phil06
23-04-08, 20:14
I posted a few topics on here about this before but still find it hard:
http://www.nomorepanic.co.uk/showthread.php?t=26926
http://www.nomorepanic.co.uk/showthread.php?t=18713
Basically i need to tell people everything on my mind like I feel I need to confess or they will find out some how and I've rooted it back to my anxiety problems and since they got worse, the last few months its all been thoughts, worrying and advice.
When I talk to somebody new like before i go on a date I need to tell them all my problems, anxiety problems I've had because my first thought is "if they find out later down the line, they may leave me or be put off". The last date i went on with a lassie never went too well as I told her my life story and she only wanted a laugh and it was too much for her at first.
I've had similar problems with friends, nearly ended friendships because i go on about my problems and how crap life can be. I made up with them but have started to slip into old routines I just forget all what happened and start talking about all my problems.
I think it could be lack of confidence, I've got into a old routine of telling people everything problem is I then get emotional and then I get sympathy which I don't want.
Can anybody give me advice to get my thoughts and feelings under control? When I am in the situation I feel I need to confess to either family, friends, or a girlfriend at the time and it's costing me relationships meaning I will end up depressed and down with nothing. I sometimes say stuff that can be hurtful to there feelings or it sounds crazy, and they may be offended.
I feel I need to make changes and I'm sure it's anxiety/lack of confidence but not sure how to control it of if anybody has experienced similar? As usual my mind is running away with me saying maybe I have this wrong with me which is causing it.:unsure:
http://www.nomorepanic.co.uk/showthread.php?t=26926
http://www.nomorepanic.co.uk/showthread.php?t=18713
Basically i need to tell people everything on my mind like I feel I need to confess or they will find out some how and I've rooted it back to my anxiety problems and since they got worse, the last few months its all been thoughts, worrying and advice.
When I talk to somebody new like before i go on a date I need to tell them all my problems, anxiety problems I've had because my first thought is "if they find out later down the line, they may leave me or be put off". The last date i went on with a lassie never went too well as I told her my life story and she only wanted a laugh and it was too much for her at first.
I've had similar problems with friends, nearly ended friendships because i go on about my problems and how crap life can be. I made up with them but have started to slip into old routines I just forget all what happened and start talking about all my problems.
I think it could be lack of confidence, I've got into a old routine of telling people everything problem is I then get emotional and then I get sympathy which I don't want.
Can anybody give me advice to get my thoughts and feelings under control? When I am in the situation I feel I need to confess to either family, friends, or a girlfriend at the time and it's costing me relationships meaning I will end up depressed and down with nothing. I sometimes say stuff that can be hurtful to there feelings or it sounds crazy, and they may be offended.
I feel I need to make changes and I'm sure it's anxiety/lack of confidence but not sure how to control it of if anybody has experienced similar? As usual my mind is running away with me saying maybe I have this wrong with me which is causing it.:unsure: