CoconutMonkey
15-06-22, 17:47
Hi Everyone,
First of all I'd like to mention that I'm a longtime lurker on this forum, as I've had HA for pretty much my whole life (I'm 46). You have been a source of comfort for me when I'm up all hours worrying. So thank you.
Right now I'm fully in a panic about my husband. This last weekend he suddenly noticed blood in his urine, so we went to the hospital. They did a CT and determined he has polycystic kidney disease. Not super surprising, as his brother and father have it (father had no idea until he was tested after brother developed it), but he did get tested 20 years ago and was clear. The doctors also found an "abnormality" on one of his kidneys, and they referred us to a urologist. We are waiting for the appointment.
The hospital seemed to think it was urgent that he get checked out, but when I asked if it was ok to wait 2 weeks for an appointment, they said it was fine and "these things are usually dealt with fairly easily." But they also gave us the urologist's phone number and said to call midweek if we hadn't heard anything.
Of course I ended up googling, and found some scary stats about kidney cancer. I know there are quite a few treatment options, like medication, or surgery, or removing the whole kidney, but the C-word is dominating my brain. My support network keeps reassuring me that we don't know what it is yet, but based on the doctor's urgency, I can't help but think it's bad. What if it's spread?
My HA is bad for me, but worse when I'm worrying about my loved ones. I can't eat and can barely focus because I'm so scared I'm going to lose him.
My husband feels fine, they said his bloodwork was good, but he still has some very faint pink happening in his urine, plus it's a little foamy.
We live in Canada and our province's health care system has been decimated by COVID and bad government, and so I'm so scared that my husband will fall through the cracks and it will be too late to fix this.
I know I'm catastrophizing, plus I have OCD, which makes everything worse. Any thoughts you guys can provide would be welcomed. I'm so scared.
First of all I'd like to mention that I'm a longtime lurker on this forum, as I've had HA for pretty much my whole life (I'm 46). You have been a source of comfort for me when I'm up all hours worrying. So thank you.
Right now I'm fully in a panic about my husband. This last weekend he suddenly noticed blood in his urine, so we went to the hospital. They did a CT and determined he has polycystic kidney disease. Not super surprising, as his brother and father have it (father had no idea until he was tested after brother developed it), but he did get tested 20 years ago and was clear. The doctors also found an "abnormality" on one of his kidneys, and they referred us to a urologist. We are waiting for the appointment.
The hospital seemed to think it was urgent that he get checked out, but when I asked if it was ok to wait 2 weeks for an appointment, they said it was fine and "these things are usually dealt with fairly easily." But they also gave us the urologist's phone number and said to call midweek if we hadn't heard anything.
Of course I ended up googling, and found some scary stats about kidney cancer. I know there are quite a few treatment options, like medication, or surgery, or removing the whole kidney, but the C-word is dominating my brain. My support network keeps reassuring me that we don't know what it is yet, but based on the doctor's urgency, I can't help but think it's bad. What if it's spread?
My HA is bad for me, but worse when I'm worrying about my loved ones. I can't eat and can barely focus because I'm so scared I'm going to lose him.
My husband feels fine, they said his bloodwork was good, but he still has some very faint pink happening in his urine, plus it's a little foamy.
We live in Canada and our province's health care system has been decimated by COVID and bad government, and so I'm so scared that my husband will fall through the cracks and it will be too late to fix this.
I know I'm catastrophizing, plus I have OCD, which makes everything worse. Any thoughts you guys can provide would be welcomed. I'm so scared.