Bill
06-03-08, 03:17
A few things to think about.
We go through our first stages of life playing games and having fun without a care in the world. We have no worries, no pressures and feel free to just enjoy ourselves until one day we become aware of the real world, the stresses within it and then the worry starts when we feel we ought to be standing on our own two feet without support. This is when self-doubt begins.
Have you ever felt that nothing ever goes right? That we're almost but never quite there? We never quite make it? Is this, I wonder, connected to our expectation of failure, that we don't expect things to go right, that we don't have the strength to do things, that we don't deserve good things to happen..............so perhaps, they don't!
What if we started believing in ourselves, that we expect things to go right and that we also deserve good things to happen? What if we had that little bit of self belief to Make things go right?
Have you ever noticed how the more we want something, the less it seems to come to us? How when we want something so desperately, it doesn't seem happen?
I know I do this alot but I always think of sportsmen. When they have just a hint of self-doubt, things don't seem to fall right, their luck is out and yet when they relax and keep a carefree approach, winning becomes easy and a habit.
There's a saying about trying Too hard. Sometimes the more we try to think of a word we can't think of, the more it runs away until we forget about it and then it suddenly comes to us. Sometimes the more we fight for things to turn around, the more we just fall short whereas if we don't add pressure to ourselves then things become easier and self-belief takes over.
Some people say they're accident prone. I wonder if that's because they have no confidence in their own abilities so focus on every time they have an accident rather than the majority of time when they get things right. After all, we All make mistakes!
They also say money attracts money. I wonder if that's because the more you have, the less you worry about losing a little because fear isn't part of the equation determining our decisions.
I always believe that fear breeds fear of failure whereas self-belief breeds confidence to succeed. A positive mind encourages a positive approach and positive things to happen around us. A negative mind keeps us where we are in a dark pit of despair.
Often though we cannot change a habit of a lifetime alone. Often we need help to open the door in our minds to see the light of a "new way" of thinking. However, what we never seem to realise is that it's Already within us. We've just forgotten we ever had it in our childhood days before the responsibilities of life and bad events took our self belief away. :winks:
We go through our first stages of life playing games and having fun without a care in the world. We have no worries, no pressures and feel free to just enjoy ourselves until one day we become aware of the real world, the stresses within it and then the worry starts when we feel we ought to be standing on our own two feet without support. This is when self-doubt begins.
Have you ever felt that nothing ever goes right? That we're almost but never quite there? We never quite make it? Is this, I wonder, connected to our expectation of failure, that we don't expect things to go right, that we don't have the strength to do things, that we don't deserve good things to happen..............so perhaps, they don't!
What if we started believing in ourselves, that we expect things to go right and that we also deserve good things to happen? What if we had that little bit of self belief to Make things go right?
Have you ever noticed how the more we want something, the less it seems to come to us? How when we want something so desperately, it doesn't seem happen?
I know I do this alot but I always think of sportsmen. When they have just a hint of self-doubt, things don't seem to fall right, their luck is out and yet when they relax and keep a carefree approach, winning becomes easy and a habit.
There's a saying about trying Too hard. Sometimes the more we try to think of a word we can't think of, the more it runs away until we forget about it and then it suddenly comes to us. Sometimes the more we fight for things to turn around, the more we just fall short whereas if we don't add pressure to ourselves then things become easier and self-belief takes over.
Some people say they're accident prone. I wonder if that's because they have no confidence in their own abilities so focus on every time they have an accident rather than the majority of time when they get things right. After all, we All make mistakes!
They also say money attracts money. I wonder if that's because the more you have, the less you worry about losing a little because fear isn't part of the equation determining our decisions.
I always believe that fear breeds fear of failure whereas self-belief breeds confidence to succeed. A positive mind encourages a positive approach and positive things to happen around us. A negative mind keeps us where we are in a dark pit of despair.
Often though we cannot change a habit of a lifetime alone. Often we need help to open the door in our minds to see the light of a "new way" of thinking. However, what we never seem to realise is that it's Already within us. We've just forgotten we ever had it in our childhood days before the responsibilities of life and bad events took our self belief away. :winks: