worriedmuch
29-04-23, 20:15
Hello
Was wondering if anyone has experienced similar and had any ideas how to get over it?
Lately I've been experiencing anxiety every time I hear my neighbours do anything. I know it's irrational but I feel like I'm waiting for them to get noisy which they normally do. There is always some sort of DIY going on at the weekend or evenings and just the thought of every little bang or scrape is making me irrationality angry. They've always been noisy with DIY and parties etc and I never cared too much but just the sound of them is making me anxious now. We're in a semi detached house to them.
I think it started with the neighbours the other side. Every time the weather was nice and even in the winter sometimes the kids were out smashing the football against the fence, as if there's not a park up the road. They rarely even went on the grass it was always between the fence and their back door. They were horrid, noisy neighbours and the kids would either climb the fence to get the ball or be calling around for it. I know it's petty, but I just don't want that interaction. I want to be left in peace and not worried about kids coming in the garden! Thankfully, they eventually got evicted for something else, but I feel like I'm still anxious about the noise. I just hate nice weather now because people will be out in the gardens and the sound of the football grated on me to the point I was checking the windows to see if the kids were out with the ball or looking in our garden etc.
Luckily the new neighbours that side seem really nice with no kids in sight.
Back to the current problem, DIY neighbours are the type who do what they want but would be banging on the door if we made any noise (happened once when my dad knocked a single nail in). I just dread the banging and scraping. It echoes too, whenever they're in the back of the house. This has grated on me for a while but it got worse a couple of months ago when they were scraping the party wall at 11pm on a Friday night. I'm not an angry person usually, I hate confrontation and normally just cry but I hammered on the wall and called them selfish. They knocked the wall back, which made my anxiety worse. I hate confrontation because I feel like people will just laugh at me or dismiss me.
I feel like I'm living in a constant state of anxiety, waiting for them to make any kind of noise. I know it's irrational and just feel so ridiculous because they're not thinking about me at all. Even if it's not DIY they're just loud in general. Music blasting at any nice weather, the woman cackling as if she's sat at a cauldron, constant scraping and shuffling.
Sorry for the long rant, but any help would be appreciated!
Was wondering if anyone has experienced similar and had any ideas how to get over it?
Lately I've been experiencing anxiety every time I hear my neighbours do anything. I know it's irrational but I feel like I'm waiting for them to get noisy which they normally do. There is always some sort of DIY going on at the weekend or evenings and just the thought of every little bang or scrape is making me irrationality angry. They've always been noisy with DIY and parties etc and I never cared too much but just the sound of them is making me anxious now. We're in a semi detached house to them.
I think it started with the neighbours the other side. Every time the weather was nice and even in the winter sometimes the kids were out smashing the football against the fence, as if there's not a park up the road. They rarely even went on the grass it was always between the fence and their back door. They were horrid, noisy neighbours and the kids would either climb the fence to get the ball or be calling around for it. I know it's petty, but I just don't want that interaction. I want to be left in peace and not worried about kids coming in the garden! Thankfully, they eventually got evicted for something else, but I feel like I'm still anxious about the noise. I just hate nice weather now because people will be out in the gardens and the sound of the football grated on me to the point I was checking the windows to see if the kids were out with the ball or looking in our garden etc.
Luckily the new neighbours that side seem really nice with no kids in sight.
Back to the current problem, DIY neighbours are the type who do what they want but would be banging on the door if we made any noise (happened once when my dad knocked a single nail in). I just dread the banging and scraping. It echoes too, whenever they're in the back of the house. This has grated on me for a while but it got worse a couple of months ago when they were scraping the party wall at 11pm on a Friday night. I'm not an angry person usually, I hate confrontation and normally just cry but I hammered on the wall and called them selfish. They knocked the wall back, which made my anxiety worse. I hate confrontation because I feel like people will just laugh at me or dismiss me.
I feel like I'm living in a constant state of anxiety, waiting for them to make any kind of noise. I know it's irrational and just feel so ridiculous because they're not thinking about me at all. Even if it's not DIY they're just loud in general. Music blasting at any nice weather, the woman cackling as if she's sat at a cauldron, constant scraping and shuffling.
Sorry for the long rant, but any help would be appreciated!