Mags01SP
29-04-08, 21:47
I didn't know exactly where to but this, but I thought it is social, so..
I'm 17, and the last two(and only two relationships) I've had have ended because of my anxiety/depression. Because of this I fear being involved with anyone in that way. I've talked to a lot of people and have done a lot of thinking over the last year or so, but I thought I might as well ask here.
Each time I think about being in a relationship or dating a boy I'm interested in, or if there's any chance we may get closer I get nervous, panicky feelings that continue until I'm distracted. They're not crippling in any way, just an annoyance and -of course - discouraging.
I am going out with a boy this evening(I hope, if I can get a ride) and I've been nervous/excited about it for the last two days. I dread going, but at the same time I am happy. But I couldn't even think about being his girlfriend without feeling worried/anxious. My other relationships ended because I panicked constantly and couldn't stop thinking negatively. Though I am medicated now, I still get some feelings.
I am friends with many boys, and just talking and hanging out with them never bothers me. It's dating that's always been nerve-wracking.
Which is better for this situation?
Should I try to date someone and just stick with it even if the feelings from before return? Or should I wait until there's no anxious feelings? I've been believing the second option for a long time, but I'm starting to think maybe the feelings won't go away unless I get more experience and more comfortable. But I don't want to just jump into something again and then it wouldn't be fair to the other person, etc. What do you think?
- Maggie
I'm 17, and the last two(and only two relationships) I've had have ended because of my anxiety/depression. Because of this I fear being involved with anyone in that way. I've talked to a lot of people and have done a lot of thinking over the last year or so, but I thought I might as well ask here.
Each time I think about being in a relationship or dating a boy I'm interested in, or if there's any chance we may get closer I get nervous, panicky feelings that continue until I'm distracted. They're not crippling in any way, just an annoyance and -of course - discouraging.
I am going out with a boy this evening(I hope, if I can get a ride) and I've been nervous/excited about it for the last two days. I dread going, but at the same time I am happy. But I couldn't even think about being his girlfriend without feeling worried/anxious. My other relationships ended because I panicked constantly and couldn't stop thinking negatively. Though I am medicated now, I still get some feelings.
I am friends with many boys, and just talking and hanging out with them never bothers me. It's dating that's always been nerve-wracking.
Which is better for this situation?
Should I try to date someone and just stick with it even if the feelings from before return? Or should I wait until there's no anxious feelings? I've been believing the second option for a long time, but I'm starting to think maybe the feelings won't go away unless I get more experience and more comfortable. But I don't want to just jump into something again and then it wouldn't be fair to the other person, etc. What do you think?
- Maggie