Help required (or rant needed!)

[peteacher]

I have been seeing a counsellor for a few months, originally for OCD tendencies but loads of cans of worms seem to be opening!! My Mum is an alcoholic, she has been off drink for about 9 months but in the past couple of weeks she has been having some stressful times and resorted to wine on a daily basis, from when she wakes up to when she goes to bed :(

My older brother who I used to be very close to seems to be depressed but he thinks counselling either wont help or is too expensive (he saw someone last yr but after a while he didnt feel it was helping so maybe thinks the same thing will happen if he tries again?) He hates his job but worries if he leaves/changes career he will never be employed again, then become a burden to family & then become homeless (he is an extreme worrier!) He doesnt socialise with anyone apart from a few work things which he usually moans about anyway.
I am just at a loss, I hate seeing them unhappy but know I cant solve their problems (my counsellor has suggested that I have control issues and dont like uncertainty).
It has also transpired recently that I have separation anxiety, which is not good as my Mum goes on holiday for a fortnight tomorrow! :weep: I dont know who/if anyone I can share this with without feeling weird.

If you have got this far, thanks for reading!
Any suggestions/ideas will be gratefully received

[marie1974]

hiya i can tell u are a very caring person but we cant help everyone and people do have to help themselves hun. i would concentrate on u and your CBT and getting better yourself. i have CBT and its helped me lots.
as for your mum and the alchohol dont blame yourself, you cant do anymore she will only really stop when she really wants too. please think about u cos u are important hugs ps if u want any advice on alchohol hun wayne on here is great and really clued up on stuff, im sure he wont mind u asking u can say donna01 told u too lol. he is a lovely bloke very helpful