Speranza
14-04-21, 11:46
Hi,
I've unashamedly come in search of virtual hugs and this looks like the place!
I'm 60, I've had glasses since I was 5 and have been used to my sight getting progressively worse over the years.
A few weeks ago I had my first surgery for cataracts which has had an amazing result in my right eye - I can see a long long way - but of course what I CAN'T do is read close up. I know myself pretty well and did a little emotional work beforehand as it is a huge change even though a positive one.
My second surgery is due on the 25th April (yes, a Sunday!) and I keep feeling really sad about losing my close vision (even though this is literally holding a book within two inches of my face - still, it's MY vision, right?). I will always need glasses for this from now on - no peering at labels and seeing what they say, or even reading in bed without glasses.
It doesn't matter how much I remind myself that lots of 60 year olds have to have reading glasses, it feels like a bereavement and I feel as though I've consented to being disabled! Even though I really could hardly see at any distance before!
The only answer is to feel the feels and make the adjustment, but I thought if anybody anywhere would understand, it would be someone on NMP!
I'm truly grateful for the surgery, which went completely fine, as I really could hardly function visually. I definitely need the second eye doing as I am currently exhausted coping with the weird mis-match of vision.
But - I'm sad!
Hugs welcome. ;)
I've unashamedly come in search of virtual hugs and this looks like the place!
I'm 60, I've had glasses since I was 5 and have been used to my sight getting progressively worse over the years.
A few weeks ago I had my first surgery for cataracts which has had an amazing result in my right eye - I can see a long long way - but of course what I CAN'T do is read close up. I know myself pretty well and did a little emotional work beforehand as it is a huge change even though a positive one.
My second surgery is due on the 25th April (yes, a Sunday!) and I keep feeling really sad about losing my close vision (even though this is literally holding a book within two inches of my face - still, it's MY vision, right?). I will always need glasses for this from now on - no peering at labels and seeing what they say, or even reading in bed without glasses.
It doesn't matter how much I remind myself that lots of 60 year olds have to have reading glasses, it feels like a bereavement and I feel as though I've consented to being disabled! Even though I really could hardly see at any distance before!
The only answer is to feel the feels and make the adjustment, but I thought if anybody anywhere would understand, it would be someone on NMP!
I'm truly grateful for the surgery, which went completely fine, as I really could hardly function visually. I definitely need the second eye doing as I am currently exhausted coping with the weird mis-match of vision.
But - I'm sad!
Hugs welcome. ;)