scared of councelling tomorrow

[mrsdebbie]

hi, i start councelling tommorow and am wetting myself i was wondering if anybody can tell me what to expect? i dont know whats going to happen and am getting myself worked up. i am not very good at talking about i feel i have always kept things hidden and kept problems to myself but i have to do whatever it takes to make myself better i just scared i wont be able to handle it. i have writen everything down so they can read it though which is a massive thing in itself. i just really need to know whats going to happen when i get there so i can prepare myself.

[Divinely Desolate]

hi mrs debbie, there is absolutely no need to be afraid of the councellor tommorow i'm sure as many will agree they are very friendly, comforting and you feel very much at ease when you greet them!, so you'll be fine ! when i first met mine (4 sessions ago) she made me a tea straight away! hehe but they will probably start off asking things of anxiety in general and take things slowly at your pace, and will be very understanding so you will be fine! :) x

[mrsdebbie]

thanks very much for replying, what do you mean asking of anxiety? will they ask why im anxious or what ways i show it, i sorry if i asking too much i know each one going to be different, mine is in the doctors, i just kind of need to know what they will ask or want me to talk about, i went councelling when i was about 15 but only went one session it freaked me out too much so i couldnt go back

[Divinely Desolate]

no they won't ask ya things if you don't feel comfortable saying, for me they just asked how i am and my feelings to start with and gave me a relaxation cd and excerpts from a book, its really nothing to worry about, i promise you! :)

[mrsdebbie]

cool, that doesnt sound like what i was expecting lol, i can do that especially if i get relaxation cd... beats a lolly and a sticker lol i do actually feel slightly less worried now, thanks x

[titchjd]

Hiya m8 ....its understandable u feel anxious idid aswell as its something new .
all councellors are different but they are there 2 help you ..Mine is at my docs aswell as Had 2 others cancel .

U only have 2 answer what u feel comfortable with aswell so dont feel pressured at all ...sometimes we have 2 give in alittle 2 help ourselves but if u feel uncomfortable or its not what u feel will hlp u can ask 4 another councillor .
the 1 im seeing now I didnt like at 1st but I think it was because I had barrier up and was fighting anything she said ,but after a while I understood what she was saying was2 help me .

just go 2 moz with open mind and remember they are there 2 help ...please let us know how u get on xxxxxxxxx

big hugs and best wishes xxxx
Titch xxx

[mrsdebbie]

ok i will thanks to you both, and titch i will let ya know how it goes. im very gratefull for both of your help

[mrsdebbie]

well..... i over slept which made me more anxious as i wanted to prepare.. felt like i was going to have a heart attack on way there. got there.. and the person i was seeing was off sick!!!!!!! they had been trying to ring yesterday.. i was not going to mention in a room of people i actually cant answer phones. so now i have to wait for another appointment and go through it all again. i cant believe it

[titchjd]

Oh m8 ..wot a dissapointment .......just look at it though as it just wasnt ment 2 be .....my 1st 2 lots of CBT were cancelled and I was so annoyed but My councellor at docs is doing it herself now and she brill so in a way im glad they were cancelled now .

How long u got 2 wait have they said ....also as u overslept u prob wasnt in the right frame of mind and not got out of it what you needed 2 x

so chin up and a big hug from me
u did well 2 get there in the 1st place x


Titch xxx

[anxiety.pro]

Hi Mrs Debbie,

The most important thing on your counsellors mind will be for you to feel as comfortable as possible. They will fully expect you to be apprehensive and nervous, the secret is............. that's normal :)

A great counsellor will allow you to talk as much or as little as you like in your first session. Remember, these are your sessions.

Congratulations for taking a huge step on the road to your feeling good again. Just writing everything down is a great exercise to set you on the right track.

Imagine how you'll feel looking back in a few weeks and seeing how much difference it's made in your life.

Keep us informed of how you get on!

Good luck and be well
Mark

[mrsdebbie]

thanks very much titch, i was mortified but dont mind now, your right i wouldnt have said all i need to say, there is more i want to add to my list. not got another appointment.. apparently she will ring me i just hope she leaves message as i wont answer phone, if she leaves message i might try ring her back myself rather than get hubby to do it for me. hope your well titch.

[mrsdebbie]

thanks mark :)

[Divinely Desolate]

thanks very much titch, i was mortified but dont mind now, your right i wouldnt have said all i need to say, there is more i want to add to my list. not got another appointment.. apparently she will ring me i just hope she leaves message as i wont answer phone, if she leaves message i might try ring her back myself rather than get hubby to do it for me. hope your well titch.


It’s a shame she wasn’t there for you at your appointment but very well done actually getting there mate, in a way I noticed yesterday you said that you can’t answer the phone but today you said you will try and I bet ya you will phone her back, instead of getting your hubby to call, so your making good steps already and your confidence is getting better :) , and when you get your appointment, I’m very sure she will be a big help to ya, so all is well! So well done again and let us know how things go in the future, :yesyes:

[mrsdebbie]

thanks for support divinely, i am trying to go forward, last week i went to town with hubby and i went and got something from superdrug on my own, i didnt like it lol but i did do it. i nowhere near going or coming back on own but its a start. hope your well :)

[kendo59]

Expect every cliche you've ever read/seen, or heard about.

The bare room, with 2 chairs facing each other, the small table with just a box of tissues and the timer/alarm-clock to tell the counsellor when your time is up (to the nearest minute). The questionnaire asking questions such as "Have you had suicidal thoughts, or thoughts of violence or hurting others lately", and see how long it takes for the counsellor to ask if you hate your mother (in my case it was about 4 mins).

Just remember, sometimes a cigar is just a cigar.

[mrsdebbie]

lol do you hate your mother?? my god hope they got better than that for me i love my mum to bits, think i already done the questionaire for doctor.. was a tick list? oh well thanks for info :):)