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Hi again,
I am one for worrying about nothing, but there are the odd days i think im not gonna make it. My PAs have been getting better until today, it was a night-mare, i was sat at the computer playing a game, and all of a sudden i got a shiver up my spine, and felt really sick, then i started panicking and i couldn't stop, the sickness got worse, and i was on my own in the house, i didn't know wot to do, i tried phoning my nan, but the line was busy, I panicked even more then, but the line was only busy because she was trying to ring me but i didn't know that, i felt so scared on my own, i finally got in touch with nan, and i managed to get down-stairs a was there lying on the sofa till Jessi (sister) got home, i was on the phone to nan all the time, i was starting to feel better, by the time mum got home i was fine, but when it came to eating dinner i couldn't, my heart hadn't stopped racing for about 3 hours now, i was lying on the sofa for a good 6 hours before i came up-stairs to come on here, im still abit panicky as i write, i feel sick in the stomach, i didn't wot to do!
Has anyone been all alone while having a PA? Had no-one to turn to, had no-one to comfort you? it was so scary i didn't think i was gonna make it, im gonna go to bed now as its 11:42pm and maybe sleep will sort it out, it usually does, i wake up fine, its just the way i felt then, and the way i feel now, i just want it to go away it won't, im going on holiday on Monday i don't want my PAs to ruin it, it already causes enough trouble in my life, it could be worse, but its already getting to much for me, i am writing this trying not to cry, i'm just so sick of them, they're ruining my life, but there's no cure!
HELP! I really need to learn to except it!
Chaz xx
14 female
Dont let little things get you down, make the most of life
hi chaz im sorry you feel so unwell
i live on my own so yes i know how it feels to get them really bad and have no one to run to thats when you can learn to control them because you have to, next time your alone and one comes just tell yourself you had them before and they cant harm you, maybe lie down and let it go all through you. you cant fight it as that makes it much worse you just remember to keep calm and breath slowly it will soon stop and you will be ok its hard i know but you can do it just try let us know how you get on
fan x
"dont wait for the light at the end of the tunnel..........stride down there and light the bl**dy thing yourself!
Hi Chaz
I know this isnt easy for you but you are not alone and i do know how it feels to be alone. I first started suffering when Sam was on holiday with her dad thought at 3-4 i know she couldnt have given me support. The nights were the hardest for me as my support avenues were totally out of bounds, i couldnt go for a walk for the feeling of looking mad, i could call my friends or family as a night it wasnt the done thing for me. I stuggled through nights and when i look back and dont know how i got through them as they got so bad but i did just like you will.
Having a panic attack will wear you out and you do right relaxing and trying to get some sleep. Remember you are not alone, if you need text me or call me i dont mind and remember you family are with you.
You enjoy your time off school and take time to relax. We are all here to support you, so dont ever feel alone.
Love Sal xx
Dont mess up the best things in your life, just because at present you are unsure who you are.
Chaz See you have edited you post. You are not alone and you can cope and we will help you cope.
Love Sal xx
Dont mess up the best things in your life, just because at present you are unsure who you are.
Hiya Chaz
I used to struggle real bad with panic attacks exactly how you describe it.
One of my things was that they seemed to come out of the blue when I was happily playing a computer game.
I realised that depending on what game I was playing, if it was a fast pace game I was getting more panic attacks. I think this was cos I was getting excited and worked up playing the game my body mistook my 'excitement' sympoms as panic and therefore started a panic attack.
I LOVE my computer games but I had to start playing some that were a bit easier and less frantic until I had sorted my panic out a bit.
Does that make sense??
They were ruining my life too but there is a way out. It just takes damn hard work and practice but it is possible.
We are here to help you all the way!!!!
love Sarah
xx
Hi Chaz
How is today going for you. Hope you are feeling a bit better.
Love Sal xx
Dont mess up the best things in your life, just because at present you are unsure who you are.
I'm feeling ok today, but i don't wanna jinx it, i always feel better after sleep but i felt like this yesterday morning, and it got worse from there :( I hope i'll be ok today, by the way sarah what you said did make sense, lol, but the thing is it wasn't really a fast pace game, and thx sal, I might text/ring u some time, and yes i have a habbit of editting my post, Ill try not to do it anymore, lol. Some-times like now, i feel so much better just normal, but other times when it gets bad I really can't cope and i don't know what to do. When they come on they get me down so much, there's no point in crying about it, i know, but sometimes it feels like there's nothing else to do :(
So i will learn to cope? If yes, when? what if i don't learn to cope, i know i shouldn't but i can imagine my self in 10 years time, still having them stil being scared, I need to get out of the habbit of thinking about them all the time, which brings them on, and it goes on like that forever!
What can I do? I've tried little things to calm me down and to consentrate on but they don't seem to work!
chaz xx
Dont let little things get you down, make the most of life
hi chaz glad your feeling a bit better.try not to think " that the day might get worse just get through each day as it comes, you can learn to cope with them but the when is harder it doesnt happen over night im sure 10 years from now you will not still be where you are today you will have gotten them under control and probably not even bothering you you say you think about them all the time which brings them on so you do know what triggers them....try just not even let the thought into your head but if you start with one relax and let it finish then breath deep and carry on what you were doing............control them dont let them control you , they cant kill you so dont worry too much
fan x
"dont wait for the light at the end of the tunnel..........stride down there and light the bl**dy thing yourself!
hi chaz,
hope things are a bit better i read your letter with tears running down my face it so reminded me of myself at your age, what you have to remember even though they are the most terrifying thing in the world they will not harm you and you have to try and stay as calm as pos taking lots of slow breaths just keep telling your self your alright calm down over and over, you will get through this try and be positive dontlet them spoil your hol,s try and keep thingking about all the lovely things that you will do when you are on holiday i know it's easy to say it when your calm but try x hope you have a lovely holiday chin up big brave smile lots love kairenx
kairen x
hi chaz
yes i used to have panic attacks while on my own they can be very frightening...if you try to learn some deep breathing exercises and relaxation this will certainly help you ...you might think that deep breathing and relaxation are not very good BUT believe me they really do help.
take care
della:D
Hi Chaz
Learning to stay calm, breathe deeply and relaxing takes a bit of practice, but it can help you a great deal.
You have to keep telling yourself that these attacks are nasty, but they will not harm you.
Sometimes these attacks can come on for no reason whatsoever.
You can often feel that you are losing your mind. This is perfectly normal.
Hang in there hun.
Love, light and Best wishes
Liz xxx
With hard work and determination and all the things you know.
The world is there for you to take. There's nowhere you can't go.
[:p]Scatty Eccentric & 'Poet Laureate to panic and anxiety'
Chaz
Dont look to 10 years time look at it day by day or hour by hour. We will get you there and you yourself have that strength to get over this. You need our support at the moment but once you are that road that leads to happiness you will be posting about how your life has changed for the better.
You are young and you have your whole future infront of you and it will be a happy future, people loving you and wanting you to be happy.
Happiness comes from within and you are more than capable of getting there.
You will have bad days, hard days when you wonder what it is all about but the good days will overtake the bad and hard days and you will find happiness.
Your family have been so supportive and we all will be too, to make sure that you move on from this and it becomes something you gain strength from and not something that takes strength from you.
Love Sal xx
Dont mess up the best things in your life, just because at present you are unsure who you are.
I feel like I worry too much, it doesn't feel right telling everyone how bad I feel, when your all trying to feel better, I write out all my feelings on here and there usually all bad! At first it helped alot, now its just doesn't do alot anymore, I'm always repeating my-self about my feelings, My PAs are getting worse, and I'm starting to think I'm never gonna cope, there I am again, looking on the bad side of things, I need to start telling my-self I can cope, I'll feel better in afew months/years time, but it's easier said than done when you're having, or have just had a PA! I'm trying, they're new to me, and I havn't got used to them yet, used to controling them, used to calming my-self down! :(
I don't know if i could possibly get any more advice, but if there's anything else that helps, I'd like to know, thank-u!
chaz xx
Don't let little things get you down, make the most of life
nomorepanic
26-03-05, 18:42
Chaz
The only way I got over things was to keep reading information on sites like this one and re-assuring myself that it wouldn't kill me and I was going to get better.
I don't get panic attacks now I just get anxiety attacks which are just as frightening but I am learning to cope and control them.
It is a horrid thing to happen to anyone and must be so hard for someone your age so we all feel for you.
Has the doc suggested getting some form of counselling for you atall?
Nicola
hi Chaz,
As Nic says, one you drill into your head the fact that panoc attacks can't and won't hurt you, you will slowly start to feel better about the whole thing. I hope you are feeling more positive today hun!!
Sarah :D
Hi Chaz
Sorry you are having a rough time. I cant imagine how hard it is for you suffering and trying to cope with all the growing up stuff that comes along. But you are doing really well, you are talking which is so easy to stop and that would make you feel worse.
You know we all want to help and support you and we will do the best we can. Dont ever worry that you are repeating yourself say it as many times as you feel it if it helps you hon.
Love Sal xx
Dont mess up the best things in your life, just because at present you are unsure who you are.
hi chaz,
:D hope you are feeling a bit better, You've taken the first step in trying to find help here, so that's a start. every one knows how you feel so i doubt any one will think you are repeating yourself it does help to talk about it, i think you have the right attitude. you are trying to get through it and looking positive which is good.
try not to think too far ahead though just take each day as it comes. you will get there, just try and keep as clam as you can, nice slow breaths, try to do something straight away to take your mind of it, if you feel like one starting, even putting sum music on and singing your heart out anything that will distract your thoughts
Never think you cant talk about it everyone will want to help you here, no matter how many times you say it, we are all in the same boat and want to help each other ok darling feel free to email me anytime you want ok take care xx
kairen x
Hi Chaz
Hope this evening has been better for you hon. Can only remember how hard it was for me growing up without dealing with anxiety, so you are doing well. I wanted to fight everything that anyone mentioned and that is part of growning up but beside that you have the added problem of feeling anxious. But dont subtract the fact that you are growing up and it isnt easy and things will get to you but not just through anxiety but through pure and simple that you are changing from a teenager to a young lady. Here for you and we know how hard this must be for you.
Love Sal xx
Dont mess up the best things in your life, just because at present you are unsure who you are.
thx, I do try to distract my-self as soon as i feel one coming on, i don't like to make a big deal out of them, so i try to ignore them, and not tell anyone I'm having one until it gets bad, I didn't tell my mum I had one yesterday, I'm not sure if that was wrong or not, but I guess it didn't matter, cos I got my-self out of it eventually. I am feeling better today, and when I fell better (normal), I try to make the most of it, get things done that I would normally be iffy about, I dont like saying I fell better, because I might jinx it, that's happened alot, I'd say I'm fine and afew hours later I'd have a PA, typical. But times like this I feel like I can cope fine, and I'm starting to get my-self out of a PA before it starts which is gud! :)
Im going on holiday in about 2.5hrs so I won't see you all for abit, I hope I can cope, if I have the attitude I do now I'll be fine, but it's keeping that attitude thats the hard part. Is there any women who have suffered PA through their teenage years? If there is, I'd like to ask afew questions!
Chaz xx
Dont let little things get you down, make the most of life
Chaz
You are dong great trust me on that.
You have a brilliant holiday and try to leave all of it at home. WE are all thinking of you and will talk when you get back. You have my mobile number and if you need to text me hon. Enjoy it and be yourself.
Love Sal xx
Dont mess up the best things in your life, just because at present you are unsure who you are.
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