lofwyr
22-01-24, 19:28
My wife got covid the day after xmas, then it cleared up. Two weeks later she has all these new symptoms come out of the blue, which seem like they could be related to a viral infection, being covid, so I looked them up to help her come up with ways to deal with the symptoms.
Needless to say, cancer came up (doesn't it always?) as a perfect match for the symptoms she has developed.
What was intended as an innocent effort to help her alleviate what I assumed to be post covid viral related issues, has turned into a full blown HA attack on my part for her.
In my head, I have already catastrophised to the point where I am wondering if I am strong enough to help her through it, how will we tell our grown kids, and a hundred other things. You know the thoughts. Bear in mind, she has only now had these new symptoms for about 8 or 9 days.
The problem is, antibiotics didn't help the symptoms at all, and they have actually gotten somewhat worse. That fuels my worries, the "what if" scenarios.
She did make an appointment with her GP the day after tomorrow. Hopefully she will get some answers then, and more importantly, some relief. The poor woman's sleep has been terrible.
I pride myself in having more or less overcome health anxiety when it comes to my own health, but I am now beginning to realize I have miles to go when it comes to those I love.
The worst part is, we are very open in our communication, and she can read me like a book after 30 years together, so she knows I am spun up, which then I think she says it isn't so bad because she doesn't want me to worry even more.
How do you deal with it when it is someone you love and not yourself?
How does your loved one deal with it when you worry about them?
Needless to say, cancer came up (doesn't it always?) as a perfect match for the symptoms she has developed.
What was intended as an innocent effort to help her alleviate what I assumed to be post covid viral related issues, has turned into a full blown HA attack on my part for her.
In my head, I have already catastrophised to the point where I am wondering if I am strong enough to help her through it, how will we tell our grown kids, and a hundred other things. You know the thoughts. Bear in mind, she has only now had these new symptoms for about 8 or 9 days.
The problem is, antibiotics didn't help the symptoms at all, and they have actually gotten somewhat worse. That fuels my worries, the "what if" scenarios.
She did make an appointment with her GP the day after tomorrow. Hopefully she will get some answers then, and more importantly, some relief. The poor woman's sleep has been terrible.
I pride myself in having more or less overcome health anxiety when it comes to my own health, but I am now beginning to realize I have miles to go when it comes to those I love.
The worst part is, we are very open in our communication, and she can read me like a book after 30 years together, so she knows I am spun up, which then I think she says it isn't so bad because she doesn't want me to worry even more.
How do you deal with it when it is someone you love and not yourself?
How does your loved one deal with it when you worry about them?