angoisse
19-08-08, 17:26
Hello everyone!
I just wanted to ask for some advice, or to see if anyone was ever in a similar situation. A friend of my partner and mine recently had a fire in her apartment, so we offered to put her up at our place for as long as she needs. The thing is, she's much more of a friend to my partner than she is to me, and she is not aware of my anxiety issues. It is true that in comparison to last year, my anxiety is more manageable, but generally once a day I feel anxious and it shows--I don't really pay attention to people around me and I breathe funny etc. I'm not referring to panic attacks, as those are fortunately very rare for me, but it's as though I am never relaxed--there is a constant anxious buzz. Also, I am emetophobic and although (again) I am feeling much better about that as I have in the past, worries related to it have been creeping up on me more and more often lately (another thing that makes me worry even more because I really don't want to be where I was last year with my emetophobia).
Generally my writing is a lot more structured and the fact that this post isn't bothers me. Oh my, I suppose I'm just in a strange mood. In regards to the friend staying over, do you suggest I talk to her right off the bat about my anxiety and to let her know that if I seem weird or something, it's probably due to that? Or should I wait for a circumstance when I'm feeling particularly anxious? Or just not tell her at all?
Help?
Thanks,
angoisse
I just wanted to ask for some advice, or to see if anyone was ever in a similar situation. A friend of my partner and mine recently had a fire in her apartment, so we offered to put her up at our place for as long as she needs. The thing is, she's much more of a friend to my partner than she is to me, and she is not aware of my anxiety issues. It is true that in comparison to last year, my anxiety is more manageable, but generally once a day I feel anxious and it shows--I don't really pay attention to people around me and I breathe funny etc. I'm not referring to panic attacks, as those are fortunately very rare for me, but it's as though I am never relaxed--there is a constant anxious buzz. Also, I am emetophobic and although (again) I am feeling much better about that as I have in the past, worries related to it have been creeping up on me more and more often lately (another thing that makes me worry even more because I really don't want to be where I was last year with my emetophobia).
Generally my writing is a lot more structured and the fact that this post isn't bothers me. Oh my, I suppose I'm just in a strange mood. In regards to the friend staying over, do you suggest I talk to her right off the bat about my anxiety and to let her know that if I seem weird or something, it's probably due to that? Or should I wait for a circumstance when I'm feeling particularly anxious? Or just not tell her at all?
Help?
Thanks,
angoisse