Emphyrio
12-06-08, 01:13
Hello,
I've known this website for quite some time now but thought I would post and introduce myself. First things first - I am a 25 year old guy, I have an undergrad degree, work in an investment bank with friendly colleagues, own a car, and will be going back to university this autumn for a master's degree. In February I came off my medication (fluoxetine) which I had been taking for over 4 years.
Three years ago I would have thought I've made excellent progress if I saw things as they are today, however I can't remember a time when I've felt more depressed/hopeless/unconfident...some of my feelings and thoughts are below - if you guys have any experiences/techniques for dealing with them I'd be very interested in hearing.
Ok...first things first - I have a general worry about upsetting or annoying people. This tends to prevent me driving much, especially on unfamiliar roads. I get worried when waiting at junctions in case I "hold up" or annoy those behind me, and feel agitated and worry in case I will pull out into traffic instead of waiting - just incase somebody was to beep or gesture in impatience. Same with entering roundabouts - if there is somebody behind I feel much more agitated than if the roads were quiet. I guess that I'm worried about people being angry/upset with me as I would take this to heart...some people can shrug off criticism/angry gestures/verbal abuse easily - however I would dwell on this and worry about it and try to avoid it in future. I haven't caused an accident (or come close to) before because of this - but I always worry that I'm somehow holding people up and thus I'm not relaxed at all - I try to avoid inconveniencing people wherever possible. I see old people going at 40mph on A-roads with a queue of traffic building up behind yet they seem to be fine with driving and can cope with other people showing signs of impatience...whereas I drive at the limit (or slightly above) yet I still worry that I'm holding somebody up when I'm going at 65mph on an A-road and there is a faster driver behind.
Secondly, I always seem to worry about irrational things and always think that the worst will happen. If I am going abroad - I worry in case I get drugs planted on me. If I get a haircut I worry in case I just decide to pull my head back suddenly and ruin my haircut. When I was at university and went trips, eg hillwalking, I worried in case some people shaved my eyebrows off as a prank or in case I soiled the bed. In all these cases I worry about the consequences of such actions (eg going to jail, being unable to go anywhere because of a messed up haircut, being embarrassed/stand out in a crowd). I used to worry about being sick in a public place (embarrassment) and as a result I felt nauseous when I went out places such as the cinema and restaurants, but thankfully I don't worry about this as much these days. I also had thoughts about hurting/attacking people or myself for no reason (I never did this - but I always had the worry that I might) which caused me distress (again, I always worried about possible consequences of actions.) This hasn't bothered me much recently but caused me great distress in the past and such thoughts have tended to come and go.
As well as the low confidence/low self esteem and other worries, when I think the worst will happen, and it doesn't - I always seem to drag myself back down by thinking "why are things going good for me - they shouldn't be" and then the worries such as those above come back...its a vicious circle. I don't know whether I should see about going back on fluoxetine as I've felt more depressed and unconfident since coming off it...does anyone here relate to the above, and have any more tips for improving self esteem and confidence?
Thanks for reading.
Pete
I've known this website for quite some time now but thought I would post and introduce myself. First things first - I am a 25 year old guy, I have an undergrad degree, work in an investment bank with friendly colleagues, own a car, and will be going back to university this autumn for a master's degree. In February I came off my medication (fluoxetine) which I had been taking for over 4 years.
Three years ago I would have thought I've made excellent progress if I saw things as they are today, however I can't remember a time when I've felt more depressed/hopeless/unconfident...some of my feelings and thoughts are below - if you guys have any experiences/techniques for dealing with them I'd be very interested in hearing.
Ok...first things first - I have a general worry about upsetting or annoying people. This tends to prevent me driving much, especially on unfamiliar roads. I get worried when waiting at junctions in case I "hold up" or annoy those behind me, and feel agitated and worry in case I will pull out into traffic instead of waiting - just incase somebody was to beep or gesture in impatience. Same with entering roundabouts - if there is somebody behind I feel much more agitated than if the roads were quiet. I guess that I'm worried about people being angry/upset with me as I would take this to heart...some people can shrug off criticism/angry gestures/verbal abuse easily - however I would dwell on this and worry about it and try to avoid it in future. I haven't caused an accident (or come close to) before because of this - but I always worry that I'm somehow holding people up and thus I'm not relaxed at all - I try to avoid inconveniencing people wherever possible. I see old people going at 40mph on A-roads with a queue of traffic building up behind yet they seem to be fine with driving and can cope with other people showing signs of impatience...whereas I drive at the limit (or slightly above) yet I still worry that I'm holding somebody up when I'm going at 65mph on an A-road and there is a faster driver behind.
Secondly, I always seem to worry about irrational things and always think that the worst will happen. If I am going abroad - I worry in case I get drugs planted on me. If I get a haircut I worry in case I just decide to pull my head back suddenly and ruin my haircut. When I was at university and went trips, eg hillwalking, I worried in case some people shaved my eyebrows off as a prank or in case I soiled the bed. In all these cases I worry about the consequences of such actions (eg going to jail, being unable to go anywhere because of a messed up haircut, being embarrassed/stand out in a crowd). I used to worry about being sick in a public place (embarrassment) and as a result I felt nauseous when I went out places such as the cinema and restaurants, but thankfully I don't worry about this as much these days. I also had thoughts about hurting/attacking people or myself for no reason (I never did this - but I always had the worry that I might) which caused me distress (again, I always worried about possible consequences of actions.) This hasn't bothered me much recently but caused me great distress in the past and such thoughts have tended to come and go.
As well as the low confidence/low self esteem and other worries, when I think the worst will happen, and it doesn't - I always seem to drag myself back down by thinking "why are things going good for me - they shouldn't be" and then the worries such as those above come back...its a vicious circle. I don't know whether I should see about going back on fluoxetine as I've felt more depressed and unconfident since coming off it...does anyone here relate to the above, and have any more tips for improving self esteem and confidence?
Thanks for reading.
Pete