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A couple of weeks ago I posted a message about a night out from work, i was desperate to go and you all sent me positive vibes, but i still didnt go, got out the door but that was it. Havent been out in months. A year actually,Socialising. This Sunday I have a christening and I have decided i am going. I have made all the backup plans if cannot cope when there etc but it is not if i can go it is when i go. I will go !it is time I got back into society, if I cant then I will never be happy, this site has helped me tremendously as has professional advice but I need to get out there soon please watch this space on Sunday and Monday all you supporters and thanks.
Alexis
Hi Alexis
Well done for making the decision to go to the christening. It is also good that you have back-ups plans in reserve if you find things difficult, but are determined to go no matter what.
I had to do this recently for my best friend's daughter's christening. I had decided that I would go to the christening service, even though I was really anxious about the number of people going but told my friend I might leave straight after rather than going to the party.
I did end up going to the party too and although I felt panicky and anxious during it, I made myself stay. I had to nip out to the toilets a couple of times to calm down but my friend was really pleased that I had gone at all.
You can do this Alexis and we are all behind you.
Karen
It is not easy to find happiness in ourselves, and it is not possible to find it elsewhere.
you'll be fine alexis, honest, you have my mobile txt me through the day if u want, just make suve u put yr phone on silent dont want u getting hacky looks lol xx
kairen x
Hi
Just keep thinking positive. I was given the idea of carrying something with you that belongs to some close to you. If I am going somewhere I haven't been before, I carry a small penknife that was my dads. (He died a long time ago) He used to use it in the garden. He was a very gentle person very easy going, nothing bothered him. If I start to feel anxious I slip my hand in my pocket hold the pen knife and smile to myself. I feel he is with me all the way with his calming influence.
It is just a thought if you want to give it a try.
Best wishes for Sunday !!!
Jen.xx
J. Farmer
Hi Alexis,
great to hear that you are going to the christening, you will be fine, have all your little back-ups with you, and try not to worry too much beforehand, as i think this is sometimes actually worse than the event, as you say you have thought it through and will be disappointed if you don't i had this last year, and to be honest i actually went out and enjoyed it!! By the way, forget about the night out from work, that was then, go for it and keep in touch.
hi Alexis,
I'm glad that you have decided to go - good luck!!
Sarah :D
Hi Alexis ,
Give it your best shot .. Rescue remedy yourself up and take a spiked water bottle with you.
Good to have plan B
Meg
www.anxietymanagementltd.com
Watch your thoughts, they become your words...
Watch your words, they become your actions... Watch your actions, they become your habits... Watch your habits, they become your character... Watch your character, it becomes your destiny...
Good Luck for Sunday Alex.
Keep up those POSITIVE thoughts.
Let us know how you get on.
All the best.
Love PIP'S X
nomorepanic
06-05-05, 11:12
Alexis
Wishing you all the best of luck. We will be sending you positive vibes so you can do it ok?
Just remember that you can leave at any time and no-one will mind.
Nicola
Hi Alexis
Great decision!!
Hope you'll manage ok, and even if you don't , you will be proud for doing it!!!! so... way to go I say !!
Let us know.
Florence.
**To conquer fear is the beginning of wisdom.**
Hi Alexis
Try it and that is the step in the right direction. I am sure you will be fine but if you arent you didnt failed you got ready and you tried and doing that is great.
Someone who isnt even prepared to try wouldnt even post let alone move on to getting ready etc. You are on the right road here so keep trying and you are doing really well.
Love Sal xx
Dont mess up the best things in your life, just because at present you are unsure who you are.
Thank you all for positive thoughts vibes etc, it is now the evening before and Im feeling really scared, jittery, hot sweaty and palpitations but Im up for it still, my 83 year old mum would be just as disappointed as me if I didnt go, hope to be posting good news here sunday or monday thanks again, love Alexis
Hi Alexis
Keep the positive thoughts going. This is often the worst bit and when you actually are there tomorrow it is likely to be a lot better than you are imagining right now.
Make sure you have your coping strategies in place and your plan B just as a backup plan.
You can do it. Will be thinking of you.
Karen
It is not easy to find happiness in ourselves, and it is not possible to find it elsewhere.
Alexis, Good luck! ill be thinking of you, let us know how it goes.
Well it is now gone 2am and i am still in chat.I think if I dont go to bed i cant get up.
Had trouble sleeping for a while, got better but not tonight, I cannot believe I can feel like this, I dont want to go to christening, I dont want to go anywhere other than home.I was always the one was outgoing now i just want stay at home but I will be up and i will go. mail u all tomorrow.Thanks for your support
Love Alexis
Hi alexis
Try it and see how it goes. We are all hoping you get through it and me personally think you will and will post a positive post after it.
Have a good day and enjoy it, you deserve it. Will be thinking of you.
Love Sal xx
Dont mess up the best things in your life, just because at present you are unsure who you are.
Hi Alexis
Hope it goes well, let us know. :)
Florence.
** Faith is taking the first step even when you don't see the whole staircase.**
Well here I am and i did it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I stayed up the majority of the night trying to convince myself I would be too tired or too ill to go which to me would be my excuse if I couldnt go becase I wanted to do it!!
I was physically sick twice whilst getting ready and had awful chest pains, silly breathing etc.
I went armed with rescue remedy, I got to church and had to go out after about 25mins and wait about another 25 outside. ( too long for a christening anyway)I then went to the reception and was able to sit outside and get up and down and pace as much as i wanted or needed to. We went in when it rained and the house was so big we were spread out and I sat in a room with just 3 of us for most of the time but kept wandering and talking to others.Getting drinks lol.
I was able to text Kairen throughout which I think made it so much easier knowing there was somebody on the end of the phone that understood.
So although I was not relaxed and cannot really say i enjoyed it I did it and know it is going to get easier.
Thankyou all for your support.i have jumped a massive hurdle today.
Love Alexis.
:D BRILLIANT FANTASTIC WOW xxxxxxxx
Alexis,
I have just sent you a PM re this so ignore it!
WELL DONE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! yay to you!!!! who cares if you didn't enjoy it! you went! you must be so so proud of yourself!
Brilliant news,
Lisa
xxx
Well done Alexis YOU GO GIRL!!!![Wow!][Yeah!]:):D
Hi
Great news, you did it !!! [8D]
Way to go.
Florence.
** Faith is taking the first step even when you don't see the whole staircase.**
well done pet told you, you could do it, enjoy yr cup tea and give yrself a pat on the back YOU DID IT well done dont tleave it sop long till u go out next time keep the ball rolling big hug matexx
kairen x
Well done Alexis. You did so well. I know socialising like this isn't easy, and I had to keep going out to calm down when I recently attending a christening too, but you stayed and you got through it.
Glad you were able to text Kairen throughout which helped.
You can feel really proud of your achievements today.
Karen
It is not easy to find happiness in ourselves, and it is not possible to find it elsewhere.
Alexis ,
Very well done indeed ... You are indeed starting on the recovery journey.
Congratulations
Meg
www.anxietymanagementltd.com
Watch your thoughts, they become your words...
Watch your words, they become your actions... Watch your actions, they become your habits... Watch your habits, they become your character... Watch your character, it becomes your destiny...
Hi Alexis
Well done you and pleased you got through it without to much anxiety.
See you need to have more faith in yourself and what you are capable of.
Really proud of you.
Love Sal xx
Dont mess up the best things in your life, just because at present you are unsure who you are.
alexis: i just registered here, i was reading your thread, it was like a mystery. would you or wouldnt you:) your thread reads like my life. i was shocked when i got to the last page and you went, you really did it. congrats to you!!!!!!! good for you. i hope i can make that step one of these days.
nomorepanic
06-06-05, 21:28
Hi Linda
Just wanted to welcome you aboard the forum and hope we can be of some help to you too.
Nicola
"Nearly all happiness comes into our lives through doors we don't even remember leaving open"
Hi Linda, welcome aboard, at the time I really didnt know if I would do it but the feeling afterwards was great, it was extremely hard but I came to a point of make or break type of thing.I decided I was going to make. I was missing out on life, family and friends.
It wasent long after posting this I posted one about "getting better "because this convinced me I was.
I didnt put about my blu tac and elastic bands which I still go nowhere without, also because i had come to know some people on this site ,whilst stood in church I imagined them to be there.Supporting me.
I hope you can do the same linda, Im sure you will, I thought it was impossible at one stage, so good luck and feel free to pm me if there is anything i can do to help.
Linda ,
Welcome
Do post in the introductions about your own circumstances
when you're ready.
Meg
www.anxietymanagementltd.com
Watch your thoughts, they become your words...
Watch your words, they become your actions... Watch your actions, they become your habits... Watch your habits, they become your character... Watch your character, it becomes your destiny...
Alexis
Well done
Linda do post us when you feel ready and we will help you all we can.
Love Sal xx
Dont mess up the best things in your life, just because at present you are unsure who you are.
A HUGE DONE ALexis sorry I'm a bit slow Glad you did it! Yipeee!
Take care,
Love PIP'S XX
Yes, well done Alexis - I missed out on this story last month.
I bet you felt a sense of acheivement.
Way to Go!
(see you by the pool later lol)
Ray
Don't wait around for other people to be happy for you. Any happiness you get you've got to make yourself.--Alice Walker
You have done great and i will be in touch soon.
Love Sal xx
Dont mess up the best things in your life, just because at present you are unsure who you are.
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