Brain Tumor Fear

[ThomasJay]

Hi All,

I’m a 31 year old male, married and a father of one, that has been going through a ton of Health Anxiety fears and just need to speak to people that are having the same experience,

So where to begin , in May 2021 my wife was unfortunately diagnosed with a rare Cancer, we are still currently living with this and coming to terms with the whole ordeal. For the first 6 months I really felt like I was coping well but around December 2021 everything began to spiral out of control.

At first I started to notice spasms all over my body from my legs and shoulders that would happen continuously throughout the day. So what did I do, that’s right look at Dr. Google , big mistake . Then and still to this day I’ve got a strange dull ache in my right side of my stomach in line with my Belly Button that also is felt in my flank and my lower back some pints my right testical also aches like crazy . Naturally I had contacted the doctors, so I’ve had every blood test you can think , I’ve had 3 separate stool samples and also urine samples all clear , also a clear ultrasound .

After this I started to feel like I was getting back on track almost as if hearing the clear ultrasound gave me some Tiny release.

Since then I’ve had the following

Constant change in bowel habits
Constant itchy skin
Milky taste in mouth lasting weeks.
I’ve collapsed 3 times when on the toilet .
Chronic back ache
Hand Tremors
Brain fog
Panic attacks

The newest fear I’ve been having is a brain Tumor for the past 2 months I’ve had a horrible headache that I get each morning and it’s constant throughout the day ,

Some days it hits the back of my neck and majority it’s on the bridge of my nose and above my right eye , as well as my ear has been aching , I can’t stop thinking about these headaches , the tremors and also blurry vision (This I had checked and was told was fine by the opticians and I need glasses ). That something is seriously wrong I can’t get through a day currently without the fear of this .

I really just want to feel normal again, I’ve never had to deal with any form of anxiety really and
I’ve had to take some time off work to deal with everything that is going on. I’m worried to death that I will get Ill also and my child won’t have either me or my wife.

When my child gets Ill this sends me spiralling also as she’s had a lump in her neck for a while that the doctors have checked yet I can’t seem to believe them.

Thank you for taking your time to read I just really would appreciate any help.

Thanks,
Tom

[melie1818]

Hi All,

I’m a 31 year old male, married and a father of one, that has been going through a ton of Health Anxiety fears and just need to speak to people that are having the same experience,

So where to begin , in May 2021 my wife was unfortunately diagnosed with a rare Cancer, we are still currently living with this and coming to terms with the whole ordeal. For the first 6 months I really felt like I was coping well but around December 2021 everything began to spiral out of control.

At first I started to notice spasms all over my body from my legs and shoulders that would happen continuously throughout the day. So what did I do, that’s right look at Dr. Google , big mistake . Then and still to this day I’ve got a strange dull ache in my right side of my stomach in line with my Belly Button that also is felt in my flank and my lower back some pints my right testical also aches like crazy . Naturally I had contacted the doctors, so I’ve had every blood test you can think , I’ve had 3 separate stool samples and also urine samples all clear , also a clear ultrasound .

After this I started to feel like I was getting back on track almost as if hearing the clear ultrasound gave me some Tiny release.

Since then I’ve had the following

Constant change in bowel habits
Constant itchy skin
Milky taste in mouth lasting weeks.
I’ve collapsed 3 times when on the toilet .
Chronic back ache
Hand Tremors
Brain fog
Panic attacks

The newest fear I’ve been having is a brain Tumor for the past 2 months I’ve had a horrible headache that I get each morning and it’s constant throughout the day ,

Some days it hits the back of my neck and majority it’s on the bridge of my nose and above my right eye , as well as my ear has been aching , I can’t stop thinking about these headaches , the tremors and also blurry vision (This I had checked and was told was fine by the opticians and I need glasses ). That something is seriously wrong I can’t get through a day currently without the fear of this .

I really just want to feel normal again, I’ve never had to deal with any form of anxiety really and
I’ve had to take some time off work to deal with everything that is going on. I’m worried to death that I will get Ill also and my child won’t have either me or my wife.

When my child gets Ill this sends me spiralling also as she’s had a lump in her neck for a while that the doctors have checked yet I can’t seem to believe them.

Thank you for taking your time to read I just really would appreciate any help.

Thanks,
Tom

I didn’t want to read and run. Did you have health anxiety before your wife was diagnosed? It’s understandable that you feel this way. My health anxiety went out of control after my parents passed away and I’ve been told that there’s probably a direct link as you’ve learnt that life can be unpredictable so you always seem to be expected thing bad things to happen and every small symptom is blown out of proportion. I panic over my childrens health now too which didn’t worry me as much until a few years ago so can sympathise. Could you speak to your doctor about cbt as this is useful for helping to train your negative thoughts.

[ThomasJay]

Hi Melie ,

Thanks for taking your time out to reply , I think I had worried but not like this at all , my aniexty is all over the place , I’m calling the GP on Monday to see what they would recommend going forwards ,

Thanks again for responding, I just want these headaches to stop

[BlueIris]

I know how terrifying this must be, but there's a very real likelihood that this is all caused by the immense stress you've been under. I've had headaches for weeks and occasionally months when I've been going through a bad patch.

See your GP, hopefully get reassurance and keep being kind to yourself.