, let him sleep it off. However, his bank called to say that there were some suspicious charges on his debit card, so we managed to cancel both cards, and sure enough, they were not in his wallet.To make it short: when he finally got up Sunday night, he told us he was very sad, started drinking in bars, and when they closed ( earlier due to Covid), he went to a liquor store and bought a bottle of vodka and sat in the park and started drinking. He did not remember anything from that point on. He was also banged up, on his forehead, and his hands had several wounds. Sunday evening he was still groggy but not drunk, he was normal.
Monday morning he remembered that a policeman came to him in the park, and called EMT (ambulance). He remembered that they looked at him, took his vitals, and said he was OK, but very drunk and he should be sent home. A policeman put him in the cab and that is how he came home. Yesterday he went to the doctor who examined his bruises, and told him there was no concussion, but added that he obviously does not know how to pace himself, and that he should stop drinking for now completely and that he was still not "himself" because his body was still getting rid of the poison. However: yesterday evening he got a horrible panic attack because when he went to the bathroom , his underwear had a big fresh blood stain. I was trying to calm him down because he does have some hemorrhoids and it is not unheard of that heavy liquor can really irritate them. But he could not be calmed, because he started thinking that he was raped while being blacked out. My husband said that his clothes were NOT torn, just vomited over, and his shirt was still tucked and his belt was on as well, when he came home. But we are going to the doctor back tomorrow, to see what he says. Needless to say, I am absolutely beside myself, because the only thing I can think of is HIV. But, my husband saw no blood on his clothes that morning. So if he was raped, wouldn't there be blood that day, and a lot of pain? Would the doctor tomorrow be able to see if he was raped? Of course, we will test him too, but , we cannot test for at least another week for HIV, for it to be conclusive. I have a very good friend that I shared this with, and she said that rape would definitely sober him up, he would remember such horror, and pain for sure. Please pray for us, and give me some comfort, if at all possible. I am dying from fear.