Lilith1980
18-12-07, 19:08
Hi all
My boyfriend rang me tonight (he's working late) saying that he's been allowed back into our local pub.
Brief history: when we were still going to this local pub he went through a period of mixing his drinks and which basically turned him argumentative with people, and nasty towards me for no reason. There was also such an incident in this pub where he seemed to be flirting with one of our friends. Putting his arms round her and being too touchy feely for my liking. Other friends noticed this too when I told them and agreed it wasn't right. He didnt remember doing this but said it wouldnt happen again.
Since then, I've always been anxious about seeing this girl if we are out, we dont see her often but when we do my heart sinks and I feel like I should leave cos my b/f would rather be with her. Last time we saw her they hugged a couple of times, and he kissed her on the cheek. She looked emotional, maybe cos she hadnt seen him in months, they talked for a while and I was left standing there and it just seemed to me that there was "something there". I felt "in the way". All in my head I know but didnt seem any less real. My b/f said he would stop being so touchy feely with girls cos he said he wouldnt like it if I was like that with guys. He says he doesnt like this girl in that way because she "puts it about" and loves me because I'm not like that. We are getting married next year, he asked me to marry him. All the signs are that he loves ME :wacko:
He got barred from the pub on an occasion where he had again, mixed his drinks, was arguing with me for god knows whatever reason. He had asked me to meet him at this pub and when I phoned him to see if he was there he got stroppy and when I turned up he looked at me like I was dirt. This girl was sat with him, together with some other mates and I thought maybe he had gotten stroppy cos he didnt want me there. Anyway, the landlady suggested he leave and he said some nasty things to her, hence he got barred.
Anyway so when he told me tonight that he's been allowed back in, my heart sank. I dont know if I want to go back in there. I associate that pub with all those bad things that went on and I dont want to go through that again. We used to go in there most nights and I dont want to do that anymore, I dont want to be in there every other night. This girl is an issue for me too, she will no doubt be in there so I've got to deal with this. I'm suspicious she's after him even though she now has a b/f of her own.
She is cuddly with most people, maybe cos its my b/f she hugs and talks to about her problems, that I'm insecure. She has talked to him a lot in the past about problems in her life so maybe she looks up to my boyfriend which is a compliment to him. I just don't know what to do to deal with this, I feel so anxious at the moment.
To be honest I wish he hadnt been allowed back in, I've just got a bad feeling about it all :weep:
Any advice would be welcome guys xxxxx
My boyfriend rang me tonight (he's working late) saying that he's been allowed back into our local pub.
Brief history: when we were still going to this local pub he went through a period of mixing his drinks and which basically turned him argumentative with people, and nasty towards me for no reason. There was also such an incident in this pub where he seemed to be flirting with one of our friends. Putting his arms round her and being too touchy feely for my liking. Other friends noticed this too when I told them and agreed it wasn't right. He didnt remember doing this but said it wouldnt happen again.
Since then, I've always been anxious about seeing this girl if we are out, we dont see her often but when we do my heart sinks and I feel like I should leave cos my b/f would rather be with her. Last time we saw her they hugged a couple of times, and he kissed her on the cheek. She looked emotional, maybe cos she hadnt seen him in months, they talked for a while and I was left standing there and it just seemed to me that there was "something there". I felt "in the way". All in my head I know but didnt seem any less real. My b/f said he would stop being so touchy feely with girls cos he said he wouldnt like it if I was like that with guys. He says he doesnt like this girl in that way because she "puts it about" and loves me because I'm not like that. We are getting married next year, he asked me to marry him. All the signs are that he loves ME :wacko:
He got barred from the pub on an occasion where he had again, mixed his drinks, was arguing with me for god knows whatever reason. He had asked me to meet him at this pub and when I phoned him to see if he was there he got stroppy and when I turned up he looked at me like I was dirt. This girl was sat with him, together with some other mates and I thought maybe he had gotten stroppy cos he didnt want me there. Anyway, the landlady suggested he leave and he said some nasty things to her, hence he got barred.
Anyway so when he told me tonight that he's been allowed back in, my heart sank. I dont know if I want to go back in there. I associate that pub with all those bad things that went on and I dont want to go through that again. We used to go in there most nights and I dont want to do that anymore, I dont want to be in there every other night. This girl is an issue for me too, she will no doubt be in there so I've got to deal with this. I'm suspicious she's after him even though she now has a b/f of her own.
She is cuddly with most people, maybe cos its my b/f she hugs and talks to about her problems, that I'm insecure. She has talked to him a lot in the past about problems in her life so maybe she looks up to my boyfriend which is a compliment to him. I just don't know what to do to deal with this, I feel so anxious at the moment.
To be honest I wish he hadnt been allowed back in, I've just got a bad feeling about it all :weep:
Any advice would be welcome guys xxxxx