nikkinik
09-07-08, 12:17
Hi,
My name is Nikki, and Ive had panic attacks for about 4+ years now and my doctor confirmed agoraphobia 9 months ago (although I knew I had it about 2.5 years prior to that!)
..basically I lost my b/f, the father of my son in, in 2003 when I was 6 weeks pregnant with our son.. I got depressed and signed of work at around the 8/9 wk mark, I didnt want to see anyone or do anything and I pretty much only left the house to buy food occasionally, attend docs apptmts etc, the morning sickness also kept me in. I also didnt want to go out incase I caught anything (!), I was petrified of getting sick and possibly harming the baby, then when my son was born I was petrified of him getting ill, and selfishly avoided sending him off to nursery for as long as I could due to this (luckily he is quite outgoing and not shy though and has been attending nursery for about 2+ years).
In late 2004 I met my now fiance and had my first panic attack in a cinema.. it then happened again on another time we were in a theatre and so I started avoiding going to the cinema etc, then it happened again whilst shopping in Asda.. then again out shopping in the city centre.. so I pretty much avoided going out (making things even worse), so now its a massive struggle to get anywhere and I panic every single time I leave the house.
I also have emetophobia and have had this since I was little, no idea what started that though.
In Feb this yr I had my ectopic pregnancy (making my panic worse) and still today my health is awful. I never feel rested after 8 hours sleep, Im always so so tired and feeling really weak, Im also usually nauseous which means Im not eatting well, and Im sorry to say my 4 year old eats more than me- hence me losing weight so Im now an awful looking size 6 and ppl now coment on my weight and even my Mum is worrying about me..
The main thing is that I do get really afraid of how ill Im feeling now (and have been for about the last 4 months) and it makes me panic more when I do think about it.
Its like if youre sick with flu you stay in till yours better, you wouldnt think of forcing yourself out for a walk or to go shopping etc, and to this day I have no idea when Im actually ill and whether I should stay in, I just shove myself out regardless - making me panic before Ive opened the door, thinking what if I throw up and make a fool of myself, or throw up so much Im too weak to get back home safely, what if I do pass out, what if I am sick with an awful illness and Im not listening to my body telling me to stay in and rest, what if I faint whilst out with my 4 year old - what happens to him when Im unconsious.. the list goes on!
I am trying to get out, but I dont go out every single day if Im honest, some days I just feel so exhausted.
I have read this: http://www.nomorepanic.co.uk/NMPcms.php?nmppage=symptoms
Ive also had an xray, blood tests, ultra sound, an upper endoscopy, urine tests, all came back ok.
I'll list what I feel:
I feel extrememly weak upon waking - terrible if I wake before a min of 8hrs sleep, then Im shakey, find it hard to stand and walk and Im really unsteady in the dark,
I feel my legs wont carry me,
My stomach is usually tense, sometime v tense and painful,
Nauseous alot, nothing really tempts me and Im not eatting well and therfor losing weight, am now 7.5 stone (have lost half a stone over the last 2 months or so,
My body aches, sometimes is painful,
If I stand or turn around things seem like theyre moving/swaying even when Im stood still,
Feel exhausted, like I could sleep all day and still not feel refreshed,
I cant think straight, in conversations I cant think of the right words, when typing I forget how to spell and have to really think about it!
When I do go out, or work in the garden or do housework Im exhausted, even little things like showers exhaust me and leave me a little breathless.
Even after reading that page/link I listed earlier I still cant believe that I can feel *this* ill from just anxiety because I really do feel truely awful.
Everyday is a struggle and afterall, Im 28 not 98!
I have a 4 year old son who wants chasing around but I cant, I have a house to clean which I cant, I dont even want to shower myself as much (I used to shower daily, now its every 2-3 days) because Im so knackered to start with and after the shower its like my energy for the day has gone..
I have heard exercise will make it better, but even a little trip to the shop (by car!) to buy bread, milk etc will leave me exhausted and feeling worse the next day.. so rest does make it easier, but then the agoraphobia isnt going to get better with rest.
I have convinced myself Ive got CFS or Fybromialgia, or even something sinister thats not been picked up yet.. when I feel like my legs wont carry me, that I dont want a meal because I feel sick, when I feel this weak I just wonder how long it will be before I end up in hospital.. and Ive been there and Im sure you know what its like, you lay there all day feeling sorry for yourself, you dont get a wink of sleep, the food is digusting and makes you heave and not want to eat, the likelyhood of being seen by a doctor or getting the tests etc are few and far between...
Please help me, I honestly feel like Im going mad with all this, I just dont know whats going on with me.. am I ill and the anxiety is just an excuse for the doctors to pin it on?
Im not on medication, the doctor said Ive pretty much tried them all and nothing has worked, so hes suggested counselling and Im due for that in a week now I think.
Thanks for reading,
Nikkixx.
My name is Nikki, and Ive had panic attacks for about 4+ years now and my doctor confirmed agoraphobia 9 months ago (although I knew I had it about 2.5 years prior to that!)
..basically I lost my b/f, the father of my son in, in 2003 when I was 6 weeks pregnant with our son.. I got depressed and signed of work at around the 8/9 wk mark, I didnt want to see anyone or do anything and I pretty much only left the house to buy food occasionally, attend docs apptmts etc, the morning sickness also kept me in. I also didnt want to go out incase I caught anything (!), I was petrified of getting sick and possibly harming the baby, then when my son was born I was petrified of him getting ill, and selfishly avoided sending him off to nursery for as long as I could due to this (luckily he is quite outgoing and not shy though and has been attending nursery for about 2+ years).
In late 2004 I met my now fiance and had my first panic attack in a cinema.. it then happened again on another time we were in a theatre and so I started avoiding going to the cinema etc, then it happened again whilst shopping in Asda.. then again out shopping in the city centre.. so I pretty much avoided going out (making things even worse), so now its a massive struggle to get anywhere and I panic every single time I leave the house.
I also have emetophobia and have had this since I was little, no idea what started that though.
In Feb this yr I had my ectopic pregnancy (making my panic worse) and still today my health is awful. I never feel rested after 8 hours sleep, Im always so so tired and feeling really weak, Im also usually nauseous which means Im not eatting well, and Im sorry to say my 4 year old eats more than me- hence me losing weight so Im now an awful looking size 6 and ppl now coment on my weight and even my Mum is worrying about me..
The main thing is that I do get really afraid of how ill Im feeling now (and have been for about the last 4 months) and it makes me panic more when I do think about it.
Its like if youre sick with flu you stay in till yours better, you wouldnt think of forcing yourself out for a walk or to go shopping etc, and to this day I have no idea when Im actually ill and whether I should stay in, I just shove myself out regardless - making me panic before Ive opened the door, thinking what if I throw up and make a fool of myself, or throw up so much Im too weak to get back home safely, what if I do pass out, what if I am sick with an awful illness and Im not listening to my body telling me to stay in and rest, what if I faint whilst out with my 4 year old - what happens to him when Im unconsious.. the list goes on!
I am trying to get out, but I dont go out every single day if Im honest, some days I just feel so exhausted.
I have read this: http://www.nomorepanic.co.uk/NMPcms.php?nmppage=symptoms
Ive also had an xray, blood tests, ultra sound, an upper endoscopy, urine tests, all came back ok.
I'll list what I feel:
I feel extrememly weak upon waking - terrible if I wake before a min of 8hrs sleep, then Im shakey, find it hard to stand and walk and Im really unsteady in the dark,
I feel my legs wont carry me,
My stomach is usually tense, sometime v tense and painful,
Nauseous alot, nothing really tempts me and Im not eatting well and therfor losing weight, am now 7.5 stone (have lost half a stone over the last 2 months or so,
My body aches, sometimes is painful,
If I stand or turn around things seem like theyre moving/swaying even when Im stood still,
Feel exhausted, like I could sleep all day and still not feel refreshed,
I cant think straight, in conversations I cant think of the right words, when typing I forget how to spell and have to really think about it!
When I do go out, or work in the garden or do housework Im exhausted, even little things like showers exhaust me and leave me a little breathless.
Even after reading that page/link I listed earlier I still cant believe that I can feel *this* ill from just anxiety because I really do feel truely awful.
Everyday is a struggle and afterall, Im 28 not 98!
I have a 4 year old son who wants chasing around but I cant, I have a house to clean which I cant, I dont even want to shower myself as much (I used to shower daily, now its every 2-3 days) because Im so knackered to start with and after the shower its like my energy for the day has gone..
I have heard exercise will make it better, but even a little trip to the shop (by car!) to buy bread, milk etc will leave me exhausted and feeling worse the next day.. so rest does make it easier, but then the agoraphobia isnt going to get better with rest.
I have convinced myself Ive got CFS or Fybromialgia, or even something sinister thats not been picked up yet.. when I feel like my legs wont carry me, that I dont want a meal because I feel sick, when I feel this weak I just wonder how long it will be before I end up in hospital.. and Ive been there and Im sure you know what its like, you lay there all day feeling sorry for yourself, you dont get a wink of sleep, the food is digusting and makes you heave and not want to eat, the likelyhood of being seen by a doctor or getting the tests etc are few and far between...
Please help me, I honestly feel like Im going mad with all this, I just dont know whats going on with me.. am I ill and the anxiety is just an excuse for the doctors to pin it on?
Im not on medication, the doctor said Ive pretty much tried them all and nothing has worked, so hes suggested counselling and Im due for that in a week now I think.
Thanks for reading,
Nikkixx.