katyfitz
27-06-22, 16:30
Hi guys,
Not sure if I’m posting in the correct group or not but just wanted to talk to some of you about my constant worrying. So throughout my life I’ve been in a few relationships but due to my anxiety, have always been cut short. I was in a relationship with someone for a while and I didn’t really feel comfortable with him after a while but he was quite forceful with me. Anyway, when I moved on from him I looked at every single guy like they were going to do the same to me, would ask my friends questions and they’d never get it cause they didn’t ‘think or overthink’ like me. Anyway a few years down the line I met a guy who told me he was single, turned out 6 weeks later to have a wife and kid and was playing us both along. It honestly put me off wanting any relationship and I felt my safety net was at home and as long as I was there and not in a relationship, I could breath Easily and know I wasn’t doing wrong. Now a few more years down the line and Covid hit, meaning we couldn’t meet anyone so I didn’t. Now pre pandemic and the world is starting to get normal, every time I’m out I get the stupid questions of ‘why are you still single’ ‘why haven’t you got kids yet’ ‘do you swing both ways’ ‘is your problem that you’re not sure what or who you want’. It’s honestly got me so depressed because so many people have opinions on other peoples lives. Why? I’m scared to go in to new places incase someone already has an opinion on me cause someone else has told them something which isn’t true. I should have grown out of this negative thinking by now but just can’t help it. Is anyone else in my shoes or is this just something that’s happening to me right now. Im 37. hopefully I’ll get some replies and if anyone wants to private DM me, feel free.
Thanks,
Kate
Not sure if I’m posting in the correct group or not but just wanted to talk to some of you about my constant worrying. So throughout my life I’ve been in a few relationships but due to my anxiety, have always been cut short. I was in a relationship with someone for a while and I didn’t really feel comfortable with him after a while but he was quite forceful with me. Anyway, when I moved on from him I looked at every single guy like they were going to do the same to me, would ask my friends questions and they’d never get it cause they didn’t ‘think or overthink’ like me. Anyway a few years down the line I met a guy who told me he was single, turned out 6 weeks later to have a wife and kid and was playing us both along. It honestly put me off wanting any relationship and I felt my safety net was at home and as long as I was there and not in a relationship, I could breath Easily and know I wasn’t doing wrong. Now a few more years down the line and Covid hit, meaning we couldn’t meet anyone so I didn’t. Now pre pandemic and the world is starting to get normal, every time I’m out I get the stupid questions of ‘why are you still single’ ‘why haven’t you got kids yet’ ‘do you swing both ways’ ‘is your problem that you’re not sure what or who you want’. It’s honestly got me so depressed because so many people have opinions on other peoples lives. Why? I’m scared to go in to new places incase someone already has an opinion on me cause someone else has told them something which isn’t true. I should have grown out of this negative thinking by now but just can’t help it. Is anyone else in my shoes or is this just something that’s happening to me right now. Im 37. hopefully I’ll get some replies and if anyone wants to private DM me, feel free.
Thanks,
Kate