Bill
02-09-08, 02:49
Something minor happened the other day which really got to me!
I was talking to my wifes father on the phone and we were talking about the past and my really bad spell when I was struggling to cope with my wifes illness.
He said to me "I don't want to cause you embarrassment, but you remember when you used to self harm...............". Immediately I thought to myself WHY should I feel embarrassed? WHY should he think I'd Be embarrassed? WHAT did I do that should make me feel embarrassed?
It made me feel really angry! It was His daughter's illness that caused me to self harm! He used to have to cope with her illness so surely he should understand what caused me to self harm!
Is there any real difference between self harming, needing a drink or wanting to hit a pillow to dull the pain of life?
If someone broke a leg, would you say I don't want to cause embarrassment by talking about your broken leg!?
What made it worse was that it was HIS daughter and he Knew what her illness is like! I found it incredible that he should should show so little understanding when his family has suffered mental illness.
If someone said to me they'd self harmed, I would understand them and their reasons and not use his attitude. What a nerve!:mad:
I was talking to my wifes father on the phone and we were talking about the past and my really bad spell when I was struggling to cope with my wifes illness.
He said to me "I don't want to cause you embarrassment, but you remember when you used to self harm...............". Immediately I thought to myself WHY should I feel embarrassed? WHY should he think I'd Be embarrassed? WHAT did I do that should make me feel embarrassed?
It made me feel really angry! It was His daughter's illness that caused me to self harm! He used to have to cope with her illness so surely he should understand what caused me to self harm!
Is there any real difference between self harming, needing a drink or wanting to hit a pillow to dull the pain of life?
If someone broke a leg, would you say I don't want to cause embarrassment by talking about your broken leg!?
What made it worse was that it was HIS daughter and he Knew what her illness is like! I found it incredible that he should should show so little understanding when his family has suffered mental illness.
If someone said to me they'd self harmed, I would understand them and their reasons and not use his attitude. What a nerve!:mad: